Quoting proudlypreggers:" I understand the whole waiting until they are ready thing but what if they arent ready until maybe 5-6 ... [snip!] ... later? I mean that does more harm then good correct? Especially with starting school and other extra curricular activities."

My son isn't potty trained. He will be 4 in January. He is scared of the potty. We've been introducing it slowly, and the more I push the more resistant he is. Nobody knows personally what we are going through, as someone said, children with special ( or what I like to call different) needs set their own standard. I am not going to cause my son emotional distress over it.

Quoting Turd Ferguson:" My son isn't potty trained. He will be 4 in January. He is scared of the potty. We've been introducing ... [snip!] ... ( or what I like to call different) needs set their own standard. I am not going to cause my son emotional distress over it."

My son will be 5 in Jan and *gasp* he isnt pt'd yet either.

Quoting proudlypreggers:" and where exactly was i going? people came in answered the question and didnt take offensive to it. I asked a general question bc it was something being discussed in my home about my SOs daughter"

or do you mean 'daughter' ?

& how can you possibly 'disagree' w/ her 4-yr-old in diapers? do you not understand the autism spectrum at all? holy smurf...

Quoting Epic Big Head:" You proudly stated you hit your kids. I hope your stepdaughter's mother is smart enough to keep her daughter far away from you. You sound unstable and possibly dangerous."

     

Quoting £egendary Zeppelin:" or do you mean 'daughter' ? & how can you possibly 'disagree' w/ her 4-yr-old in diapers? do you not understand the autism spectrum at all? holy smurf..."

how does what i put in between his daughter concern you? also i came at her when she came at me as i said if a person cant take it dont dish it.

My son was fully potty trained, daytime and nighttime when he was 2 years old. Honestly I think MOST children should be potty trained by the time they are 3 years old . Unless there is a medical reason such as Austism or bladder/bowel issue, then they should be potty trained. I'm not talking about bed wetting either, some children do have that issue and maybe wearing a pull up at night would help. I'm sorry but a perfectly normal 4 or 5 year old wearing a diaper during the day? No.

Quoting Atticus & Rhys's Mommy:" My son was fully potty trained, daytime and nighttime when he was 2 years old. Honestly I think MOST ... [snip!] ... wearing a pull up at night would help. I'm sorry but a perfectly normal 4 or 5 year old wearing a diaper during the day? No."

 
this is what ive been saying all along.

Quoting Atticus & Rhys's Mommy:" My son was fully potty trained, daytime and nighttime when he was 2 years old. Honestly I think MOST ... [snip!] ... wearing a pull up at night would help. I'm sorry but a perfectly normal 4 or 5 year old wearing a diaper during the day? No."

Perfectly normal? I don't know anyone like that.  

Quoting * Sara *:" Perfectly normal? I don't know anyone like that.  "

lol!

I don't think people realize that when kids are developmentally ready, they will potty train themselves, with only a little assistance from parents. We don't force them to walk, we don't force them to talk and toilet training is just another developmental milestone.

Quoting Epic Big Head:" lol! I don't think people realize that when kids are developmentally ready, they will potty train themselves, ... [snip!] ... parents. We don't force them to walk, we don't force them to talk and toilet training is just another developmental milestone. "

Yep. I like to guide my children, not force them to grow up early just to make it easier on me.

Its like saying "oh bc my child isnt ready to learn he/she doesnt have to go to school" I know tons of kids who dont like school. Should they not go bc of this? Should they not be educated? It isnt so much forcing your child to PT, its giving them a push in the right direction. Some respond and some dont but some moms dont even put forth an effort. People like to say he/she will tell me when they are ready but what if they are never ready? What if they are content with their mother or father wiping their asses at 9 or 10 years old? I guarantee then the issue would be "forced." My children had no issues, except for accidents here or there but just bc they had an accident i didnt give up and say he and she isnt ready, i took my time with them. Its not like i said "oh do this or ima whoop your ass" no i took baby steps (bought the singing potty, rewarded them, praised them, etc) and got what i wanted and what they needed accomplished.

Quoting Epic Big Head:" lol! I don't think people realize that when kids are developmentally ready, they will potty train themselves, ... [snip!] ... parents. We don't force them to walk, we don't force them to talk and toilet training is just another developmental milestone. "

Really and a 5 year old isnt ready to use a toilet? Sure by all means send them to kindergarten in a diaper.

Quoting proudlypreggers:" Its like saying "oh bc my child isnt ready to learn he/she doesnt have to go to school" I know tons of ... [snip!] ... steps (bought the singing potty, rewarded them, praised them, etc) and got what i wanted and what they needed accomplished."

My daughter let me know when she was ready and I followed her cues. She did amazingly and we had NO set backs. Pushing a child to sit on a potty does not guarantee they will be ready to utilize it when they need to.

Quoting On hold.:" My daughter let me know when she was ready and I followed her cues. She did amazingly and we had NO ... [snip!] ... we had NO set backs. Pushing a child to sit on a potty does not guarantee they will be ready to utilize it when they need to."

What exactly do you consider a setback? I ask bc would you consider an 8 year old who has a bad dream and pisses himself a setback? Again i never pushed my children to sit on the potty. I had them go when i went, i asked them throughout the day did they have to go. PTing doesnt consist of just sitting your child on the potty day in and day out until they go... Also bc your child showed interest doesnt mean that every child is. Some children have to be introduced to certain things before they want to do it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting proudlypreggers:</b>" Its like saying "oh bc my child isnt ready to learn he/she doesnt have to go to school" I know tons of ... [snip!] ... steps (bought the singing potty, rewarded them, praised them, etc) and got what i wanted and what they needed accomplished."</blockquote>

Obviously not very educated. And judgemental. Like everyone has said along- because you made your child to potty train doesn't mean it was right. Maybe they were ready to some point because if they weren't ready they absolutely wouldn't have been able to be trained no matter what you did or didn't do.

You are in the medical field and should know there are not any normal kids. The correct terminology is TYPICAL, DEVELOPMENTALLY DELAYED and kids who are typical will potty train themselves in a home that isn't a abuseful or neglectful well before the age of 9 or 10.

Also, school is a joke in comparison. School Ina's guidelines and ages kids start school for developmental preschool and general education. In developmental school kids don't have to be potty trained even in the public school system. In general education it is a requirement to start school to not be in diapers, because by kinrgarten barring medical conditions kids or neglect etc. kids will be trained.