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I would take it as a life experience. I don't think two kids later was a waste of time!

Its a wasted experience lol. For real though it does seem like you wasted time all those years but its the experience that molds who you are.

Hell, if you want to leave, just leave. You dont need to stick around for 5 years to prove that you tried. lol I was with my ex for 4 1/2 years and I think it was an experience. it taught me a lot about myself and what i really wanted out of a relationship, but i think everyone has that feeling of, "it was such a waste of time."

Quoting Buffy♥:" I would take it as a life experience. I don't think two kids later was a waste of time!"

It's just so scary.. I honestly do love him, and then there are times I am in love with him, but then I get into these long term moods where I feel like the relationship is pointless.
I'm not even sexually attracted to him any more, and it makes him mad that I won't have sex with him.  

I would just say it was a good experience and move on. I don't think it's a waste of time if you got 2 children and 5 years out of a relationship.

Feeling like this makes me want to cry, I feel guilty. This totally sucks balls.

Quoting Kimber-Lily:" Feeling like this makes me want to cry, I feel guilty. This totally sucks balls. "

Theres no reason to feel guilty. I love my husband and he'll always have a place in my heart but his place in my heart seems to get smaller and smaller. Its not your fault that you feel the way you do

Quoting Kimber-Lily:" It's just so scary.. I honestly do love him, and then there are times I am in love with him, but then ... [snip!] ... is pointless. I'm not even sexually attracted to him any more, and it makes him mad that I won't have sex with him.  "

I feel that way with DH a lot. Have you maybe talked to your doctor about it? Sometimes there can be underlying issues for not having a sex drive anymore

Quoting Buffy♥:" I feel that way with DH a lot. Have you maybe talked to your doctor about it? Sometimes there can be underlying issues for not having a sex drive anymore"

I think it's just my SO. It's hard to be attracted to someone with no motivation for anything. And his weight gain bothers me, and I try to be nice about it and mention it on how we should diet and exercise. He just doesn't care.

Quoting Kimber-Lily:" I think it's just my SO. It's hard to be attracted to someone with no motivation for anything. And his ... [snip!] ... weight gain bothers me, and I try to be nice about it and mention it on how we should diet and exercise. He just doesn't care. "

I'm in the same boat. Sometimes I can look at him or see him do something and be like, "Gosh, I love that man!!" but then other times I can't stand to be around him...leaving hasn't crossed my mind though. I think I'm depressed and that's a big part of it

Quoting Buffy♥:" I'm in the same boat. Sometimes I can look at him or see him do something and be like, "Gosh, I love ... [snip!] ... times I can't stand to be around him...leaving hasn't crossed my mind though. I think I'm depressed and that's a big part of it"

I'm sorry you go through this too.  

I never thought about the depression thing... I've been really emotional and upset about not being able to get a job, and winter is coming and I hate winter and all the darn holiday drama's that come with it. It makes my anxiety peek and it makes me miserable.

you sound like you may have a touch of seasonal depression. i get like that during the winter as well. if you are normally more upset then younare happy within your relationship its probably time to move on. im sorry youre going through his. ill be on fb later if you want/need to vent. <3.

Quoting Penises 3:Vaginas 1:" you sound like you may have a touch of seasonal depression. i get like that during the winter as well. ... [snip!] ... its probably time to move on. im sorry youre going through his. ill be on fb later if you want/need to vent. <3."

I think I'm going to straight up tell him tonight that he needs to lose some weight.
He was exercising back in May and lost weight, and stopped drinking those large sev cups of pepsi... and I thought it was so sexy, and I was so attracted and happy to be around him.
But he has been back into drinking pop, playing video games all the time, not exercising.
Having sex with him grosses me out. I feel like I'm disrespectful to myself.  

Quoting Kimber-Lily:" I think I'm going to straight up tell him tonight that he needs to lose some weight. He was exercising ... [snip!] ... video games all the time, not exercising. Having sex with him grosses me out. I feel like I'm disrespectful to myself.  "

That's all you can really do. Discuss your feelings with him and either hope he changes or you both mutually agree to split.

It's hard to see someone let themselves go because bad eating habits/weight gain effects more then their appearance.