My opinion changed on this once I had my son. I used to always wonder why people didn't just give a baby up for adoption because it seemed so simple. Somebody wants a baby, you give birth to a baby, now they have one. So simple. But then I got pregnant and went through labor and delivery. I bonded with my baby and I realized how physically and mentally difficult the entire pregnancy can be. From the first weeks to the moment you have a baby in your arms, it's hard work.
Now I know that I would not wish to do that all again unless I was ready to be a mom of two kids or if I knew for certain I had adoptive parents lined up and could emotionally handle basically giving my child away. I don't think I could deal with handing my baby off, even if I was allowed visitations and all that. It'd be too much.. And keeping the baby would be incredibly unfair to my son if I was pregnant now. He deserves my undivided attention.
I hope I never need an abortion because it would be a terrifying experience for me but ultimately it'd be the route I'd choose at this time.
<blockquote><b>Quoting emmygog[Felix's Mommy]:</b>" My opinion changed on this once I had my son. I used to always wonder why people didn't just give a baby ... [snip!] ... need an abortion because it would be a terrifying experience for me but ultimately it'd be the route I'd choose at this time."</blockquote>
Well said and totally understandable. Additionally, getting over the social aspect would be hard since everyone gets "excited for you" and asks questions assuming you will be raising the baby.
It takes a special mom to put their adopt-out their child.
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