re: Family battle, 29 week pregnant woman in the middle.

First of all, it's only an hour and half away!! You're mom can come visit you fairly often if she wanted (I'm guessing). Second, I get that you're scared but you can do it by yourself. You wouldn't be by yourself anyway because your SO will be there. I live 25 hours away from my mom and have done everything by myself despite the fact that I was scared to death not having her here with me. You need to do what's best for YOU. Don't think about anyone else and do what YOU need to do. Follow your heart. (I know it's cheesy lol)

Quoting xNikkiNinjuhh:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~*~ Nichole ~*~:</b>" I would stay where you are for now and ... [snip!] ... move the baby away, things not go accordingly and have to come back after so much time and her sit there thinking wtf is this?!"

If he does that, he would be acting very immature.
He needs to understand that right now you and his unborn child need stability. If he doesn't, you're very right when you say he's being selfish. Being a parent involves sacrifices, sometimes those sacrifices start before the child even gets here.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~Isaiah's Mama~:</b>" First of all, it's only an hour and half away!! You're mom can come visit you fairly often if she wanted ... [snip!] ... do what's best for YOU. Don't think about anyone else and do what YOU need to do. Follow your heart. (I know it's cheesy lol)"</blockquote>




Lmfao love the cheesiness. :p thank you. <3 she won't travel through Chicago and I kinda don't blame her, she's a wimp behind the wheel LOL. I'd come visit often cuz I LOVE love LOVE her to death and I think she's just scared of losing her only girl, best friend, etc. she's been through a lot and has a lot of regret also and doesn't want me to follow in her footsteps. I have a good man, little immature LOL. He's 20 and just.. A handful, but still a good man and great potential. I wouldn't be with him and pregnant if he wasn't.

Why not all stay were you are until he can find a job in his town. Does he actually need to move there to search for a job? Meaning you can all stay together until things are more secure. Your mom only means well, you are her baby and she will only want the best for you.

<blockquote><b>Quoting iLL-Legal Alien:</b>" If he does that, he would be acting very immature. He needs to understand that right now you and his ... [snip!] ... say he's being selfish. Being a parent involves sacrifices, sometimes those sacrifices start before the child even gets here. "</blockquote>




Yep yep. I got my mom saying he's brainwashing me and him saying she's brainwashing me. I just say my brain has been washed out period. Can't even think or focus. But you're damn right. I guess in the end someone is gunna get butthurt and it seems I'm trying the best to think level headed and not selfishly. But the inputs are awesome I needed just a little support that I wasn't the one being a big confused baby.(maybe a little LOL)

Quoting xNikkiNinjuhh:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~Isaiah's Mama~:</b>" First of all, it's only an hour and half ... [snip!] ... LOL. He's 20 and just.. A handful, but still a good man and great potential. I wouldn't be with him and pregnant if he wasn't."

I understand 100%. I am the exact same way with my mom. She hated the fact that I was moving so far away and was kind of mad about it but I'm a big girl and needed to move to be with my husband (he's in the Army). I fly her out here and try to go home at least twice a year and I talk to her every day no matter what. I've been gone for 2 years now and she's gotten a lot more used to it but it's still hard. If you decide to move, your mom will be okay will it eventually and like you said, you'll visit her as much as possible.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Maz2012:</b>" Why not all stay were you are until he can find a job in his town. Does he actually need to move there ... [snip!] ... stay together until things are more secure. Your mom only means well, you are her baby and she will only want the best for you."</blockquote>




He's like refusing to stay after our LO is born. I think they both mean well, but are being immature about it for their own personal reasons and I'm just sitting here bug eyed don't know what to say or think without being told I'm wrong and brainwashed LOL. I just have up and told them both to be quiet about it and the baby don't need the stress.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~Isaiah's Mama~:</b>" I understand 100%. I am the exact same way with my mom. She hated the fact that I was moving so far ... [snip!] ... hard. If you decide to move, your mom will be okay will it eventually and like you said, you'll visit her as much as possible."</blockquote>




(: he said if he can't find anything he's going to enlist. I'm scared for that. It's gunna break my heart so I'm trying to avoid that at all cost. Ill get a job before he does that. I commend you for being that strong! And that definitely gives me hope thank you. <3 I just hate how mean she can get towards me because I'm ACTUALLY considering moving and being by his side like a future wife should :p I didn't know it was the wrong thing to do ya know? It's frustrating, I know she means well. Love her. Thank you! LOL.

Quoting xNikkiNinjuhh:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~*~ Nichole ~*~:</b>" I would stay where you are for now and ... [snip!] ... move the baby away, things not go accordingly and have to come back after so much time and her sit there thinking wtf is this?!"

Well it's time for him to grow up. Your focus needs to be on whats best for your child and moving away from a stable environment in with his friends while he looks for a job is ridiculous and immature. He needs to put his child first and figure out something steady before asking you to come with.

Hard one.

Do what is right for the baby, but staying with his friend is not the right answer and that's what will concern your parents.

If it was me, I'd stay put and see how he gets on job and house hunting before u move. I wouldnt want to be in a strangers house with a new baby. And when he does get job and house, then id follow.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~*~ Nichole ~*~:</b>" Well it's time for him to grow up. Your focus needs to be on whats best for your child and moving away ... [snip!] ... job is ridiculous and immature. He needs to put his child first and figure out something steady before asking you to come with."</blockquote>




That's exactly why I'm confused Lmfao. I wanna be by his side for support, he is a big boy though. I get told I'm a baby if I wanna stay lol. Mom thinks its ridiculous moving away at all because ill be taking the baby and myself from her, I do NOT want to get stuck in the city that's for damn sure. It's horrible here just yesterday morning our neighbors got robbed of everything they owned. But I don't want anything unstable for the baby all-in-all. Don't want him missing out on her and her missing out on her daddy. But thanks for your input too darling. All of it means a lot!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Maz2012:</b>" Hard one. Do what is right for the baby, but staying with his friend is not the right answer and that's ... [snip!] ... before u move. I wouldnt want to be in a strangers house with a new baby. And when he does get job and house, then id follow."</blockquote>




I'm gunna feel totally out of place and stupid taking a newborn into someone else's home when he's jobless and God knows how long we could end up like that. It's been 7 months now. Definitely don't want to be away from home that long without him having a job still. I'd leave, and that's not what I want to do.