Quoting 💙Jenny&Boopy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" Sounds like he works very hard and needed ... [snip!] ... with the kids."</blockquote> I would love to but I don't have a valid license right now so I can't drive anywhere."

Maybe that's something you should work on as well.

<blockquote><b>Quoting summerbabyX2:</b>" I understand where you're coming from, my husband is asleep right now and I'm all alone. It's tough being ... [snip!] ... needed to blow off some stream too, maybe go with him next time or just the 2 or you go out. BTW, I'm from Pittsburgh too"</blockquote>


Before I had LO we talked about getting a sitter once a week for date night after he came because I was getting depressed never leaving the house. I Russ I should bring that up again.   that's cool, I live in Baldwin.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Angela & Austin's Mama  :</b>" Happens to me all that time. DH is getting ready to go hunting for 2 weeks too so I will see him even ... [snip!] ... out and don't trust them and all that. I try to let him have fun when he can. He works hard so he needs some play time too : )"</blockquote>


Glad I'm not alone. Idk, he just always hears his friends bitch about their wives or girlfriends who won't let them go out ever and I don't want to be like that but at the same time I miss him a lot and it kinda makes me feel like he doesn't want to spend time with me because he's with them like 12 hours then wants to hang out all night too.

<blockquote><b>Quoting SLB 4 JRB:</b>" i would be upset but i do the same thing and then when he gets home i tell him how i felt because if ... [snip!] ... tell him how you feel so you dont bottle your feelings and take it out on your others or him and not relize it but be calm."</blockquote>


True, I'm horrible with talking though. I just get really nervous talking about anything and idk why.

Quoting 💙Jenny&Boopy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting SLB 4 JRB:</b>" i would be upset but i do the same thing and ... [snip!] ... True, I'm horrible with talking though. I just get really nervous talking about anything and idk why."

You could always do what my husband and I are too angry to talk to each other, which is rare. We text each other because we express ourselves better in writing. We can be in the same house and text each other when we've had a fight. I think that's only ever happened maybe 3 times though.

<blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" Maybe that's something you should work on as well."</blockquote>

Well it's a long story, but Idk if ill ever be getting it back. I should have it back in march but due to a judgement against me, it may never be reinstated. Yeah, it's my fault and I understand that. But it was a long chain of events that ended up with me being screwed over thanks in part to other people.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nicole :</b>" I'd be annoyed but let him bc he does work hard, even though the see escorted at work its not the same ... [snip!] ... the same as hanging out and relaxing with done drinks. Find a hobby to do with the kids. I no its hard bc I go through it to"</blockquote>


Yeah, that's why I keep my mouth shut because I feel like he deserves to go have some fun. But at the same time I miss him and I'd like to leave the house sometimes too other than doctors appointments and stuff like that.

<blockquote><b>Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:</b>" You could always do what my husband and I are too angry to talk to each other, which is rare. We text ... [snip!] ... We can be in the same house and text each other when we've had a fight. I think that's only ever happened maybe 3 times though."</blockquote>


That's a good idea! Idk why I can't talk to people, it's like I want to but I can't get the words out. Maybe I'll try to text him before I pass out.

I should be asleep  . LO is finally sleeping good and I'm up like a jackass. I'm just kinda worried too because he walked down there and our road isn't the safest. So he's either going to walk back drunk at some point or come home tomorrow which wouldn't be good because there's trust issues from past bs.   idk LO just woke up, gonna feed him then try to sleep.

Quoting 💙Jenny&Boopy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:</b>" You could always do what my ... [snip!] ... why I can't talk to people, it's like I want to but I can't get the words out. Maybe I'll try to text him before I pass out."

I used to be like that too. It was like they'd literally get stuck in my throat and I could feel the lump. But over time, my husband has broken down that wall. No matter how stupid it was, he'd always comfort me and listen and not criticize me.

<blockquote><b>Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:</b>" I used to be like that too. It was like they'd literally get stuck in my throat and I could feel the ... [snip!] ... my husband has broken down that wall. No matter how stupid it was, he'd always comfort me and listen and not criticize me."</blockquote>


I think my SO would be understanding. Idk what's wrong with me that I can't communicate. I get really anxious and just shut down. Like he'd call from work or being out and say something that kinda upset me so I'd get all quiet. He'd ask whats wrong and I'd say nothing's wrong. He'd get pissed and wouldn't come home until really late. I was like   Why are you staying out when I'm upset because you aren't home? That just makes it worse. And he'd say because he doesn't wanna be around me when I'm mopey or mad. I tried saying I'd b happier if you were home more but he didn't get it. It doesn't help that he's been coming home most nights and passing out within an hour or two yet tonight came home all energetic and excited to go see the guys. It kinda makes me feel bad like he doesn't like spending time with me. I'm pretty sure I'm just overreacting but idk, I'm just so damn insecure about a lot and i just always feel like nobody wants to be around me :/.

I would have been upset but would have done the exact same thing.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Raptor Jesus (TTC):</b>" I would have been upset but would have done the exact same thing. "</blockquote>


Do you have problems talking about things too? If you don't kind me asking.

I feel like a doormat sometimes. Idk if he realizes it or not but he takes me for granted.

It's 4:30 AM and he's still not home  . I'm sitting here crying like an idiot. Can't sleep. Idk if I should call him? If I do and he doesn't answer I'll just get more upset, but if I don't I'm going to worry if he's ok or not. People fly down my road like smurfs. I doubt he gives two smurfs what time it is though. He'll say he lost track of time or whatever. Idk if its just me, but leaving at 8 PM to go right down the street gives you plenty of time I see no need to be out still this late. He's 30 with a family not 18 and single. I'm just gonna try to go to sleep.

I'm sure you've had your fill of opinions by now, but for the record...I'd be beyond smurfing pissed.

Dh works.....A LOT. But when he's not working I expect him to devote every second of his time to Dominic and Angela. Why? Because I didn't smurf myself, nor did I get myself pregnant. lol. He begged and pleaded for this baby for 5 years. As a matter of fact when he did ask about going to hang out with his buddies last week, he got an ear full. I don't EVER get to leave the house, I barely have time to take a smurf, and I have to somehow make dinner,lunch breakfast,do laundry,help with homework,clean the house and keep smurf from falling apart all while attempting to keep our colic son happy. Do I have a social life? HELL No. ROFL. As a matter of fact I'm even nice and don't make DH get up at night with the baby. So smurf him. LMFAO. If I want him to sit there and stare at us all day every day while he's not at work.... Then I'll be damned if that's not what he's going to do.  His buddies? Can suck an enormous smurfing horse cock. He attempted to bitch to one of his friends about me ect, and he wound up getting an earful from his own damn friend. LMAO His buddy has 4 kids, and told my husband that he's lucky he gets to sleep at night.   So are you beyond reason for not wanting him out and about having fun while you're sleep deprived and ready to rip your hair out? Negative. Says DH's friend Brian. LMAO

Quoting 💙Jenny&Boopy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:</b>" I used to be like that too. ... [snip!] ... just overreacting but idk, I'm just so damn insecure about a lot and i just always feel like nobody wants to be around me :/."

Aww....  You know what...don't look at it that way. 98% of guys are just smurfing morons when it comes to these things. Sure Dh is all excited when Dom is happy and playful, but it's like asking him to eat a plate of smurf if I ask him to hold Dom while baby boy is upset. LMAO. Most men just suck at life when it comes to dealing with emotional things. Some of it's just hormones, the other is just justifiably angry/upset. Don't let it get to you, just communicate how he;s making you feel..WHILE he's home and can't escape...  Do it while he's holding the baby....  You're upset, and that's understandable. He should be spending most his time with his son. Perhaps you should have the..."This only happens once, and you can't have it back later" talks. His son is only going to say his first word ONCE, He'll only crawl for the first time ONCE, He'll only cut his first tooth ONCE ect.   That chat had my dh bawling and apologizing.