What would you do?

If you found out your SO cheated in the past? Would you leave him no matter what? What factors would influence it? How long ago would it need to be? What about the circumstances of your relationship at the time? Who it was? How long the "relations" lasted? Whether he came clean or you found out?

Just curious  

I think it's extremely complicated.
Hard to even think about but I probably would stay and try to work through it, unless it was a friend of mine or family member then I'd leave.
And if I found out and confronted him and he still lied then I'd probably leave for a while but not permanently if I felt we could work on it.

Quoting Daniee:" I think it's extremely complicated. Hard to even think about but I probably would stay and try to work ... [snip!] ... out and confronted him and he still lied then I'd probably leave for a while but not permanently if I felt we could work on it."

Yeah, I agree with pretty much everything you just said.

If it happened while we were married, yes I would leave. Not only is that being unfaithful. Not only is it being disrespectful. Not only would he be a liar. To do that, first of all, is awful. Then to lie to me about it (even keeping it from you is lying by omission) is even worse. I don't think I could EVER trust him again if that were to happen.

I stayed. I regret it.
He seemed sincere, but I learned he was just a huge con artist.


He cheated from the day I found out I was pregnant until right before I had DD. She ended up telling me, I forgave him. Things were great for a month, then went to hell again. We finally broke up for good on Tuesday. I finally feel like I have a chance to be happy again.

Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:" I stayed. I regret it. He seemed sincere, but I learned he was just a huge con artist. He cheated from ... [snip!] ... month, then went to hell again. We finally broke up for good on Tuesday. I finally feel like I have a chance to be happy again."

Good luck to you!!

Quoting Goldilocks*:" Good luck to you!!"

Thanks  
It's hard, but I'm truckin' along!  

Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:" Thanks   It's hard, but I'm truckin' along!  "

I always feel proud of people who leave a long term relationship, or a marriage, when it's difficult for them. Change that significant is really hard! Keep truckin' mama!

He forgave me, so I'd forgive him. It would be hard, but I've learned the hard way that I can't live without him.

I had known my bf for 2 years before we made our relationship official. 6 months into our relationship I discovered he had emotionally cheated on me with an ex.
It had lasted a couple months of our relationship and it really devastated me.
Honestly, it was his reaction to me finding out that kept me together with him. He had been at work at the time and when he called on his break I broke down crying and he figured out what was wrong.
He called off work, came home, and was as much of a mess as I was. He said he didn't deserve to be with me and understood if I left him. He took full blame for it all, even though I felt in the wrong for reading the email (it was left open).

If he had tried to blame me for parts, wouldn't take responsibility, I would've left. If he didn't make such an effort in fixing our relationship, there wouldn't of been a reason to stay.

It has taken a lot of time to get over and work.. It's been 4 years now, and we're doing really good. So I'd say it's possible.. though I guess I should add, if it had been an actual physical thing, I don't know if I would've been able to stay. :/
Tough question  

Quoting Goldilocks*:" I always feel proud of people who leave a long term relationship, or a marriage, when it's difficult for them. Change that significant is really hard! Keep truckin' mama!"

 
I've left and felt so weak so many times, but this time enough was enough. I want to set a better example for DD and show her settling and abuse is NEVER okay. I'm proud of myself, too  

Quoting Squeaky McGee:" He forgave me, so I'd forgive him. It would be hard, but I've learned the hard way that I can't live without him."

<3

Quoting Almyk:" I had known my bf for 2 years before we made our relationship official. 6 months into our relationship ... [snip!] ... guess I should add, if it had been an actual physical thing, I don't know if I would've been able to stay. :/ Tough question  "

I think a one time physical cheating would be easier to get over than an emotional relationship with someone he really cared for! Good for you guys for getting past it!

Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:"   I've left and felt so weak so many times, but this time enough was enough. I want to set a better example for DD and show her settling and abuse is NEVER okay. I'm proud of myself, too  "

You should be!

Quoting Goldilocks*:" I think a one time physical cheating would be easier to get over than an emotional relationship with someone he really cared for! Good for you guys for getting past it!"

I think it would've been more emotional for me.. in the sense that we were each others first, and that if it had been physical, then I'd feel like I was being compared or wasn't "good enough".
Might be weird sounding.. but it's kind of how I looked at it lol

Thank you