re: Detailed Sex Ed in middle school

Quoting Autumn Whisper:" It makes sense, though, doesn't it? I heard it some time ago."

It does.

Quoting Milk Monster:" Yeah as soon as my son shows an interest in girls I'm buying him condoms and talking to him same for my daughter but she'll get condoms and put on b/c."

Start talking early. Keep it age-appropriate. I don't necessarily think the answer is to just PUT a daughter on birth control, unless she's already acting out. It is a medication and not always appropriate for every individual. It also might give her the message that you don't trust her to make her own choice in that respect.

If the dialogue is open, make it clear that she can come to you. You won't ask questions, and you won't judge her. If she comes to you, you'll take her to the doctor and put her on the right birth control for her. That way, it is her choice, rather than you saying you don't trust her to be able to control herself.

Do you get what I'm saying?

Obviously, if she's already acting out and at risk, another approach is the answer, but if she is in general a good kid...that's my feelings on it.

Quoting Milk Monster:" LMFAO. If you ask me sex should be one of the smaller things that we should be worrying about our ... [snip!] ... keep on popping up everywhere? How are we supposed to protect them and keep them safe from something we don't even know exists?"

By teaching them to respect themselves and their futures enough not to smurf around with stuff that can mess up EVERYTHING. Start early! Teach them their value. Teach them the value of an education and hard work. Teach them the value of themselves. And respecting you and their elders is important, too, because they don't want to disappoint you.

Quoting Autumn Whisper:" Start talking early. Keep it age-appropriate. I don't necessarily think the answer is to just PUT ... [snip!] ... already acting out and at risk, another approach is the answer, but if she is in general a good kid...that's my feelings on it."

Yes, that is what I meant.   Obviously if she feels no need to be on it I wont put her on it. My mom did that to me and I decided to have sex just for that simple fact.

Quoting Autumn Whisper:" It makes sense, though, doesn't it? I heard it some time ago."

makes perfect sense. I seriously cringe when parents give their kids' parts 'cutesy' names. just... no

Quoting £egendary Zeppelin:" makes perfect sense. I seriously cringe when parents give their kids' parts 'cutesy' names. just... no"

I have to wonder about the logic of calling a vagina a cupcake or a biscuit. But yeah....

I have a couple nieces with "teetees." As apparently that was common to the family and I was a late-comer to the whole thing, it was a major wtf moment for me.

Quoting Autumn Whisper:" I have to wonder about the logic of calling a vagina a cupcake or a biscuit. But yeah.... I have ... [snip!] ... As apparently that was common to the family and I was a late-comer to the whole thing, it was a major wtf moment for me."

There is no smurfing way I could refer to a vagina as a 'teetee' lmfao. Ohmahgawd. Not even call a penis a 'peepee.' Because pee is, well, pee.

Quoting Autumn Whisper:" By teaching them to respect themselves and their futures enough not to smurf around with stuff that ... [snip!] ... them the value of themselves. And respecting you and their elders is important, too, because they don't want to disappoint you."

I like you.  

Quoting £egendary Zeppelin:" There is no smurfing way I could refer to a vagina as a 'teetee' lmfao. Ohmahgawd. Not even call a penis a 'peepee.' Because pee is, well, pee."

lol He was the one who called it a peepee because he wouldn't say penis. It got stuck in my head and we use them both. But I've often wondered about that one, too, and snickered at the same logic. Especially when I ask him to go peepee in the potty. Ah, the English language, so much fun, especially when we make up words.

I don't even know how anyone came up with teetee, but the first couple times I heard it, I thought I was hearing wrong (I am not from the South and they all are, so I thought it was a trick of the accents I was still getting used to). But no. That was a new one on me.

Quoting Milk Monster:" I like you.   "

LOL Thank you. I get a lot of crap for it, but I really think this is the root of avoiding teenage problems, and it starts at birth!

Education, respect, and open communication.

Quoting Autumn Whisper:" lol He was the one who called it a peepee because he wouldn't say penis. It got stuck in my head and ... [snip!] ... and they all are, so I thought it was a trick of the accents I was still getting used to). But no. That was a new one on me."

oh I must've missed where you said your son calls it a peepee   I was just saying that as an example.

It'd be hard for me not to bust out laughing at that though LOL

Quoting £egendary Zeppelin:" oh I must've missed where you said your son calls it a peepee   I was just saying that as an example. It'd be hard for me not to bust out laughing at that though LOL"

He quite enthusiastically uses either peepee or penis to refer to it. He's 3 1/2. LOL

I think Biscuit is worse, though. I mean...calling female genitalia food? I heard that one on Honey Boo Boo. "We call it a biscuit, because, you know, it looks like a biscuit." Ugh.

Quoting Autumn Whisper:" LOL Thank you. I get a lot of crap for it, but I really think this is the root of avoiding teenage problems, and it starts at birth! Education, respect, and open communication."

Really you get crap for it?! I love it. Because of you my kids will have a bit of a better upbringing. I'm not being sarcastic. I love what you said and intend to use your words of wisdom to my advantage.

Quoting Autumn Whisper:" He quite enthusiastically uses either peepee or penis to refer to it. He's 3 1/2. LOL I think Biscuit ... [snip!] ... genitalia food? I heard that one on Honey Boo Boo. "We call it a biscuit, because, you know, it looks like a biscuit." Ugh."

tha smurf       


doesn't look anything like a biscuit to me  

Quoting £egendary Zeppelin:" tha smurf        doesn't look anything like a biscuit to me  "

Bahaha I was about to post saying no matter how I bend to look at it... it doesn't look like a biscuit to me!