Older child on the spectrum, younger child off

Now I'm not for certain what the future holds for my family but I have a 4.5 year old son with autism, hes developmentally assessing around 2-2.5 years old so hes doing a lot of things a child around that age would but physically he can do things along with peers his age(running/jumping/climbing)

Today he was able to answer me when we went though animals and what noises they make, this is the first time hes done it for me. They just started working on it during ABA. While he was doing it I was so happy and proud. But then my heart sank a little...what if DS#2 is neurotypical. Hes 4 months old and meeting all his milestones, which I know is no indicator either way...but I'm getting off track.

What if at some point he passes DS#1? What do I do as a parent? This makes me sad to think about. I cant even put my thoughts into words. What if this upsets them?

Has your family gone through something similar?

I'm sorry to hear that. My cousin is autistic and him and his brother are both mentally retarted and they have a younger sister that is developmentally normal. My youngest cosin is 12 and she is so great with her older brothers who are 19 amd 21. She babysits them while my aunt sleeps because my aunt works third shift and she is really mature for her age. I think it has helped her to become more mature and intelligent bc she deals with the challeneges her brothers face. Don't be upset or sad because your son is not that far behind my cousin is around that age mentally and he is 21. I would just continue working with him and never give up and your youngest will be okay either way.

Quoting Elaina Layden:" I'm sorry to hear that. My cousin is autistic and him and his brother are both mentally retarted and ... [snip!] ... age mentally and he is 21. I would just continue working with him and never give up and your youngest will be okay either way."

I'm not sad that he has autism. Hes already developed so much in the year that we've been doing therapies. I just dont him to be sad if his brother passes him.

Quoting ♡Sarah♡ + 2:" I'm not sad that he has autism. Hes already developed so much in the year that we've been doing therapies. I just dont him to be sad if his brother passes him."

right now, I would just take one day at a time and not worry about it. My son has autistic red flags and is going to be evaluated on the 22nd of feb. And I am also pregnant right now. the same thought has crossed my mind, what if this new baby passes him in milestones, how would that make him feel. But I try not to worry too much about it

i think about this a lot... i am in a somewhat similar (but a little different) situation, my son is almost 5, he has aspergers. My daughter is 1 and neurotypical and she is getting to the level he is on certain things (like taking clothes off, which he JUST learned a couple of months ago and she learned last week). As of right now he doesn't really notice that side of it, but he does notice it socially. It comes easy to my daughter, anywhere we go she goes right off to play with little kids and they like her and play with her, while my son, though he wants to make friends, has trouble and is often perceived as 'weird' or 'odd', sometimes even with the other kids parents. This upsets and frustrates him, but there really is nothing we can do but help them through it the best we can... i think we worry about it and pay more attention to it than they do

Quoting ♡Sarah♡ + 2:" Now I'm not for certain what the future holds for my family but I have a 4.5 year old son with autism, ... [snip!] ... about. I cant even put my thoughts into words. What if this upsets them? Has your family gone through something similar?"

I just saw this post.

Amelia has passed up Gavin in nearly everything. I can't tell you how it makes me feel because I am not entirely sure. She will be 3 in January and Gavin will be 5 in March. I think because they are so close in age and Amelia is a bit ahead of the curve, it feels ok in my head.

I don't know.

It seems to confuse Amelia. She tries to talk to Gavin and he doesn't answer her.

However. She can say shapes/identify them verbally and Gavin can draw them. Amelia can't draw them and it is hit or miss if Gavin can verbally identify them.

so yeah. I didn't answer your question but I'm there and it must not affect me much.

Quoting CrapBag [VBA2C]:" I just saw this post. Amelia has passed up Gavin in nearly everything. I can't tell you how it makes ... [snip!] ... miss if Gavin can verbally identify them. so yeah. I didn't answer your question but I'm there and it must not affect me much."

This helps <3 when the time comes it might not matter to me too. I think I had a monthly visitor when I posted this.

Quoting ♡Sarah♡ + 2:" This helps <3 when the time comes it might not matter to me too. I think I had a monthly visitor when I posted this."

I'm glad it helps because when I reread what I wrote, it didn't make a lot of sense. Hopefully with 4 years between your boys it might not be as close as it sees like it will be. Kieren will get to a point where he will just fly with what he is learning. Eventually it won't be as hard for him to learn and he will catch up with is peers and all of this will be our past.

Quoting CrapBag [VBA2C]:" I'm glad it helps because when I reread what I wrote, it didn't make a lot of sense. Hopefully with ... [snip!] ... learning. Eventually it won't be as hard for him to learn and he will catch up with is peers and all of this will be our past."

My husband tells me the same thing and I believe him. But I always wonder. I need to be more optimistic.

Quoting ♡Sarah♡ + 2:" My husband tells me the same thing and I believe him. But I always wonder. I need to be more optimistic. "

I am going to delete this after you read it:

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See I know well adjusted adults on the spectrum too, they give me hope.