re: Fantasising about ex's

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mum-of-2:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting NessaLovely:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mum-of-2:</b>" ... [snip!] ... hasn't made me think this much! In a sexual way- I'm very frustrated. The sex is good but not all that I want or think I need."</blockquote>



So what are you thinking and how do you feel what do you think you want ?

In terms of a relationship?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mum-of-2:</b>" In terms of a relationship?"</blockquote>




Your In a situation ,

You love you so but you
Fantasize of your ex while with you so!

You don't want to think like that forever do u ?  
That's what I mean by what do you think you want ?

<blockquote><b>Quoting NessaLovely:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mum-of-2:</b>" In terms of a relationship?"</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... ex while with you so! You don't want to think like that forever do u ?   That's what I mean by what do you think you want ?"</blockquote>




No, I want to stop thinking about ex.

Quoting Mum-of-2:" Please don't quote. I feel guilty, I'm always thinking of sex with an ex. Sometimes even while having ... [snip!] ... push. Ugh I've pretty much just kept this to myself. I feel awful but I don't know what to do here. Any advice would be great!"

I do the same thing. Except it's just about one person because the sex was so passionate. & right now sex with SO, is non-existent.

Quoting Mum-of-2:" <blockquote><b>Quoting JohnSilverSmith:</b>" I've been on the receiving end of this ... [snip!] ... men. Though I've never said someone else's name. I'd never admit this him because it would hurt him but I feel pretty terrible."

Yeah, I thought it was erectile dysfunction at first. But in reality, I thought about what the reason was for losing it and lo and behold it was the same thing each time. It hasn't happened like a thousand times, BUT it has happened a few dozen times over the years. Nothing will make me lose an erection faster than thinking about my wife getting railed by another dude. Just knowing how much she likes sex, it makes me ill to think of her being that way with someone other than me. The whole intimate carnal knowledge thing is something that I know that I'll never get over in my life.

Some of the few people who know my private business tell me that it is not a big deal and that it is normal for people to have sex with other people before they get married. This just makes it worse because what they are telling me is that I'm not normal because I don't like to think of my wife having sex with other men. I guess I'm not normal for feeling the way that I do, but I was raised a certain way and I actually BELIEVE in how I was raised. My sister is the same way. Only her husband has the same belief system and they "waited" for each other.

I thought that at some point that I could put this behind me, but in reality I never will. She has said that losing your virginity is not that good and this that and the other. BUT, she remembers her first time having sex with Bill but not her first time with me. She uses the excuse that she thought that I wasn't a virgin either. It bothers me that sex isn't as big a deal for her as it is for me. I've never shared that part of me with anyone but her because I never wanted to share sex with anyone other than my wife. Now that we've been through some things(see my other posts), I know that she completely trivializes her sex life but not mine. She is OBSESSED with me not being with anyone else, but I can't talk about her WITH her without her tripping offline on me. She doesn't want our business out there for everyone to know, but went around bragging that she took my virginity. It's a matter of what is good for the goose SHOULD be good for the gander, but she is EXTREMELY hypocritical that way.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mum-of-2:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting NessaLovely:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mum-of-2:</b>" ... [snip!] ... do u ?   That's what I mean by what do you think you want ?"</blockquote> No, I want to stop thinking about ex."</blockquote>




Sorry I been MIA lol

It sux our minds think of things even when you don't want them to be there :/

If you are thinking about your Ex, you are not getting fulfilled in your current relationship. If you and your current cannot move towards fulfilling your needs I would say it is a deal breaker. It is one thing to compare different relationships, it is another to fantasize about past lovers. It is mentally cheating on your current partner and if they don't please you, you should leave them.