Sex Vent.

Ugh. So lately my So and I havent really had sex, and when we do its so freaking routine... and its all work that comes from me, but he expects me to want to get turned on... how the heck if ur doing nothing. Like literally he will make comments about having sex, and then when it comes time, he just puts his arm out and expects me to come over and kiss him and do everything... its really frustrating me lately. It would be nice to once in awhile not have to do everything myself gah! I seriously dont know what to do, ive brought it up and all he says is " im sorry i dont go down on you as much as you go down on me" UHH THATS NOT EVEN HALF OF WHAT IM TALKING ABOUT. I dont even know how to explain what I am asking for, but i dont want to be sitting there and scheduling sex when we both have a pretty open schedule. Gah

Be more descriptive. Instead of saying, "I dont like doing all the work" say, "I dont like always being on top [or what have you]." If that doesnt work, tell him point blank that you're not satisfied with the sex and you want to try other things to spice it back up.

So...you want more foreplay? Tell him to turn you on, kiss your neck, nibble your ears, whatever makes you want to jump on him and hump. Hes not a mind reader, he cant tell whats bugging you unless you express what you want. If the sex is lacking then tell him, otherwise you'll be faking orgasms or doing all the work yourself the rest of you life. Tell him you want to try some new things, get a toy, buy some new lube, spice it up!

Quoting Binky ♡:" So...you want more foreplay? Tell him to turn you on, kiss your neck, nibble your ears, whatever makes ... [snip!] ... the work yourself the rest of you life. Tell him you want to try some new things, get a toy, buy some new lube, spice it up!"

yeah ive tried telling him more fore play and he just says he is doing his best.... but its like hes given up and its getting to the point where its almost hard for me to get off because im not turned on enough.

Quoting SophiaR's_Mommy:" yeah ive tried telling him more fore play and he just says he is doing his best.... but its like hes ... [snip!] ... but its like hes given up and its getting to the point where its almost hard for me to get off because im not turned on enough."

I'm assuming the sex hasnt always been like this?

Quoting shes.so.vain:" I'm assuming the sex hasnt always been like this?"

Not at all. it used to be intense and outta nowhere and lasted more then 10 seconds of foreplay and then sex. Its annoying the crap out of me. I feel like a selfish bitch if i bring it up, but its like im to the point where im just gonna start faking so he thinks I am getting off so i dont even have to try and be exhausted.

Quoting SophiaR's_Mommy:" yeah ive tried telling him more fore play and he just says he is doing his best.... but its like hes ... [snip!] ... but its like hes given up and its getting to the point where its almost hard for me to get off because im not turned on enough."

If hes slacking then you need to tell him to stop being so lazy, sex is a two way street, otherwise you're going to start hating sex and it may become nonexistent.

Quoting SophiaR's_Mommy:" Not at all. it used to be intense and outta nowhere and lasted more then 10 seconds of foreplay and ... [snip!] ... im to the point where im just gonna start faking so he thinks I am getting off so i dont even have to try and be exhausted."

If you know he can do better and he's not, then it sounds like he's just being lazy, IMO. Tell him you're not believing the "I'm doing my best" crap because he's been better before. But ask yourself this, are YOU doing anything spicy or are you doing the same routine too?

Quoting SophiaR's_Mommy:" Not at all. it used to be intense and outta nowhere and lasted more then 10 seconds of foreplay and ... [snip!] ... im to the point where im just gonna start faking so he thinks I am getting off so i dont even have to try and be exhausted."

Dont fake it! If hes not pleasing you then let it be known, how is he suppose to know your not enjoying the sex if you're faking it. Ive seen marriages end because the sex dried up. If hes up for new things then try it, it cant hurt. It might even help to have a date night, give the kids away and try some new things. Dress sexy, try and meet his needs while telling him what to do to you, it might change things.

Quoting shes.so.vain:" If you know he can do better and he's not, then it sounds like he's just being lazy, IMO. Tell him you're ... [snip!] ... because he's been better before. But ask yourself this, are YOU doing anything spicy or are you doing the same routine too?"

I have tried changing it up but it still stays the same from his side of it. Once time i met him at the door with sexy clothes on and as soon as he walked in started kissing him and taking his clothes off... i send him dirrty pictures and sexy texts and stuff... still nothing..

Quoting SophiaR's_Mommy:" I have tried changing it up but it still stays the same from his side of it. Once time i met him at ... [snip!] ... in started kissing him and taking his clothes off... i send him dirrty pictures and sexy texts and stuff... still nothing.."

Yeah, I'd definitely have a serious talk with him. You cant just fake it for the rest of your life, because one day you're going to get tired of it, and bring it up and he's going to feel totally blindsided by it.

Quoting shes.so.vain:" Yeah, I'd definitely have a serious talk with him. You cant just fake it for the rest of your life, ... [snip!] ... your life, because one day you're going to get tired of it, and bring it up and he's going to feel totally blindsided by it. "

ugh. its like talking to a wall. fml.

Quoting SophiaR's_Mommy:" ugh. its like talking to a wall. fml."

go on a sex strike. lol until he can man up and listen to what your needs are, cut him off.

Quoting shes.so.vain:" go on a sex strike. lol until he can man up and listen to what your needs are, cut him off."

bahahahahahahaha i might have to try that.