re: why aren't many people keen on giving babies up for adoption

How is this even a question?

Because it's kind of hard to give up your own flesh and blood.  

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Quoting **Hanna**:" I just got a wide variety of expression. Thank you so much ladies. I needed that."

O_o Well okay then.

<blockquote><b>Quoting thewarmth:</b>" Far too many children that need to be adopted already. Why don't people adopt 12 year old kids and only ... [snip!] ... No thanks, I'm not going to risk bringing another life into the world and them being abused, etc. I would feel responsible."</blockquote>


There's a lot more risk. Adopt an abused 12 yr old than there is to adopt a newborn. Some people aren't cut out for it. So if you're I fertile you Gould only be allowed to adopt older kids? They shouldn't be given a chance to have a newborn?

I gave my 8 y/o son up for adoption, and I get to see him all the time! BUT ... I don't agree with how he's being raised and he's having all kinds of issues. I know I would personally never choose adoption again, if I truly like, no way in hell could parent, I'd abort.

<blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting she nan igans:</b>" You wish it was easier? So we had even ... [snip!] ... will happen to the child. They might go back home they might not. Some people jut want a baby. They don't want a foster child."</blockquote>




And that incredibly sad that people feel that way. Older children who have issues need families too.

because I'm not an incubator for anyone but myself.

Quoting Just_a_Stranger:" I gave my 8 y/o son up for adoption, and I get to see him all the time! BUT ... I don't agree with how ... [snip!] ... of issues. I know I would personally never choose adoption again, if I truly like, no way in hell could parent, I'd abort."

You gave him up for adoption when he was 8, or he's 8 now?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Andi+Andy=Marley+1:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting she nan ... [snip!] ... And that incredibly sad that people feel that way. Older children who have issues need families too."</blockquote>

Not everyone is cut out to foster older children. I don't say it wasn't sad. Just not everyone can physically and emotionally do it.

Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote><b>Quoting she nan igans:</b>" You wish it was easier? So we had even ... [snip!] ... will happen to the child. They might go back home they might not. Some people jut want a baby. They don't want a foster child."

Wow. I'm sorry, but your entire post sort of makes me sick. I hope you're saying thats what people FEAR, not the reality. Because, really? Sexually abused kids ruin smurf and try to kill people? Please lord tell me you're explaining the flawed reason, not the truth.

However, that's the POINT. If people want kids bad enough why not adopt the ones available instead of using my uterus as a rent-a-space for kids that are exactly what they want. There are PLENTY of kids out there if people want to adopt. The reason they aren't adopted is because there are babies available. Everytime a baby is placed, there goes the chance at a home for a kid already is foster care. So by having babies and putting them up for adopted, you're taking homes out of the already small group of people who MIGHT adopt an older child.

Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote><b>Quoting she nan igans:</b>" You wish it was easier? So we had even ... [snip!] ... will happen to the child. They might go back home they might not. Some people jut want a baby. They don't want a foster child."

Pretty much why in the other post I said I wouldn't want an older child.

It may be hard to give up that baby once you carried it for 9 months and then actually see him or her.

I support adoption though, which is was something people did more often. But apparently not many people can do it, it cost alot of money. Which is probably why so many kids are in their waiting for familes.

Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote><b>Quoting thewarmth:</b>" Far too many children that need to be adopted ... [snip!] ... it. So if you're I fertile you Gould only be allowed to adopt older kids? They shouldn't be given a chance to have a newborn?"

Anyone can adopt whoever they want.
I just don't take a word a prolifer says seriously when they say they would only adopt a newborn.
I guess a newborns life is more "ideal" than an older child's life?
That's kind of smurffy lol.
If someone really wanted to help children, they would help the children that don't have anyone, not the newborns that will indefinitely get adopted quickly.

Quoting Andi+Andy=Marley+1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting she nan ... [snip!] ... And that incredibly sad that people feel that way. Older children who have issues need families too."

Exactly. And older children may not even have all these issues. Not to mention kids who aren't adopted can have a ton of these issues too. It's easy to say it here, but I bet people would feel like smurfs if they actually had to look at these kids, many of whom work hard in school and do their best, that they are just "too much risk" for someone to want to give them a home.

<blockquote><b>Quoting bbbt:</b>" How is this even a question? Because it's kind of hard to give up your own flesh and blood.  "</blockquote>




Well it is actually a good question.

There are tons of women getting abortions...
They at giving up their flesh and blood to death right??

My question is simply trying to understand.

I gave up a child for adoption, yes its hard. It tears you apart
But I wouldn't have it any other way now.

I contemplated abortion with this one....still not sure what we are going to do... The I've I have up is with a family member.

But if we choose adoption, we will choose a closed adoption this time.

So, no, i.e. don't believe my question is a waste. I'm just trying to get a feel for what others think.