how important is attraction

I recently met this guy who is absolutely everything I want and need in a man. The only problem is I am not superrr attracted to him. I don't find him repulsive or anything, but I don't even find him a little bit attractive either. Idk I am having a hard time wondering if I should pursue anything or if not being attracted to him will eventually cause me to loose any romantic feelings towards him.

I think attraction is important, but looks can only go so far. Do you think you could see past his looks?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Cassie♥:</b>" I recently met this guy who is absolutely everything I want and need in a man. The only problem is I ... [snip!] ... I should pursue anything or if not being attracted to him will eventually cause me to loose any romantic feelings towards him."</blockquote>


I wasnt physically attracted to my SO of almost a year and a half . I was used to the taller and longer haired black guy, but SO is as tall as me with shirt hair. If you can look past it you should be fine.

Can we see pics  

There have been times when I met a guy who I didn't find attractive, but after getting to know his personality, found him much more attractive. Could this be a possibility for you?

I don't really know but I think you should feel somewhat attracted to him becuase how are you going to want to be with him sexually? If it's still early of you have time for those feelings to surge.

you have to be attracted to someone to be sexual with them
unless you are highly intoxicated

you know that feeling when you are fighting or mad at SO and they just look repulsive and ugly to you? imagine how you'll feel when this guy annoys you lol

I think that attraction is important... but initial attraction (or lack thereof) doesn't mean that there won't be attraction later on... I say try and pursue it a bit longer and see if anything comes of it.   best of luck!

Quoting Cassie♥:" I recently met this guy who is absolutely everything I want and need in a man. The only problem is I ... [snip!] ... I should pursue anything or if not being attracted to him will eventually cause me to loose any romantic feelings towards him."

Chances are you will GAIN attraction over time.

Quoting *Turtles*:" I think attraction is important, but looks can only go so far. Do you think you could see past his looks?"

I think if he lost weight I would be attracted to him...
He is pretty overweight, but could be cute

Quoting SpaceCowgirl:" Can we see pics   There have been times when I met a guy who I didn't find attractive, but after getting to know his personality, found him much more attractive. Could this be a possibility for you?"

yeah Idk, I am SOOO attracted to his personality. So I think that I could eventually look past it, but I am also pretty shallow... so maybe I couldn't. idk im confused by it.

Quoting Cassie♥:" yeah Idk, I am SOOO attracted to his personality. So I think that I could eventually look past it, but I am also pretty shallow... so maybe I couldn't. idk im confused by it. "

Encourage him to lose weight in not such an obvious way? lol I dated a chubby guy and I couldn't move passed it or the birthmark on the tip of his nose, I felt like it was looking directly at me LMAO. But anyways, you can work around his weight, exercising could be a way of spending time together.

Quoting Mommy2Kay:" Encourage him to lose weight in not such an obvious way? lol I dated a chubby guy and I couldn't move ... [snip!] ... looking directly at me LMAO. But anyways, you can work around his weight, exercising could be a way of spending time together."

yeah he is already on the right track... hes lost tons of weight already and is continuing with it   My only problem is I really want an active guy, someone who is willing to want to do active things over non active things... Where we are never just sitting in the house watching TV... and I kinda feel like once he looses the amount of weight he wants then he will go back to just hangin out

<blockquote><b>Quoting Cassie♥:</b>" yeah he is already on the right track... hes lost tons of weight already and is continuing with it   ... [snip!] ... TV... and I kinda feel like once he looses the amount of weight he wants then he will go back to just hangin out "</blockquote>


Your guy looks like my brother a few years ago. But, my brother chose a healthier lifestyle for himself. He lost 50 pounds and is now a healthy 205 at 6'2". Just encourage him by hidden suggestions.

Im sure my SO doesnt find me attractive in the slightest. I have a disorder that causes my to break out in huge scaly welts and loose my hair in clumps. Its also affected my joints so i walk with a limp. I am repulsive but hes stood by me for nine years.
So no attraction in my opinion isnt very important.

I think attraction is something that can grow. If everything else is there with him, I think eventually you start looking past the imperfections and appreciate the qualities he DOES have.