Quoting Δ ☮ ∂:" I haven't either. I always hear about these calm spankings ("This hurts me more than it hurts you, this ... [snip!] ... the first threat I hear out of people's mouths "Do you want a spanking? Then get over here/sit down/stop touching that" etc. "
I don't threaten with a spanking first. Like if Elly is doing soemthing she shouldn't be, I'll say " Elly stop, please don't do that, " if she doesn't listen.. I'll say " Elly, Mommy has asked you to not do that bc its wrong/not nice/mean/rude(depending what she's doind) and if you continue you are gonna get into trouble" If she doesn't listen then its a time out for 5 mins, and IF she continues after a timeout, she gets a spanking. But it usually doesn't go past "your gonna get in trouble"
Now I have seen it really bad. I was at the bakery about 2 wks ago, a lady is there with her 2 kids.. they are probally 4 and 6 (boys) well they kept poking the bread, after she said stop twice ,and the 3rd time time she says...well kinda yells "If YOU 2 DON'T STOP I AM GONNA BEAT YOUR SmUrfING ASS RIGHT HERE!" They did stop for a few mins and then kept on, she grabbed them by their hands and walked fast to the car without buying break/snacks. I just don't agree with talking to children like that...but I guess for some pple its just words*sighs*