What is the prob?longg vent

My husband keeps meSsaging girls on Facebook and other websites. But just to talk as friends, and then a little more. But nothing to outrageous. I told him I didn't like it and I never got a sorry but we just ended calmly. Just now I logged in to his Xbox account to tell my brother to keep it down in th living room I'm trying to sleep. And he messaged a girl about each other lives. I am wondering why does he talk to other girls, and behind my back... Because I say behind my back is because I always tell him if he talks to another girl to tell me so we could laugh about or something. An earlier I saw him messaging someone and I asked him who it was and he said it was one of his guy friends, he lied! Why does he do this and should I let it go? Or should I handle it? Sorry it's long*

<blockquote><b>Quoting *Nov.13*:</b>" My husband keeps meSsaging girls on Facebook and other websites. But just to talk as friends, and then ... [snip!] ... it was one of his guy friends, he lied! Why does he do this and should I let it go? Or should I handle it? Sorry it's long*"</blockquote>



How should I handle this?

He's being unfaithful. He isn't respecting your guys relationship and if I were you I would dump his ass.

<blockquote><b>Quoting *Turtles*:</b>" He's being unfaithful. He isn't respecting your guys relationship and if I were you I would dump his ass."</blockquote>




I can't because we are about to have a kid together and I love him. And he cares about me but idk what he is thinking when he does this!

I'd be having a LONG conversation with him, but I wouldn't dump him. Guys are allowed to have female friends too... As long as he's not hitting on the women or trying to meet up for sex or something, I'd drop it personally.

The fact that he feels the need to lie to you and say its a guy and talks to them when you already stated that it bothered you to me says something is going on.

Quoting *Nov.13*:" <blockquote><b>Quoting *Turtles*:</b>" He's being unfaithful. He isn't respecting your ... [snip!] ... we are about to have a kid together and I love him. And he cares about me but idk what he is thinking when he does this!"

Having a child together doesn't mean you have to stick around. He's clearly disrespecting you. I know what you mean though, but why be with someone who has no respect for your relationship together? I know you love him, but does he love you the way you love him?

Quoting ☾BizzyBee♉:" I'd be having a LONG conversation with him, but I wouldn't dump him. Guys are allowed to have female ... [snip!] ... friends too... As long as he's not hitting on the women or trying to meet up for sex or something, I'd drop it personally. "

He's crossing the line though. Flirting is wrong when you're in a serious relationship. It's one thing to have girl friends and another to flirt with them when you're in a serious relationship.

What exactly does "just to talk as friends...and a little more" mean?

IDK if he claims he cares so much, I don't see why he would be lying to you.

<blockquote><b>Quoting *Turtles*:</b>" Having a child together doesn't mean you have to stick around. He's clearly disrespecting you. I know ... [snip!] ... with someone who has no respect for your relationship together? I know you love him, but does he love you the way you love him?"</blockquote>




He tells me and shows me, "I love you more than you love me" is his words. He always wants the best for me and treats me wonderful, it is just this stuff we have a problem with

You may love him, but obviously he doesn't respect you...

Quoting *Turtles*:" He's crossing the line though. Flirting is wrong when you're in a serious relationship. It's one thing to have girl friends and another to flirt with them when you're in a serious relationship."

She didn't say flirting. She said TALKING. Flirting IS crossing the line, but she said it herself, "But just to talk as friends, and then a little more. But nothing to outrageous"

It all depends on what 'a little more' actually means. Is he flirting, or what's going on there?

Quoting *Nov.13*:" <blockquote><b>Quoting *Turtles*:</b>" He's being unfaithful. He isn't respecting your ... [snip!] ... we are about to have a kid together and I love him. And he cares about me but idk what he is thinking when he does this!"

You cant because you're having another kid to him?

Okay then, stay with him and let him treat you like that..

Quoting *Nov.13*:" <blockquote><b>Quoting *Turtles*:</b>" Having a child together doesn't mean you have ... [snip!] ... love me" is his words. He always wants the best for me and treats me wonderful, it is just this stuff we have a problem with"

His actions are showing otherwise. I used to have an ex who would say things like that, but it took me a while to realize he was full of smurf.

If he is talking to girls just as friends that's fine, but to talk to them more than a friend and lying to you is another. You need to confront him and get some answers.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☾BizzyBee♉:</b>" She didn't say flirting. She said TALKING. Flirting IS crossing the line, but she said it herself, "But ... [snip!] ... but she can't control his life and say "Oh well I don't like you talking to other women at all, ever." That's unrealistic IMO."</blockquote>




First of all I didn't say he could ever talk with other girls. Just not to talk to without telling me. We tell each other everything. I tell him when I talk to guys or just my girlfriends. I rarely talk anyone really.