Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" Like it or not, you ARE a homewrecket If he loved you, he'd leave her. "

gah i hate this smurf, the home is already wrecked, by him.
she is dumb enough to think he loves her is all.

Quoting cunning cuniculi:" gah i hate this smurf, the home is already wrecked, by him. she is dumb enough to think he loves her is all. "

Smurf like this gives females a bad name.

How can someone be so blind?

Quoting ~Loving Strong~:" I dont know if she knows about me but I know about her. I dont want to be a "home wrecker" though. SO I am out looking for advice. I do love this man very much and vice versa. "

then if that is true, you need to stop it, let him clear up his business and then be together.
This is not the way to start a relationship. You are playing with deadly fire girl

His live in know her only as his co worker and friend.

Quoting Shannonsfirst:" then if that is true, you need to stop it, let him clear up his business and then be together. This is not the way to start a relationship. You are playing with deadly fire girl"

So your saying I need to lay off till he leaves her?

Quoting ~Loving Strong~:" His live in know me only as his co worker and friend."

And you're okay with being "the other woman"?

That's sad. You should have more respect for relationships and definitely more respect for yourself.

Quoting ~Loving Strong~:" So your saying I need to lay off till he leaves her?"

"if" he leaves her. Even then, I wouldn't touch him after that. Unless you want him to leave you for some other woman too.

Quoting ~Loving Strong~:" So your saying I need to lay off till he leaves her?"

I think EVERYONE is saying you should lay off.....

Quoting Nicola =):" "if" he leaves her. Even then, I wouldn't touch him after that. Unless you want him to leave you for some other woman too."

VERY well said!

ALso if any people have been or is in this kind of relationship I would really like to talk about your experiences and such. I just want to make sure I make a right desicison and not something that I will regret.

Quoting ~Loving Strong~:" So your saying I need to lay off till he leaves her?"

um..yeah! Hun...if he'll do this to her, he WILL do it to you.
You two are so happy cause its all new, exciting. He cant break with her cause they have history, they live together, there more involved.
He needs to man up, get his head together before dragging your head and heart into it.

Quoting ~Loving Strong~:" ALso if any people have been or is in this kind of relationship I would really like to talk about your ... [snip!] ... talk about your experiences and such. I just want to make sure I make a right desicison and not something that I will regret. "

I don't want to seem rude... I just don't think you are understanding.

Why would you even want to keep going with this "relationship" you have with him. He is obviously going home every night to another woman. Even if he says he loves you and wants to be with you he is going home to HER.
He is lying to you both... and you deserve better. The other lady deserves better too.

Quoting ~Loving Strong~:" ALso if any people have been or is in this kind of relationship I would really like to talk about your ... [snip!] ... talk about your experiences and such. I just want to make sure I make a right desicison and not something that I will regret. "

it should be something you already regret! ive been the woman at home before, never the other woman, but ill say this from my experience end it now before you end with some one like me at your door step.

I am a torn heart inside right now. I want to do the right thing. but in the same sense I want to be happy and right now I am happy. I know its may seem selfish and wrong but when I am with him it seems so right. its like she isnt even apart of this. I know it may seem bad but I thought about telling her about myself.

Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" So he is cheating on his GF with you? Scum. And you're just as bad for sleeping with a guy in a relationship"