Gah back off!!!!! *Long*

I'm so sick of my mil always trying to overstep me as the mom. I know we live with her so she's been here since day one, and she's done this before while madi is my first but I've never not been there and I've never been wrong when it came to trust my gut about dd. I've caught her calling herself mom to dd but then corrects herself when she notices me, she's started making jokes like 'what if she says grandma before she says mama?' Which btw she does say mama but mil said it doesn't count bc it's not with intent since she's only 7 months old and yet dd only says it to me or while looking at me (she does the same with dh and dada and again, mil says it doesn't count). I told dh the first time she says grandma I'm telling mil it doesn't count bc dd doesn't know which grandma she's asking for.
When dd hits her head or falls down, I instantly know if its serious or not and if its not then I smile and go 'did you fall go boom?' And dd will start laughing so I know it's no big deal but then mil comes running over 'are you ok baby?!' Freaking her out so she starts to cry and grabs for me but mil rips her from me and won't give her back until dd is pushing away and reaching for me so bad that mil almost drops her. Earlier while we were eating lunch we had some chicken, and dd kept crying and reaching for our plates so I grabbed a really small piece made sure it was cooled off and gave it to her. She loved it and had no issues with it but mil said 'I wouldn't recommend doing that until she gets her molars' correct me if I'm wrong but I thought in most cases molars don't come in until way later. I just told her that babies don't actually chew with their teeth until they are at least a year old so she got all pissed and wouldn't talk basically the rest of the meal. Then at dinner I gave dd puffs. Normally she had baby food before us and then plays but she's been constipated for about a month..pooping these rock hard lumps that hurt her so bad to pass so after trying everything to help relieve it I decide to cut out her baby food for a few weeks and see if it helped. It didn't so I'm starting it back up but didn't want to jump right back into baby food 3 times a day. Mil kept pushing and pushing about giving her baby food and when she got up to just give it to dd herself I just caved and made her oatmeal (so there's at least a chance it helps the constipation) and the whole time 'I'd give her smaller bites' 'don't forget her bib' 'are you sure that's enough!' Ummm yes. She doesn't NEED the baby food so any amount is just extra. Lord please let us get this house and be able to move in 2 weeks before I hurt this women (I wouldn't really hurt her btw but she's seriously pushing me)

Sounds like it's time to move out. lol I would start like hanging out in my room and staying away from her as much as possible if i could.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Working on Babe #2:</b>" Sounds like it's time to move out. lol I would start like hanging out in my room and staying away from her as much as possible if i could."</blockquote>
I already do lol in fact that's where I currently am on my phone. Don't get me wrong, I love the women to death but she makes me feel like she thinks I'm a bad mom and can't do it. We are trying to buy a house and hopefully will close the 19th. I'm hoping we get it because we need our own space and I feel like it would help my relationship with her so much more.

She sounds intolerable  

i would be pissed. Have you talk to your DH about this? Does he agree?....if so maybe he should say something to her since she will prolly be more willing to listen to her own son. Maybe you should tell her to back off. Either way i think she is overstepping and something should be said. i hope you get the house good luck

<blockquote><b>Quoting Uncle Obama's Banana:</b>" She sounds intolerable  "</blockquote>

I think the problem is we are way to similar and both very headstrong under the same roof and its just not a good mix lol

Two choices: Either you move out, or tell her to quit it. Its that simple...

<blockquote><b>Quoting aubriesmom:</b>" i would be pissed. Have you talk to your DH about this? Does he agree?....if so maybe he should say something ... [snip!] ... tell her to back off. Either way i think she is overstepping and something should be said. i hope you get the house good luck"</blockquote>

Yeah it drives him nuts. He begs me to let him say something but I beg him not to bc 1. It will only cause problems in stead of making it better and 2. They have been letting us live here the past year for free. We just help with food and get everything for dd so I'm really afraid if I say something it's goin to come across or be turned into we are ungrateful for everything they have done, even though that's far from the truth.

i understand...that really sucks. there has been a few family members (mom,his grandmother) that have over stepped what i said and i had to say something. however we dont live with any of them so i know that would make a difference

Quoting Carol  :" <blockquote><b>Quoting Working on Babe #2:</b>" Sounds like it's time to move out. ... [snip!] ... 19th. I'm hoping we get it because we need our own space and I feel like it would help my relationship with her so much more."

Yeah hopefully you guys can move out before your relationship with her is ruined. Cause that would realllly suck to never get along with her later.

I'd be so pissed. BD tries to do the same thing- if DD falls and hurts herself, he'll rush over to her and pick her up and try to make her feel better and I can see her reaching for me so I say, 'Give her to me." and hold my amrs out. He just says, "No, I'll make her feel better." and he finally hands her over when she wont stop crying. lol