re: Gender diasppointment

I know how you feel op. I have never gotten what I wanted when I was pregnant. The first time wasn't nearly as disappointing as the second time and I nearly lost it the third time. But after sometime passes you come to accept it and when you hold your baby it simply doesn't matter anymore. I love my kids and couldn't imagine them being anything other than what they are now. I think I would even be a little upset if this baby came out a girl instead of a boy now because I have gotten so excited about having him and couldn't imagine him being a girl.

I could have just erased my first sentence but a big big of me wants to shake someone that is upset about the emotions to actually put it in writing.

Yes, I was trying to help but in a grumbly way

Thankfulness is key. Keep thanking God for everything concerning the baby. Thank Him for the sunshine and the rain. Thank Him for everything.single.thing. Do it especially when you feel the disappointment rise!
"One Thousand Gifts: A Dare to Live Fully Right Where You Are," by Ann Voskamp is a great book to read, now.
Psalms 18, 20, 21, 28, 32 34, 36, 40, 41, 66, 100, 105, 106, 107, 111, 113, 116, 117, 118, 135, 136, 138, 146, 147
Even when you don't "feel" it, give thanks! You will be amazed at how it changes your life.

Quoting TheNuge:" I could have just erased my first sentence but a big big of me wants to shake someone that is upset about the emotions to actually put it in writing. Yes, I was trying to help but in a grumbly way"

lol

Quoting Buffy♥:" Just think of all the dresses and pink! She will be so stylish  "

Lol I've thought about that, doing her hair, accessories, all that good stuff.   A little mini me running around. Thank you!  

Quoting Kelly Alpacapeople:" Thankfulness is key. Keep thanking God for everything concerning the baby. Thank Him for the sunshine ... [snip!] ... 117, 118, 135, 136, 138, 146, 147 Even when you don't "feel" it, give thanks! You will be amazed at how it changes your life."

AMEN very well said.

What you are feeling is normal and don't you let anybody tell you different. I've been there. Once you start to feel those lil kicks,start shopping for her, picking out names,and actually hold her for the first time, you will be head over heels in love with her. You will still long for a boy no-doubt but You can always try again for a boy. Everything happens for a reason and it is for you to have a girl now. There is a great life lesson in her birth and life for you. You will get your son when it is time....

Quoting ___RAIDERETTE___:" Sorry but that usually happends when you are not happy with either gender. I have a story to tell you ... [snip!] ... certain that they will get what they want.It doesnt always work that way. COngrats hun girls are so precious just like boys."

No, what your story said to me was don't be a slut and leave one guy to go be with another with hopes of getting a different gender? Your pal in the story is a dirtball and is a sad excuse of a woman. That's something I will stand up to and shame on you for even remotely comparing the two sitations. OP isn't threatening to abort because of the news is she? Shes simply stating a bit of disappointment. IF she tries again for a boy than God Bless her 

Quoting TheNuge:" I could have just erased my first sentence but a big big of me wants to shake someone that is upset about the emotions to actually put it in writing. Yes, I was trying to help but in a grumbly way"

I understand what you're saying, I just don't think she is ungrateful or anything. Just a little disappointed. I've had several miscarriages before I had my kids. (And some in between) We TTC for quite some time and didn't get pregnant for a long time. I was still disappointed when he was a boy.

Quoting VERONICA. MOM OF 6:" What you are feeling is normal and don't you let anybody tell you different. I've been there. Once you ... [snip!] ... you to have a girl now. There is a great life lesson in her birth and life for you. You will get your son when it is time.... "

I agree on the everything happends for a reason!!!!!!!

Quoting mmayala:" No, what your story said to me was don't be a slut and leave one guy to go be with another with hopes ... [snip!] ... because of the news is she? Shes simply stating a bit of disappointment. IF she tries again for a boy than God Bless her "

wtf that was not the point she was set on a boy and still is actually.Never did I said she was a slut or was comparing just sharing a story. Damn you are you hormonal or something?

Quoting Taste the Rainbow:" i wanted a girl i was upset when i found out i was having a boy but now i wouldn't change it for anything "

   This exactly! I couldn't imagine having a girl right now..

Quoting mmayala:" No, what your story said to me was don't be a slut and leave one guy to go be with another with hopes ... [snip!] ... because of the news is she? Shes simply stating a bit of disappointment. IF she tries again for a boy than God Bless her "

I seriously posted a thread once about this girl on my facebook who said she was going to have an abortion if she found out it was a boy since she already had 4 boys. I got chewed up and spit up. I think it's just sick but apparently a lot of people said they would do the same thing...

WELL, I have 3 boys and always always wanted a baby girl even before i had any kids, 3 boys later i still havent received my baby girl i soooooo dream of!
and since this is your first, you will definitely fall in love and forget about the gender once she is born!
now, if you have 2 + more girls after her, then i can completely relate to you about gender dissapointment. i always told myself it will eventually happen,(i hope still!)
i love my boys so much.
but to be honest, i will be completely torn if this baby is not my girl. because i doubt we can afford past baby #4.
im the only female left in my family, all of the others are all boys.
its normal to have a gender preference. even to those who are ttc and have issues with ttc- im sure they would still rather have one gender more then the other.
we love our babies no matter what gender they are <3
(but a girl would be a blessing here!)

Quoting Kelly Alpacapeople:" Thankfulness is key. Keep thanking God for everything concerning the baby. Thank Him for the sunshine ... [snip!] ... 117, 118, 135, 136, 138, 146, 147 Even when you don't "feel" it, give thanks! You will be amazed at how it changes your life."

I dont think her being thankful is the question here. You mean to tell me that after my triple marker test and wishing for a negative result I would have been a bad person for being hurt and disappointed if I got a positve for downs or any other disability? Of course, my heart would have sank into my tummy BUT I would overlook it and treasure my little human inside of me. AS the OP is doing so. It's natural to wish for something else and accept and cope with the real results. She isn't going to love this baby any less than if it were a girl. As I wont love my child any less if it has a disability even though I pray to God it doesnt.