re: Age gap relationships? D&D

I personally would not date anyone more than 10 years older than me. But as long as both as consenting adults than I see no problem with it.

I've been with someone 32 years older, 14 years older, and I prefer my 1 year older SO   A lot of older guys seem to date girls that they think they can control.

I tend to be more attracted to people 35+ (I'm 21), but my SO is turning 25 and I'm fine with that.

Quoting mamaluvsher4babies:" and this is one reason why I think Statutory rape is BS in most cases!! Alot of times it works out, they truly love each other.."

yup. like my husband and I. two kids, and 6 years together.

I'm 27 and he's almost 20

And it's awesome

Quoting mamaluvsher4babies:" and this is one reason why I think Statutory rape is BS in most cases!! Alot of times it works out, they truly love each other.."

I think they should at least lower it to 16. I felt stuck dating younger guys until I was 18 when I knew that I wanted to date people much older than myself.

The only thing that is weird about my friend and her new boyfriend is that he has grand children that are older than her daughter. Granted, they aren't his biological grand children, but it's still a little weird. His ex-wife of 20 years had two children in her previous marriage and that's where the grandchildren come into play.

I'm 23. BD is 32. My first boyfriend will turn 41 this year. I have always had a thing for older men. My parents even knew when I was a kid, I couldn't have cared less about Justin Timberlake or NKOTB, I was mesmerized by George Clooney on ER though ;) haha I have had plenty of people suggest I have "daddy issues" just because of the generational gap between myself and most men I have dated, I honestly just think I have more in common with them. I have always had very little in common with my peers, both male and female. I do have a policy of not dating anyone older than my stepfather (mom is a cougar haha) so no one over 42 now.

Quoting MahmuhMahmuh:" I'm 23. BD is 32. My first boyfriend will turn 41 this year. I have always had a thing for older men. ... [snip!] ... and female. I do have a policy of not dating anyone older than my stepfather (mom is a cougar haha) so no one over 42 now. "

All of the girls in my class had Johnathon Taylor Thomas posters. I had David Duchovny.

I just think I have more in common (so does my friend) with the older generations. They are more likely to want to be at home and most of them have the same values and political beliefs. Most people in my generation are all about Occupy Wall Street when I'm more of a TEA Party gal, you know?

Even my husband said I would have been a better match for his dad than him and sometimes I have to agree.

Came across an interesting article in Psychology Today that got me thinking more on this subject.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/resolution-not-conflict/201110/age-gap-couples-in-the-twilight-zone

It's the one thing I would worry about in a larger age gap relationship. Ungrowing. The state of the older partner entering into geriatric status and the younger partner needing to take care of them.

Quoting khigh:" Came across an interesting article in Psychology Today that got me thinking more on this subject. ... [snip!] ... Ungrowing. The state of the older partner entering into geriatric status and the younger partner needing to take care of them."

That's why I don't know if I'd do it or not, even though I am attracted to older people. My grandma is really sick, and getting old. Her boyfriend who is turning 48 has to take care of her... I don't know if I could do it.

Quoting khigh:" Yep, that's the new politically correct term for May-December relationships. I started thinking about ... [snip!] ... or younger than yourself? Do you judge people with a significant age gap dating? What do you consider a significant age gap?"

I think it honestly has less to do with age and more to do with why you are with the person. If you have things in common, and genuinely love eachother with only good intentions then I don't see anything wrong with it. I have a friend who is 22 and is dating a 36 year old. The gap could be worse but it is still pretty big. He is perfect for her though, they have a lot in common.. She has been smurfed around so many times by guys her age (her ex fiance slept with her best friend in her home while she was sleeping) that she doesn't want to deal with the immaturity. They are actually on the same level in pretty much every aspect of their lives, so it really works.
On the other hand there is a girl I went to high school with that is with a nearly 80 year old man and she is 22... never would you picture them together, but he's a senator and worth tons of money, and even in highschool she dated guys for free drugs, and she loves to flaunt everything her hubby buys her so it wouldn't surprise me at all if she was with him for things other then love.