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Eff that! You didn't do crap wrong! He's just a selfish pig! There is NO excuse to cheat. My heart goes out to you momma. I'm so sorry you're going this. Get outta there asap! He doesn't deserve you anyway.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nikkie Beee:</b>" Eff that! You didn't do crap wrong! He's just a selfish pig! There is NO excuse to cheat. My heart goes ... [snip!] ... to cheat. My heart goes out to you momma. I'm so sorry you're going this. Get outta there asap! He doesn't deserve you anyway."</blockquote>




I know he doesn't and he knows he doesn't but how do I get over him he is my first and only love only guy I've been with sexually. Does it get better does the hurt go away?

Quoting ♥AlwaysJojo J.M.M:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Nikkie Beee:</b>" Eff that! You didn't do crap wrong! He's just ... [snip!] ... how do I get over him he is my first and only love only guy I've been with sexually. Does it get better does the hurt go away?"

Eventually. I'd be lying if I said it's to move on. But, you have to think of yourself and your self worth. I've been cheated on a few times, every time hurt worse and worse. My son's father cheated on me our entire relationship. I forgave him, I forgave him again and I forgave him some more. I caught him so many times, but I thought I really loved him so I put up with it. It NEVER stopped. I finally got tired of being his second option. I finally realized my self worth. I thought I was gonna die from all the pain of being apart from him. But then I met my SO who picked up all the pieces. Then I realized I was SO much better without him. I've never been happier...

Moral of my story is, once a cheater always a cheater. One way or another. There is someone out there for you. Even though you want it to be him, he doesn't want it to be you, otherwise he wouldn't have cheated. You deserve to be happy with someone who loves you and it satisfied with YOU!

NONE of this is your fault.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nikkie Beee:</b>" Eventually. I'd be lying if I said it's to move on. But, you have to think of yourself and your self ... [snip!] ... have cheated. You deserve to be happy with someone who loves you and it satisfied with YOU! NONE of this is your fault."</blockquote>




Thank you for sharing that with me. I hope one day I can find happiness. I'm just really scared I won't be able to love another guy like I do Dan.

Quoting ♥AlwaysJojo J.M.M:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Nikkie Beee:</b>" Eventually. I'd be lying if I said it's ... [snip!] ... that with me. I hope one day I can find happiness. I'm just really scared I won't be able to love another guy like I do Dan."

You will Momma. When you least expect it, this AMAZING man will walk into your life and you're gonna fall in love and wonder how you loved ANYONE but him (beside your kid(s) lol) Hang in there momma. If you EVER need a listening ear or advice or both, hit me up! I'm here pretty often  

Awe Jojo... I'm sorry   keep your chin up mama... There's bigger and better things out there for you. He isn't worth your time and you deserve happiness. You Wil find it you just need to focus on you and those babies!

I went through that with my daughters dad. I don't think I'll ever NOT love him. But you just have to know in your heart that you deserve more. It does get easier but I dont know if it'll go away.

Wow jojo what a dick head he is! Girl sorry but he put u thru so much and u have given that man so many chances, that I think u need to walk away at this point. Im a big believer in trying to keep the fan together and all but unless and until he is willing to make big change and work on himself as well as y'all relationship, i wouldn't bother. Let him be there for his kids but girl u r a loving woman and he is taking advantage of that. U need to show him u r not his door mat!

<blockquote><b>Quoting luvmomyhood:</b>" Wow jojo what a dick head he is! Girl sorry but he put u thru so much and u have given that man so many ... [snip!] ... be there for his kids but girl u r a loving woman and he is taking advantage of that. U need to show him u r not his door mat!"</blockquote>




Yeah I wanted to work it out but when I left my Life in mn to be with him in mt he knew it was his last shot with me and he blew it out of the smurfing water in the worst way. I've never had so much hate for him if I would have gotten away with I would have punched him right in the face today. So I sit here play nice until I can go home to mn to be with my family and friends.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥AlwaysJojo J.M.M:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting luvmomyhood:</b>" Wow jojo what a dick head he is! Girl sorry ... [snip!] ... have punched him right in the face today. So I sit here play nice until I can go home to mn to be with my family and friends."</blockquote>

I know it isn't easy but don't even waste energy hating him. Just focus on ur kids and ur plans and let him c u not even bothered by it...until u move back just do you. If u have to cry do it when he is not home. When he is, go for a walk by yourself Or get dolled up and just treat urself for coffee or even go for drive, don't tell him where u r going either. Limit contact. No need to beat and a dead horse. If he knew this was his last chance and he still did it, then he either doesnt believe u when u say its his last hance or doesnt care or has some serious problem but let him fiugre it out. If i were u, i wouldnt figtht or argue with him. I would limit all communication based on only about the kids. Shoot, let him take care of the kids. Let him take care of the kids on his own, show him what u go thru with 3 kids. And just act like u r already over it and over him. Bum ass. I'm so mad for u!

<blockquote><b>Quoting luvmomyhood:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♥AlwaysJojo J.M.M:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... on his own, show him what u go thru with 3 kids. And just act like u r already over it and over him. Bum ass. I'm so mad for u!"</blockquote>




I hear u and good advice but now I think he will help me less with the kids he got home at noon and spent the who day in the bedroom and helped me once with harlee cause she was hungry and I was busy making dinner for the kids. But that's okay it just reminds me that I am able to take of my babies with out him. I still even found time to do a workout. That's what I do for myself eat right and work out. I've lost 12lbs so far this month. So I'm so happy about that. But yes I know I am never going to know y he did this to me and I'll have to be okay with that. Which is going to be hard.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥AlwaysJojo J.M.M:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting luvmomyhood:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♥AlwaysJojo ... [snip!] ... But yes I know I am never going to know y he did this to me and I'll have to be okay with that. Which is going to be hard."</blockquote>

Well good for u for taking care of urself and losing the weight, keep at it. It will empower you. He will realize how good he had it with you, and will regret it. But know u deserve better.