trying to write my birth plan but have no local support network (all family and friends live 200 miles away) I am scared I'm going to be alone giving birth as hubby will have to look after our son I want my mum here and originally she was ok with that, but now my brother has said he is there for christmas dinner with his daughter and instead of telling him she may not be there she has written it on the calendar and insists that baby will be here by then so why cause problems - its not that simple my DD is the 18 but the hospital insist its the 26th so there is a strong possibilty baby wont be here before christmas. now im torn between going back home to my mums for the whole month of dec and transfering hospitals or sending my son to his grandparents for christmas. I'm tempted mind to just tell my mum I want her here and sod my bro and christmas dinner I need her more but then I feel selfish
I would tell your mom you need her. But im kind of confused anyway. Isnt your DH going to be at the hospital with you? Id have someone watch my son so that DH could be at the hospital with me.
Why don't you have your mom and brother come to your house for Christmas dinner and if you happen to go into labor your mom and SO can be at the hospital with you and your brother can watch your son. Its kinda a win win for everyone
Quoting ❥New Beginnings:" Why cant your son go to your moms Christmas dinner and you have SO be with you?"
this is one of my options he can go there but then I will miss him like crazy and this is the first christmas he understands whats going on so I really want to see him on christmas morning - guess I have a lot more thinking to do
I just checked your previous posts to get a better story and since you're 200 miles away from your network of support, I personally would take you and LO down to your mum's place. You'll have help watching LO and your family can be at the hospital with you and maybe just keep in really good touch with DH about your contractions so he has a better chance of making it down for the birth. If DH has to miss the birth to take care of LO or miss the birth because he's trying to drive down in time, I'd rather he miss it for driving time and you not have to go it alone. Especially if you think your in-laws would put you out on your own couch. That's so weird to me.
<blockquote><b>Quoting Cerys Johnson:</b>" this is one of my options he can go there but then I will miss him like crazy and this is the first ... [snip!] ... he understands whats going on so I really want to see him on christmas morning - guess I have a lot more thinking to do"</blockquote>
Id send him to grandmas you guys can always make Christmas up.we never celebrate on Christmas day since I have had to work it almost every year
My in laws put me on the couch cos they are in their 70's there is only 4 yrs between me and hubby but a generation gap between our families his sister is the same age as my mum, his parents are the same age as my grandparents.
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