im worried

about my friends daughter. her daughter is almost 5 months old, can not hold her head up on her own. isnt trying to sit. doesnt seem interested in toys, will fall asleep in any postion anywhere, has barley any control of her arms or legs, she sleeps all of the time because her mommy makes her sleep so she doesnt have to deal with her. but yet my friend also mixes her bottles with baby tea, jar foods, rice, and a little bit of formula. i know its not safe and ive tried talking to her about this all but she wont listen. her daughter screams all of the time and always has hard times pooping, but my friend wont change anything she does. im just very worried. i know all babies learn at their own rate. but that just seems like she is way behind. wont her docotr eventually say something to someone other then her? she tries to be a good mommy but at times seems like she doesnt care one bit. i know there isnt much i can do since this isnt my daughter. its just irritating seeing all of this all of the time and then she wants to tell me how to raise my son when my son is 5 months on the 8th and he is well over the expectations of a 5 month old. ugh sorry im just tired of this and i needed to say it somewhere.

She sounds like a bitch...

Something is very wrong here. Is your friend very young? It sounds like she was not ready to be a mom but most of us are not at first.. I feel sad for the baby. Does she work? It may be a good idea for her to get a job and have day care assistance so she gets a break from the child now and then..It will only get worse. The baby should be doing more but mom needs to encourage it too.

Quoting Jennifer Burnett:" Something is very wrong here. Is your friend very young? It sounds like she was not ready to be a mom ... [snip!] ... a break from the child now and then..It will only get worse. The baby should be doing more but mom needs to encourage it too."

 

Why does it matter if she is "very young" a "very old" person could also be doing all of these things?

OP, I would call CPS if you feel like she's putting her child in danger.

she is being a big bitch about everything, especially how she keeps telling me to do things to my son that she does with her daughter which i know is wrong, i try to tell her why i wont and she tries to call me a bad mom. :-( she is my age, 21 yrs old. and she says she was ready to be a mommy but doesnt want anything to do with her daughter unless it suits her. she even complained about diaper prices yet went and spent 100$ on shoes for herself :-( she is a stay at home mommy cuz her husband supports her and their daughter, yet she takes everything from her husband which is in the military. he is deployed now thou when he was here she complained all the time about divorcing him. :-( its jsut very sad and hard to watch her do the things she does. she asks for advise and i try to help but she says im wrong. :-( i dont know what to do about this situation, and i dont want to call CPS on her cuz she is one of my very good friends. i just dont know why she is acting this way and why she keeps telling me how to raise my son, when my son is doing perfect for his age and i feel that i am doing what i need to be doing. i just dont know about this anymore. i thought it mightve just been her daughter taking her time to learn things but i think 5 months is a little old for not even being bale to hold her head up on her own :-(

Quoting ''*sammie*'' :-):" she is being a big bitch about everything, especially how she keeps telling me to do things to my son ... [snip!] ... her time to learn things but i think 5 months is a little old for not even being bale to hold her head up on her own :-( "

Sounds to me, like she's depressed. Has she seen a doctor after she's had her child? I'm saying this because, I didn't follow up my doctor's appointment after I had my daughter and it turned out I was depressed, I would feel the same way up till I got on meds.

Quoting Sweetie-Pie:" Sounds to me, like she's depressed. Has she seen a doctor after she's had her child? I'm saying this ... [snip!] ... appointment after I had my daughter and it turned out I was depressed, I would feel the same way up till I got on meds. "

she has, but she acts different around everyone. in my opinion she was not mature enough to have this child, but things happen. she was posting all over facebook about her being sad and not wanting to be a mommy anymore cuz her daughter keeps her up all times of the night (she sleeps all day) and i tried to give her advice and ask if she was depressed then, and she decided to go off on a rant saying i need to keep my nose out of other peoples business :-( i dont know what is going on with her, and id think if she was depressed her doctor wouldve caught on since she has had to go atleast 4 times since having her daughter. but im not sure.

Quoting Sweetie-Pie:" Sounds to me, like she's depressed. Has she seen a doctor after she's had her child? I'm saying this ... [snip!] ... appointment after I had my daughter and it turned out I was depressed, I would feel the same way up till I got on meds. "

Depression after pregnancy is so common, this could be the problem. I would recommend her to see her Dr. and tell her you will be there if she needs support. :/

It seames like she souldnt b a mom i mean babys will keep u up a lot. I think the pedi needs to say somethin to her bout her not holdin her uead up. My ds does a little he has problems he was a preeme n he has a teripest to work with him. Id cal cps gd friend or not im sorry no baby needs to go through that

Quoting deanna2012:" It seames like she souldnt b a mom i mean babys will keep u up a lot. I think the pedi needs to say somethin ... [snip!] ... he was a preeme n he has a teripest to work with him. Id cal cps gd friend or not im sorry no baby needs to go through that"

yeah i understand that. its also if i am the one to call i dont want her to know i am the one who called.

theres something very wrong there you need to call someone i understand that you dont want to but you also gotta do whats best for that little girl you can call dcf and be anonymous she shouldnt be a mother if she doesnt want to be bothered its not right what shes doing to that little girl

My lo is almost 8 weeks and he plays a little and has very good neck support. So something is wrong. Its part of the job.. babies cry.. they keep you up. If she can't take care of her, as a mom yourself .. you should want more for the little girl. Do what needs to be done