re: What is the prob?longg vent

I'm done, I have decided on what to do, thank you turtles! And pm me the guys name off of youtube please;)

Quoting *Nov.13*:" I not. It's like when I just look to see what he has been up to. Not trying to find something... Out ... [snip!] ... I do find stuff that I'm not happy with. Like I said I wanted to message my bro, and there was unread message from a girl..."

I would have not clicked into that unread message. You need to respect his privacy. I don't snoop into my SO phone at all, I don't see the point. My SO doesn't have FB and even if he did I wouldn't bother to snoop.

Coming from someone whose SO lacks trust. I don't like that he goes through my FB or text messaging without my consent. I don't care that he does now because I have nothing to hide. I am not allowed to talk to people of the opposite sex because my SO does not trust me. I find it annoying that he acts this way, but we're working on it. I have faith that he can cut the smurf and build up to trusting me again. I am going to link you to a video that I hope enlightens you.

Quoting *Nov.13*:" I not. It's like when I just look to see what he has been up to. Not trying to find something... Out ... [snip!] ... I do find stuff that I'm not happy with. Like I said I wanted to message my bro, and there was unread message from a girl..."

So you snoop in his stuff because you are curious to see what he's up to!?!?!? REALLY?!?!?! Why don't you just TALK to him?

Now I remember you... you are the girl that got mad that her SO was up late playing X-Box because he had work and had to work on his insurance. You wanted him to go to bed and not play with your brother. I honestly think you need to step back and see that if you are wanting to control who your SO talks to... when he can play video games.... when he goes to bed.... well it's time to either end it or let the poor guy breathe on his own. Im sorry but no wife/SO should dictate a mans life like that. If he is just being friendly and wanting to play games with your brother and you have his entire schedule all planned out and then try to control who he can talk to.... hun you need to STEP BACK, be alone for a bit, and realize that the way you are going about a relationship is not healthy. You snoop in his stuff to see what he's been up to... seriously, you have a huge control and lack of trust problem.

This is a great video, watch it!

<blockquote><b>Quoting FroggysMommy:</b>" So you snoop in his stuff because you are curious to see what he's up to!?!?!? REALLY?!?!?! Why don't ... [snip!] ... healthy. You snoop in his stuff to see what he's been up to... seriously, you have a huge control and lack of trust problem."</blockquote>




Lmao!!! Please next time I vent or rant just leave it alone. Thank you for your help, you are just a rude person.

Type in iamj ford into YouTube search.

Quoting *Nov.13*:" <blockquote><b>Quoting FroggysMommy:</b>" So you snoop in his stuff because you are ... [snip!] ... Lmao!!! Please next time I vent or rant just leave it alone. Thank you for your help, you are just a rude person."

OP really..she's not being rude. She's actually being quite pleasant compared to how others would react.

Quoting *Nov.13*:" <blockquote><b>Quoting FroggysMommy:</b>" So you snoop in his stuff because you are ... [snip!] ... Lmao!!! Please next time I vent or rant just leave it alone. Thank you for your help, you are just a rude person."

Im not rude, it's called being real. If you think it's rude, maybe you should take a deep look at yourself and your situation and see why I am saying what I am.

Also, I can comment wherever I please. Just as you may.

<blockquote><b>Quoting *Turtles*:</b>"
This is a great video, watch it!"</blockquote>




I got the idea., I am going to re adjust myself, but yet try to work on things. Thank u. Your just what I needed tonight

It's not easy, but just work on yourself and your situation. If you can't handle it and you have tried then I suggest ending the relationship.

Quoting *Turtles*:" He's being unfaithful. He isn't respecting your guys relationship and if I were you I would dump his ass."

  

Quoting can111:"   "

Keep reading. The man's not flirting with anyone, and he drinks 2 beers a week. She has an issue when he doesn't inform her what girls he's talking to. She's also snooping his facebook, that's how she found anything out.

He's not in the wrong here. She is.

<blockquote><b>Quoting saageex3:</b>" The fact that he feels the need to lie to you and say its a guy and talks to them when you already stated that it bothered you to me says something is going on."</blockquote>




This.

I would think if the conversations with the girls are innocent then he should have no issue being honest with you. The fact that he felt the need to lie is a red flag IMO. I mean I can KINDA understand him not straight out being like "hey I'm gonna go talk to a girl, okay?" But if you ASK him about it then he needs to be honest with you especially since you told him it makes you uncomfortable.

<blockquote><b>Quoting *Nov.13*:</b>" I didn't say flirting. Just that he talks to girls that he just met saying " how is she, where does she ... [snip!] ... was " how have you been? I have been rocky with things." " I haven't talked to you in awhile, I have been thinking about you""</blockquote>




Wow. Really?! The only thing that I can see that you might thinking is toeing the "line" is where he said "I've been thinking about you" and only because that can be misconstrued for you to think he is talking about thinking about someone romantically.

Everything else is normal acquaintance conversation and if that really bothers you then YOU are the one with an issue: insecurity.

I would agree, she wasn't being rude she was just being honest and the truth hurts sometimes. With my husband and I, we tell each other things, not because we feel we have to, but because we WANT to. If he feels the need to hide it from you, then he probably feels that he doesn't want to tell you and get bitched at or anything for it. Let him do his things because it does sound like you have major trust issues and you either need to leave or get some help and let him breath. Respect him and he would to you and give him some space.