My story.

I felt like I should tell my story and hear other people stories...

With my first, I was 18 years old becoming pregnant and having. The man I was with, we had been together for a year when we found out. At the time we had our own place, but then I had to leave my job because of the weight lifting requirement. We had to let our place go and move back in with mommy.   Not a likeness, trust me. Our daughter was born August 6, 2011 and that was the happiest day of our lives. We loved her SO much!

Time went on and he grew unhappy. In February of 2012, we broke up. We went our separate ways, but he was still a good daddy to our daughter. A month later, we got back together! Sometimes space in a relationship really does help, it made us stronger and in a healthier relationship.

In August, a day before my birthday, I found out I was pregnant with number 2. I became pregnant at 19 and will have this one when I'm 20. We have struggled with getting our own place, so we are still stuck with mom. I'd rather have our own place, but it has been real difficult for me to find a job. I'm scared for baby number 2, but I know we will push through.

I know there will be some negative talk, but I will note.... I never ONCE had to ask for anyone to buy something for my daughter, we have been able to support her 100% on our own. We may not get to buy new clothes when we want for ourselves or a new car, but we have always been able to support our daughter.

Anyone else in this same situation or similar?

Not in that situation, but is VU Valpo University?
If so, you're pretty close to me!

It makes me chuckle when people say they never have to ask for help.. financially, emotionally, physically, whatever... everyone has needed help at one time or another, whether you're 19, 29, 39, smurf happens and you need other people to help you out occasionally, why is it such a big deal that you admit you've asked for help? (Not YOU as in OP, but people in general lol.. )

Just a random thought.

I started dating Nick in 2006, knew him a little before that because he went to school with my sister, we got pregnant after a month of dating, had our son 9 months later, got married a few months after that, bought our house a few months after that and somewhere between then and now we had two more little girls and are currently expecting our fourth baby, another little girl.

That's pretty much it  

Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:" Not in that situation, but is VU Valpo University? If so, you're pretty close to me!"

Nope, Vincennes University, but I'm attending the one in Indianapolis.

Quoting DEGO™[OB]:" It makes me chuckle when people say they never have to ask for help.. financially, emotionally, physically, ... [snip!] ... such a big deal that you admit you've asked for help? (Not YOU as in OP, but people in general lol.. ) Just a random thought."

It's not that it's a problem that someone may need to ask for help, but I have gotten assumptions that I need help. I was just stating that for my daughter, I have never had to ask for help. i.e. diapers, wipes, clothes, etc.

Are yall all still living at your moms?

Quoting Amy Latkowski:" It's not that it's a problem that someone may need to ask for help, but I have gotten assumptions that ... [snip!] ... that I need help. I was just stating that for my daughter, I have never had to ask for help. i.e. diapers, wipes, clothes, etc."

So, just curious, does that mean that you're better off than other people because you don't need to ask for help? I mean.. I was a "teen mom" at one point in time and I just don't understand the need that a lot of women have to point out that at a young age they didn't have to ask for help.. they have their smurf together, kudos? I mean.. I just don't get it lol..

Quoting DEGO™[OB]:" It makes me chuckle when people say they never have to ask for help.. financially, emotionally, physically, ... [snip!] ... such a big deal that you admit you've asked for help? (Not YOU as in OP, but people in general lol.. ) Just a random thought."

I'm 33 and my parents help us out so much! We also have a lot of help from our siblings and my MIL and FIL. We don't need financial help, though we do get a lot of free babysitting  .

I can understand the need to do it yourself, especially if you are younger and feel you need to prove to the world that you can handle it. (I hope that didn't come across as negative, that wasn't my intention).

OP, you and your partner are doing a fantastic job, keep it up  . But don't be afraid to ask for help if needed or accept help if offered. Children are a lot of work  . And they benefit from spending time with family other then just mom and dad!

I do not have my smurf together...We still live at my moms. Which I hate stating.
Obviously putting this on BG is different than my people in town, but they expect me to need help. I was simply stating that I didn't need help. I don't understand why that is a problem. I was letting people know that even though we are stuck at my moms for the moment, we've been able to support our daughter on our own, as if we didn't live with my mom. It has nothing to do with "being a teen".
It's a general statement.
This post is in Teen pregnancy, because I was still considered a teen with my first.

Quoting Roe23:" I'm 33 and my parents help us out so much! We also have a lot of help from our siblings and my MIL and ... [snip!] ... help if offered. Children are a lot of work  . And they benefit from spending time with family other then just mom and dad!"

We've needed financial help plenty of times, as do lots of people all around the world.. I just don't feel like that makes us any less able than the next set of parents, as long as you're not having other people raise your children and getting a free ride while you're just lazy, I don't see the need to always point out how "independent" you are lol.

I do love the free babysitting, but I never take advantage of it.
I really do applaud myself because many of my peers rather go party.
It angers me, I'd much rather be with my daughter than friends drinking all the time.

If someone wants to buy my daughter diapers or clothes, go right ahead... I don't mind, I just never ask because it's never needed.
Alot of teen parents these days rely on their parents and I'm proud that I don't need to.

Quoting Amy Latkowski:" I do not have my smurf together...We still live at my moms. Which I hate stating. Obviously putting this ... [snip!] ... a teen". It's a general statement. This post is in Teen pregnancy, because I was still considered a teen with my first."

I'm not saying it's a problem, and you said you're 19 so you are still a teen LOL. I've just seen a lot of posts from teens especially pointing out how independent they are and I've just wondered why they feel the need to bring it up. If you're a good parent, you're a good parent, period.

I'm 20. Independent besides living with mom.
I don't see why I'm not aloud to state that. This is my story, my story includes not asking people for help. Point blank.
if it really bothers you, please move on to the next post.

i just had my first baby at 22. me and SO had only been together 2 months when i found out i was pregnant. We have now been together 1 yr and 2 months. Our daughter was born the day after our 1yr anniversary. Shes 10 weeks and we are now engaged. It hasn't been easy but defiantly rewarding. we love her so much. good luck with your second