Family issues advice

Ugh. I absolutely love dh. 99% of the times he's amazing except when it comes to my family. His family was horrible growing up. They were mentally and physically abusive. My family is very close. When I get out of he navy were moving to tx with my parents. Now he's all like why your family why not move by mine. I sit there like babe you hate your family. I'm not against it but if you hate them why do you wanna go back. He won't give me a real answer but I think he's hoping he can make his family be as close as mine and I'm like you're not going to change them at this point. Your sisters are miserable. Why do you wanna take ds into that? He says he doesn't but why can't we move somewhere where neither of us have family. I tried to explain I'm open to that but then we might as well stay here because the point of moving was to be near family. I just don't know how to get him tosee it. My family is the kind of family he always wanted and they love him and welcome him with open arms but instead he pushes away and wants to change his family. Idk what to do anymore or how to help him.