Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote><b>Quoting she nan igans:</b>" Wow. I'm sorry, but your entire post sort ... [snip!] ... older kids. She had them about 2 yrs so it's not like she didn't try. Some people just can't handle that. Everyones different."
So because someone you know had a bad experience ALL foster kids are bad? That's my point, you're implying that all foster kids are basically hopeless cases that most people wouldn't want to deal with (and rightly so).
For one, ALL kids destroy crap. Secondly, you realize that a lot of kids are sexually abused who are not in any sort of foster care, right? So these parents who aren't "cut out" for adopting older kids can still end up with children who were sexually abused. It happens a lot more then people like to admit. Are you saying these parents should send their kids to foster care because they've become too difficult to deal with? Or is it only kids who are sexually abused and then in foster care who become uncontrollable monsters?
I'm not saying everyone needs to adopt older kids, but I *AM* saying that your comments are some of the reasons people don't. Because there is this feeling that they're all the way you're describing. They aren't, and even some who DO have issues can be worked through.