Smurf you mom

Today I found out that my mom brought my cousin to have an abortion. The same mother that still to this day calls me a baby killer because of mine. The same mother who completely shunned me and made me feel worthless for over a year because of mine. The same mother who threatened to call in a bomb threat at the abortion clinic when I was having mine. The same mother who refused to support me and instead chose to be little, bully and torment me when I had mine, the mother who turned a cold shoulder when I needed her most.
I am so smurfing unbelievably sad, I feel betrayed. She has always loved my cousin like she was her own daughter, taking her in giving her my clothes, bedroom, for a while she completely replaced me with this girl. And she was there for her when she needed her....she held her hand and supported her 100% something I literally would have given an arm and a leg for when I was in the same situation.
Smurf you mom.
 

Hugs. I'm so sorry. She had no right to guilt you or make you feel badly for your choice.

Wow... That really is smurffy of her. You have every right to be upset. I'm sorry... I chose to keep mine this past february a secret from my mom. But I had a very supportive SO.

Ouch that has to hurt . I'm sorry your mom would do that to you .

That is a horrible thing for anybody to make another woman feel bad when making such a tough decision like this.... But perhaps she felt so strongly about you & your situation, because what happened with your cousin effected her negatively? Maybe she felt guilt that she agreed with your cousins decision, so she took it out on you. Although, that's never a reason to treat you so badly  

Oh gosh, I'm so so sorry. I'd be so hurt and upset.
Do you plan to talk to her about it?

That's terrible! I don't see how a mother can turn away her own daughter. I mean..My sisters and I have all hurt my mothers feelings, but my mom would always be there for us. Regardless. Prison, abortion clinics, sex-change doctors, whatever..She would be there.

Your mother sounds ridiculous and you have every right to be upset. If she was against abortion when you decided, I can't understand why it would suddenly seem okay to her for this other girl!

Quoting ma ♥:" That is a horrible thing for anybody to make another woman feel bad when making such a tough decision ... [snip!] ... that she agreed with your cousins decision, so she took it out on you. Although, that's never a reason to treat you so badly  "

Well no, because my abortion was four years ago and my cousins just happened a few weeks ago. Her main issue with mine was control. She always told me that if I ever got pregnant she was 'driving me straight to Toronto to have an abortion' she scared the living smurf right out of me to the point where I tried to do it without her knowing. Because of complications that are too long to get into now I had no choice but to tell her and because it wasn't her decision, she lost her lid.

Quoting NICKEL☮POLIS:" Well no, because my abortion was four years ago and my cousins just happened a few weeks ago. Her main ... [snip!] ... that are too long to get into now I had no choice but to tell her and because it wasn't her decision, she lost her lid."

Oh.. Well that doesn't make sense. She threatened you with abortion if you ever got pregnant, then she shunned you for going through with it.
That's not right. A mother should support their children in practically anything.
I'm sorry, that's not fair  

Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:" Oh gosh, I'm so so sorry. I'd be so hurt and upset. Do you plan to talk to her about it?"

Nope, she's not the type you talk to about anything to be honest. It would just cause drama that I don't need in my life. I keep her at a distance in my life, and this just helps confirm that it's the right decision for me. She hurts me too bad.

Quoting Tiger Lily ♥:" That's terrible! I don't see how a mother can turn away her own daughter. I mean..My sisters and I have ... [snip!] ... If she was against abortion when you decided, I can't understand why it would suddenly seem okay to her for this other girl!"

Thank you.
I agree, I would be there for DD NO MATTER WHAT through anything, even if it was not something I agreed with because she is my daughter and it is my job. My mom really is ridiculous though... and she was never against abortion, she had one herself. Just against her child doing something that wasn't in her control.

Wow I'm so sorry. That makes me sad for you.   Nothing is worse than your own mother not being there for you. I know how that feels, just not your particular situation. Hugs.

Quoting NICKEL☮POLIS:" Today I found out that my mom brought my cousin to have an abortion. The same mother that still to this ... [snip!] ... her 100% something I literally would have given an arm and a leg for when I was in the same situation. Smurf you mom.  "

I'm so sorry.
If i lived near you.. i would punch your mom in the face.
What a bitch.

<blockquote><b>Quoting NICKEL☮POLIS:</b>" Today I found out that my mom brought my cousin to have an abortion. The same mother that still to this ... [snip!] ... her 100% something I literally would have given an arm and a leg for when I was in the same situation. Smurf you mom.  "</blockquote>




Personally I would tell her exactly what you just told us. Maybe age needs a reality check.

Wow its sumin deeper then that ya mom not telling you she need a slap in the face to wake her ass up n let her know what it is you mite wanna talj to ya cousin if u cant get thru to ya mother thats not rite