re: Detailed Sex Ed in middle school

Quoting khigh:" We got our sex talk in religious education through the Catholic Church. Nuns and priests talking about sex. For my period talk, my mom just handed me a book and told me that it would explain it all."

what kind of sex talk does a catholic church give?

Quoting Mel & a girl named Pey:" Oh I bet that was fun! lol My mom never told me the mechanics but she never opted me out of classes ... [snip!] ... want her to be a hormonal, emotionally unstable teen giving birth to a stillborn baby and having to figure out how to cope!"

it freaked me out, lmao. I was thinking that it would hurt (like the constant blood flow). ugh  

Quoting £egendary Zeppelin:" what kind of sex talk does a catholic church give?"

Abstitence only. Sex is for procreation. We saw a pro-life video and talked about hormonal birth control being wrong. I think most orthodox religions teach it that way.

Quoting ~Julie Blue Eyes~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mel & a girl named Pey:</b>" So you don't think it's good ... [snip!] ... realize not everybody thinks like me. I'm okay with the opt in/out thing, because it would never be forced on my child, then."

I think we all think like you in this post BUT we also know that a lot of parents that should talk to their children just don't do it. One of my best friends moms was even naive enough to let her b/f spend the night and at 14 yrs old she came to my house scared because her mom was angry and pulled the phone out of the wall because she was pregnant. In an ideal world all parents would use smart tactics on the topic of sex and teaching their children but it just doesn't happen.

Quoting khigh:" She will learn about it from me. Her parent. The one responsible for her upbringing. Not by a school ... [snip!] ... be going on any unchaperoned dates until she is 16. It's a tenet of my religion. Unchaperoned females with males is a no no."

Why not home school her then? If education is that much better heard from the parent, no matter what kind of training they have/don't have, then just take her out of it completely. Don't even give her the option of being in a school. Hell, don't even let her see boys until she's old enough to get married, if you're that serious about abstinence.

Quoting khigh:" Abstitence only. Sex is for procreation. We saw a pro-life video and talked about hormonal birth control being wrong. I think most orthodox religions teach it that way."

do you believe that BC is wrong also?

Quoting Chroma Hex [+1]:" Why not home school her then? If education is that much better heard from the parent, no matter what ... [snip!] ... in a school. Hell, don't even let her see boys until she's old enough to get married, if you're that serious about abstinence."

She goes to a private school (non religious) where all of the parents have a meeting once a month to discuss and vote on what we want taught that month. I would home school if I could, but with leaving the country for a year in January, it's not feasible.

Quoting Mel & a girl named Pey:" I think we all think like you in this post BUT we also know that a lot of parents that should talk ... [snip!] ... an ideal world all parents would use smart tactics on the topic of sex and teaching their children but it just doesn't happen."

I will talk to my child about it but I know I am not a qualified teacher so I don't mind them getting the most information they can. I don't see it as 'lazy' at all.

Quoting £egendary Zeppelin:" do you believe that BC is wrong also?"

I personally use natural family planning in my life and don't take hormonal birth control. Anything that would hinder a fertilized egg from attaching to the wall of the uterus is wrong in the principles of ahisma because we believe that life starts at conception.

Quoting khigh:" I personally use natural family planning in my life and don't take hormonal birth control. Anything ... [snip!] ... attaching to the wall of the uterus is wrong in the principles of ahisma because we believe that life starts at conception."

what about if your daughter wanted it?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mel & a girl named Pey:</b>" I think we all think like you in this post BUT we also know that a lot of parents that should talk ... [snip!] ... an ideal world all parents would use smart tactics on the topic of sex and teaching their children but it just doesn't happen."</blockquote>



I still think it is a parenting issue.

It's really none of my concern, policing other parents and their parenting techniques. In this case, I don't think it's a schools (governments) place to do so, either.

I still think it's lazy parenting to have your kids sexual education come from total strangers.

Quoting £egendary Zeppelin:" I will talk to my child about it but I know I am not a qualified teacher so I don't mind them getting the most information they can. I don't see it as 'lazy' at all. "

Just go buy the book Where Did I Come From? lol That book is CRAZY but very informative. lol Go google images...it has picks from the book! lol Only thing it, it looks like it's aimed for like 5 year olds!  

Quoting khigh:" I personally use natural family planning in my life and don't take hormonal birth control. Anything ... [snip!] ... attaching to the wall of the uterus is wrong in the principles of ahisma because we believe that life starts at conception."

What happens if your child comes home pregnant in middle school or high school?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mel & a girl named Pey:</b>" It does help to be open with them. My best friend even gave her daughter the option to come to me if ... [snip!] ... straight to the ob/gyn. It is still hard for some kids so I definitely think giving them someone else to go to is a good idea. "</blockquote>




Well of course it is a better way to go but you shouldn't expect that your kids will come to you just because you left the door open. That was my only point.

Quoting £egendary Zeppelin:" what about if your daughter wanted it?"

I would not provide it for her. If she wants to seek it out on her own, fine, but I would prefer her to use something that prevents the sperm from reaching the egg (condoms) or abstinence rather than something that prevents a fertilized egg from implanting.