I'm embarrassed

I broke up with the father of my 2nd child due to him not being able to COMMIT to the relationship or the baby. He keeps going back and forth between wanting to be involved and wanting me to 'leave him alone'.

Lately I've been getting messages from 'mutual' friends on Facebook telling me how he is adding 'little' girls. When I saw little I mean they are 16-18 years old. Just graduated high school I think two or three were still IN high school. I am 23 and he is 22, I am actually embarrassed that people know he is the father of my child. I feel like I look like an ass having someone like that play such a MAJOR role in my life. Even if he isn't around people still know I am pregnant with his child. What do I say?

He's embarrassing himself, not you.
No one will look at you or your child and think "Ew, he made that." or "Ew, she slept with him."
They'll look at you two and see how big of a screw up he is to have lost you two for some slutty teenagers.
Don't stress it. I know a few guys who are like that and no one thinks differently of their kids or their baby's moms because of the way the guy acts.

Quoting S&T+1:" He's embarrassing himself, not you. No one will look at you or your child and think "Ew, he made that." ... [snip!] ... a few guys who are like that and no one thinks differently of their kids or their baby's moms because of the way the guy acts."

I just feel so stressed about it. Thank you though =) its so weird to me - like the 18 year olds i can almost handle lol but the ones that are only a year or so older then my brother is just too much for me. Like - you are about to be a father - imagine someone was looking at your daughter like that!! UGH gah !

LOL...I'm only laughing because my ex HUSBAND was/is the same way. I was never embarrassed by it. I just know he is stupid as hell and me, his brother, and sister in law make fun of him non-stop about his pathetic choices.

Quoting Miss Ashley +2:" I just feel so stressed about it. Thank you though =) its so weird to me - like the 18 year olds i can ... [snip!] ... just too much for me. Like - you are about to be a father - imagine someone was looking at your daughter like that!! UGH gah !"

I know exactly what you mean. Guys can be idiots sometimes. I know a 30 year old man who just had a little girl a few months ago and is now having another baby with a 18 year old. I don't understand how they CAN'T think about their daughters the whole time they're messing around with younger girls. How doesn't having a daughter make them treat women how they would want their daughters to be treated?
Guys.  

Quoting *B & D Mommy*:" LOL...I'm only laughing because my ex HUSBAND was/is the same way. I was never embarrassed by it. I just ... [snip!] ... I just know he is stupid as hell and me, his brother, and sister in law make fun of him non-stop about his pathetic choices. "

I wish I had someone to laugh at about this - but I just have people like feeling 'remorse' for me and the situation.

Quoting S&T+1:" I know exactly what you mean. Guys can be idiots sometimes. I know a 30 year old man who just had a ... [snip!] ... girls. How doesn't having a daughter make them treat women how they would want their daughters to be treated? Guys.  "

Exactly - like i couldn't have a 18 year old son and be dating a 19 year old ..... its jsut odd to me.

I know how you feel . I was on a online dating site and my daughters dad was sealing his body for sex to guys on there . I do not want anyone even knowing that she is his daughter pretty gross

Quoting Lyric and Treyes MOM:" I know how you feel . I was on a online dating site and my daughters dad was sealing his body for sex to guys on there . I do not want anyone even knowing that she is his daughter pretty gross"

oh my gawd ................... my jaw legit just dropped. I'm so sorry! Thats insane !!!

Oh don't feel embarassed at all! If anything laugh at him, and say good riddance. It's obviously his loss big time and everyone can see that he's the one with the issue and not you.. Ya know?

You're staying strong and doing what you have to do while he is doing... That.

Don't feel embarassed, feel happy that you are no longer with him  

Quoting Miss Ashley +2:" oh my gawd ................... my jaw legit just dropped. I'm so sorry! Thats insane !!!

Yup so don't feel bad

<blockquote><b>Quoting mama erica.:</b>" Oh don't feel embarassed at all! If anything laugh at him, and say good riddance. It's obviously his ... [snip!] ... and doing what you have to do while he is doing... That. Don't feel embarassed, feel happy that you are no longer with him  "</blockquote>




Truth!!

The father of my 2nd child has decided to leave me halfway through my pregnancy. Even though he has yet to officially end our relationship as he needs time to "think", i have already been sent links to 2 sex sites where he has put his profile up! I am feeling embarassment and humiliation by it! But i will not let his pathetic behaviour stress me out when i am pregnant.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jodie Gorman:</b>" The father of my 2nd child has decided to leave me halfway through my pregnancy. Even though he has yet ... [snip!] ... I am feeling embarassment and humiliation by it! But i will not let his pathetic behaviour stress me out when i am pregnant."</blockquote>




Ugh. I hate that these "men" can just walk away to "think"..........meanwhile where can I go to think????? I'm pretty sure when I said "hey I'm pregnant what do you want to do?" THAT was the time to "THINK" about anything you needed to think about. Ugh meanwhile this assclown was the one that wanted to keep the baby and was picking names and rubbing my belly and was talking to the baby and then one day woke up and it wasn't his baby anymore and it must be my daughters fathers baby! Annoyed.