Quoting Is that still my name?:" Is Zane autistic? I never knew he had speech problems. My MAIN concern for his age is his fear and ... [snip!] ... grown a lot as a person since getting help. You are very, very correct in saying early treatment is the key... autistic or not."
Yes he was diagnosed this summer with PDD-NOS (a form of autism). Zane's main problem with other is he doesn't understand emotions well and doesn't understand he hurts people. Also his lack of speech makes him hit more due to lack of communication (ex: kid has a toy he wants, he can't say, can I have that, so he hits him for it.) But he doesn't get aggressive just from someone looking at him. Honestly, that sounds like it could be something else. I know every child with autism is different, but I haven't heard of that being a symptom. Lots of autistic children don't make good eye contact, but I don't know about looking at them bothering them.
I personally wouldn't worry about Lilah at this point. LOTS of babies at this age stop saying as much b/c they are mastering other skills. And Jace never follows directions and throws some lovely fits. I think some of our babies just like to hit those terrible 2's early. We can just call them advanced ;)