re: Gender diasppointment

Quoting ___RAIDERETTE___:" she has a point there. Like I said I first thought that she had 4-5 girls and found out she was having another girl but this is her first baby come on."

So it's not okay to have her heart set on something and then be disappointed when it doesn't happen? She's not saying she doesn't love her baby, she's saying she was a little disappointed.

Quoting TheNuge:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Kim Jeffreys:</b>" Well ladies I need some words of wisdom.... ... [snip!] ... read profiles of couples who can't have their own kids. Also, read, watch YouTube of some disabled or sick kids.. Ahhhhhhhhh!"

my son was my first baby (not first pregnancies) and i wanted a girl so bad i know where she is coming from it is a normal feeling when you have your heart set on having one gender and finding out you are having the other my heart sank a little when i found out i was having a boy not a girl

Quoting Nicola =):" She is allowed to have her own feelings...  "

I guess she was just trying to help.

Thanks everyone for the advice   I really do appreciate it. And it's not that I love my baby any less, it's just that me and my fiance' wanted a boy from the very beginning and I really thought I was having a boy. Some family members have bought me a few pink things which have helped me get over the fact that it's not a boy. I'm slowly getting over it just thought I'd look for some advice to further push me over this issue I'm having.

Quoting Buffy♥:" So it's not okay to have her heart set on something and then be disappointed when it doesn't happen? She's not saying she doesn't love her baby, she's saying she was a little disappointed."

No, because when it comes to this type of things you can be certain that you will get what you want is a 50/50 so why have something set if you arent sure what you will have.

Quoting ___RAIDERETTE___:" I guess she was just trying to help."

I don't think she was trying to help when she started by saying "I have nothing nice to say to you"

She is having a hard time and was looking for advice, not for some one to try and make her feel more guilty than she already does.

Quoting ___RAIDERETTE___:" No, because when it comes to this type of things you can be certain that you will get what you want is a 50/50 so why have something set if you arent sure what you will have."

Oh okay. I guess it's completely unnatural to want one gender more than the other. Got it.

Quoting Kim Jeffreys:" Thanks everyone for the advice   I really do appreciate it. And it's not that I love my baby any less, ... [snip!] ... it's not a boy. I'm slowly getting over it just thought I'd look for some advice to further push me over this issue I'm having."

It will get easier as it gets closer to seeing your princess!

Quoting Kim Jeffreys:" Thanks everyone for the advice   I really do appreciate it. And it's not that I love my baby any less, ... [snip!] ... my baby any less, it's just that me and my fiance' wanted a boy from the very beginning and I really thought I was having a boy"

Sorry but that usually happends when you are not happy with either gender. I have a story to tell you hope it makes you feel better. I know someone who hated having girls she wanted a boy and even went with another guy since she thought her previous partner couldnt have boys stupid I know. So guess what she had two girls with the new partner. She now has 5 girls. That is why is not good to be set one a gender because the more you want it the more bad it gets you will end up with the opposite. Not saying that this will happend to everyone but I have seen this happend to more than one person. They dont accept that they can have another girl and they are certain that they will get what they want.It doesnt always work that way. COngrats hun girls are so precious just like boys.

Quoting ___RAIDERETTE___:" No, because when it comes to this type of things you can be certain that you will get what you want is a 50/50 so why have something set if you arent sure what you will have."

and thats YOUR opinion. Some women just FEEL its one sex over the other and kinda mentally prepare themselves for that gender. I didn't plan on feeling like I am having a girl..it's called instinct and sometimes our instincts are wrong and it can be a bit of a disappointment. Surely, you can;t tell me you've never had a hunch about something and been wrong and maybe a big disappointed? She is looking for support, if you have none to give...move on.

Quoting Kim Jeffreys:" Thanks everyone for the advice   I really do appreciate it. And it's not that I love my baby any less, ... [snip!] ... it's not a boy. I'm slowly getting over it just thought I'd look for some advice to further push me over this issue I'm having."

Just think of all the dresses and pink! She will be so stylish  

i completely understand!

with DS i convinced myself he was a girl.... and when i found out he was infact a he, i was crushed. i didn't know how i was going to do it.... grew up with all sisters. but once he got here and now 2 yrs later.... i couldn't imagine life any other way.

Quoting ___RAIDERETTE___:" Sorry but that usually happends when you are not happy with either gender. I have a story to tell you ... [snip!] ... can have another girl they are certain that they will get what they want. COngrats hun girls are so precious just like boys."

  Are you really being serious right now? Because wanting a certain gender more will make a peen magically turn into a vagina. It's pre-determined before the sperm even fertilizes the egg.

Quoting Buffy♥:"   Are you really being serious right now? Because wanting a certain gender more will make a peen magically turn into a vagina. It's pre-determined before the sperm even fertilizes the egg."

  lol.

Quoting Buffy♥:"   Are you really being serious right now? Because wanting a certain gender more will make a peen magically turn into a vagina. It's pre-determined before the sperm even fertilizes the egg."

why wouldnt I. Seriously take it however you want I dont care,