Quoting Coupon Lady:" <blockquote><b>Quoting *B & D Mommy*:</b>" Could you imagine how difficult that would ... [snip!] ... him and baby high and dry at the hospital to be never seen again left him with 4 kids under 5 and NB. The kids would be fine."
I was raised by a single dad who was very loving and did a wonderful job with us but I still grew up with the feeling that if my mom didn't love me and she was supposed to be the one who gave us unconditional love than who could? That's how I felt as a kid. Even though my dad told us each and every day how much he loved us and we had a fantastic stepmom it still left a huge hole.
But without my sister it would have been so much worse. It is different than starting a new family or step siblings because only your sibling from your family of origin really understands how you feel and the connection just is not the same. Me and my sister are only a year apart and are very close and NEEDED each other growing up and during my parents divorce. Please do not seperate your kids, seriously. Talk to a family counsleor or a family lawyer for advice!