So I recently got back together with my high school sweet heart. I am a sigle mom of two beautiful kids. My daughter is 4 and her dad passed away and my son is 2 his dad whom I just recently divorced about 21/2 years ago for him cheating and pushing his religious views on my daughter and I. Anyways my boyfriend and I have been together for now going on 7 months. We dated 12 years ago and lived together and only broke up because I moved back home to be with my mom at the time and continue school. Since we have been rekindled our love he has showed love towards my daughter and son and I and have stepped up with a father figure to my daughter. We hardly fight until recently where now we butt head every other day. Last night he came home after hanging out with friends and told me that he wasen't sure if he was ready to be a third father to my kids. Im not sure what he meant by that but being a woman that I am I took it bad and kicked him out. Im not sure if I would stay with him or break up because I know he loves us but he is unsure of what he wants. Any suggestions?
If you want to have a relationship with him you both need to be able to voice concerns with eachother. It's normal for him to feel like that. If you want to be with him you need to figure out exactly what you both want and remember that life throws you curves and things could end up the exact opposite but still be the best Good luck momma
Give him a chance he might feel overwhelmed by playing their "father role" already. He might feel like hes not ready, but these feelings will probably move along, and he will get used to it. Does he have kids of his own? If not thats probably why he feels like he cant step up to the plate. Value his opinions, don't discourage him. He sounds like a true sweetheart, and with a little work and effort, anything can happen. Good luck !
He really didn't "know" what he was getting into. As new parents of our own biological children it's still a shock and an adjustment. It's perfectly normal, in his case he didn't get 9 months to prepare for each kid and he jumped into it and it's hard on him adjusting. Men sometimes think having a wife and kids is easy as pie and they get kinda bummed when they realize it's not all sunshine and roses, especially when the kids aren't his