for single moms. how old...

was your baby when you let them go alone with BD?

my babys 1 month now. his BD only started seeing him last week and now wants to take him for few hours on his own. I feel its a bit soon yet.

Advice/experiences please.

fathead was 2 months I believe. But only because my mom like, forced me to go out for my birthday. lol. so she went with her dad.

if your not comfortable with it dont do it! id wait longer like 6months offer to have him come over and spend time with him in the living room where you can pop in but so that it gives him the feeling of getting a little alone time it depends on your relationship with your BD

It really depends. My son is one and still breastfed and super attached and I supervise the visits because my son is scared of him and well a mommy's boy. We both don't want to traumatize him so we'll let my son decide when he wants to spend some alone time with him.
But if the baby is a month old I'm honestly not sure.

BD and I didn't split til DD was 15 months. He pretty much started taking her overnight within a month of our split.

my daughter is 5 and has never ever been left with her father.. which is good because hes been in and out of drug rehab and prison since she was born.. legally he has allowed to have her 45 minutes professionally supervised hes shown up one time when she was 2


i left her with his mom when she was 3 months old over night..

but if he had his head on straight and wasnt bat smurf crazy.. probally about 3 months..

My son's biological dad has never taken him by himself. My son is 7. I didnt feel comfortable with him taking my 3 day old son off by himself. Then after that we broke up and he was in and out of his life for a few years. I gave him an ultimatum "be in his life. Dont be in and out or just go about your life and forget about him". He continued the in and out thing for a while longer before I cut him off completely. My son doesnt know him. He knows of him, but doesnt know him from the next guy on the street.

Do what you feel is comfortable for you and your child. If you feel it's too soon, have him do visits at your house until your LO gets to know him and you feel more comfortable it.

thank you all. I think i'll continue letting him visit here until i feel comfortable then.