desperately need help! how do I tell him I want to keep the

Okay...how do I tell him I want to keep this baby??
..so here's some history...bf wants me to abort. I don't think I can. I know I can't. And I think that he would love this baby. Eventually. Here's some history on SO... He was used by his ex, who was a lesbian...to have two kids for her and her wife. He would fall for her games, etc,..and keep getting back with her...only to have her get pregnant and run back to her wife
He has three kids total. And the lesbians have his two daughters whom he sees every other weekend and every Wednesday night. His other ex had full and sole custody of his son. Whom he hasn't seen since under one year. He posts child support on all three kids.
Now I'm not trying to make him the victim because I'm sure I only got his story and their stories are probably a whole nother ball game. But I do think that he is scared I'm going to use him. For child support someday. I think all in all he lovrd MY son, but he knows he's not legally tied down if anything were to happen. Like we break up...
So I just think he would feel trapped if we have this baby, because he doesn't really trust women. Ugh...maybe I'm wrong Idk. He's a tough book to read.. .
I really don't understand.
My boyfriend says he wants kids, but not now. He said in the future he does. But then, a second later he's saying that he just wants the kids to go so he can live his life....so...what about our future kids then?
He's so contradicting.
Last night he said we should figure this out.
I really really really want to keep this baby.
I already love him or her.
And you know what SO says????
I say, I don't know if I'm strong enough for adoption again...
And he says,
I think we should cut it up into shreds so we don't have to worry about it anymore...
Really?
Ik I have posted a lot on here lately.
He's my rock. I love him and want to be with him. He wants to get back to us being us again he said. He days the baby is going to damper our lives.....no more drinking our going to the bars....Idk what he's really taking about, we don't do that very often any ways since we have a ten month old at home.
I'm so depressed and confused. I have terrible dreams about abortions at night.
Oh yeah, he's also my manager and his boss just found out about us. I'm being forced to transfer....which is fine, but I think the company did it to cover their ass. But now I feel as if he's pushier than ever to get the abortion.
What can I say to persuade him we should keep the baby???? This man is not heartless. He is an smurf sometimes, but he is full of love and he has a big heart.
I just don't know what to do!!
Please help!!

Sorry bout all the typos. I'm on my phone.

Then tell him no you've made a decision and you don't have the true goth to go through that again and you want to keep the baby

If you want to keep the baby, keep it. It's your decision too. And if my husband said that we should just cut the baby up in shreds, I'd divorce his ass. It sounds like he's not ready to grow up, hence, you guys will have to give up partying and bars.

ETA: Is this supposed to be in abortion survivors? I don't want to be modded for saying what I said.

I would just tell him ur going to keep the baby, with or without him.

My 1st babys dad didn't want anything to do with our son, so I let him go and went on with my pregnancy, he wasn't happy at all and around 7 months we broke up for good, I offered him the papers to sign his rights away... After few years he decided to be involved in Deans life. Deans 6 now, and I haven't gone after his dad for child support... And don't expect anything from him, I chose to have the baby, hes my responsibility...

<blockquote><b>Quoting I♡MyTots:</b>" If you want to keep the baby, keep it. It's your decision too. And if my husband said that we should ... [snip!] ... shreds, I'd divorce his ass. It sounds like he's not ready to grow up, hence, you guys will have to give up partying and bars."</blockquote>




He's 34. And definitely past the'partying' phase. We definitely don't party.
Our idea of going to the bar is a Wednesday at four for two beers and then we leave.
What he says was mean, yes. It hurt me. But maybe he's hurting you know?

I think you just need to tell him straight that you are having the baby and then deal with each hurdle as it arises Its not going to be easy but ultimately its your body and your choice he will just have to accept that x

Id say tell him your decision. If hes really "full of love" and all that like u say then he will understand. I thought about abortion when i found out i was pregnant this time. I decided i couldnt go through with it and Hubby supported me 100%. If he truly loves u he wont pressure u into anything.

I'd just tell him you narrative decision and your keeping the baby. If he don't want anymore kids he needs to wrap it lol.

He gave me an ultimatum a well or so ago, and he said either have the baby our get out in thirty days.
I raised my first son alone til he was two and my second son alone til he was four months, (that's when I met SO.)
I've never gotten child support.
I feel the same, I chose to have them, my responsibility.
And I delicately don't want support from SO...but he's scared I will.

I ain't have anywhere to go if he kicks me out.. No money saved up.. Nothing.

You tell him what I told my ex who is having nothing to do with our baby girl: "You could be gone in a day, a month, a year and I would be left alone to deal with the aftermath of this decision. My child will be with me forever."

I don't regret my decision and you know what he left anyway. If I'd gone through with the abortion I would be all alone without even my sweet baby girl.

<blockquote><b>Quoting I♡MyTots:</b>" If you want to keep the baby, keep it. It's your decision too. And if my husband said that we should ... [snip!] ... up partying and bars. ETA: Is this supposed to be in abortion survivors? I don't want to be modded for saying what I said."</blockquote>




Last time I posted something like this in relationships...it got moved to AS.

<blockquote><b>Quoting SweetBabyKate:</b>" You tell him what I told my ex who is having nothing to do with our baby girl: "You could be gone in ... [snip!] ... and you know what he left anyway. If I'd gone through with the abortion I would be all alone without even my sweet baby girl. "</blockquote>



I'm afraid of that too. If he left, my guilt would be overwhelming.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Juliette:</b>" I'd just tell him you narrative decision and your keeping the baby. If he don't want anymore kids he needs to wrap it lol."</blockquote>




How do I tell him I'm keeping it??
Is there a nice way? He likes to control things.
Not in a crazy way..
But if you are factual with him he might get upset.
Is there a nicer way to put it...like ease into it? Instead of just bluntly, I'm keeping it.

Quoting **Hanna**:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Juliette:</b>" I'd just tell him you narrative decision and ... [snip!] ... with him he might get upset. Is there a nicer way to put it...like ease into it? Instead of just bluntly, I'm keeping it."

mabe if you just told him you would rather be homeless then go through w/terminating a pregnancy that was created w/the man you love he might get the point ......

Why shy yall go and have an ultrasound. Make him go with you. Maybe seeing the baby will help. The cry and tell him you can't do it. Lol. Crying usually gets my hubby.