my biggest struggle :/

i'm 18 and have always had a low self esteem..
I know this sounds bad but my biggest struggle through out my pregnancy has been with the way my body is turning out, i'm slowly getting better, but it seems like every time i get content with my body another stretch mark appears!
i know my daughter will be more than worth it! It's just so hard for me to be content with my body now, i was getting into moddeling before i got prengant, i weighed 109, size 0 jeans, ZERO stretch marks... now i'm weighing in at 137 size 8-9, and i have stretch marks everywhere..
i'm trying to be happy with the body that i am in, i DO NOT want my daughter to go through the same insecurity issues that i went through growing up, and i want to be a good example for her, an example of a confident head strong woman...
I just wanted to vent about this issue, i try venting to my boyfriend and friends but none of them understand.. :/

So so common. I struggle with my body big time...especially in pregnancy. My husband is always reminding me "you're not fat, you're pregnant"

You're young. Odds are you will drop your weight quickly, and stretch marks fade. *hugs*

Most women would kill to be back down to 137 andsize 8 jeans after having a baby. I was 130 pre pregnancy, got up to 174, and I'm 15 pounds away from my pre baby weight. And there are things to help with stretch marks. They arent going to go away forever or totally fade, but they wont be nearly as noticeable. Remember, you can always lose that baby weight afet your LO gets here.

I've never been a size zero...but definitely know how you feel :/
I went from being a size medium shirt and size 5-8 (depending on the style) pants...to being in large clothing. My boyfriend tells me that he hasn't noticed and that I'm still pretty...blah blah blah. But it seems like every time that I can look in the mirror and say "okay...well I don't look like a pile of poo today..." Something happens (stretch marks, get told I'm measuring bigger than I should be, get told I'm bigger than the girl who's about to give birth) and I can't even look in the mirror anymore. :/

Friends who aren't pregnant really can't understand...and either can boyfriends. I don't think it's in them too. They can't understand because they've never been through it. It sucks, you'd think that they'd listen to you...and they try, they just don't get it. But hey...at least we get little ones to play with and love on in the end of it!  
The weight can come off, and the stretch marks will fade...and we still get the joys of our little ones

it's good to know I'm not the only one!
The only place i've gained weight other than my belly.. is my butt and my hips are huge! My boyfriend says he hasnt noticed it either but i know he has it just aggrivates me when he says that! Lol (horemones i guess)
I do my make up and stuff and say okay i don't look too bad today... Then I move to the closet and have NOTHING to wear cause everything that used to fit me won't even come up my legs  
But i'm glad I know I'm not the only one ! Thanks for the support and stuff(:
And your right at least we get our little ones <3
My daughter is worth every pound and every mark I get  

haha Honestly...he might not notice. Guys are kind of unobservant...and when they actually care about us, they don't notice a few pounds and new marks. haha
No problem!   Everyone can use a little support and stuff...it comes in handy big time. haha

I'm the same way! may not been a size 0 but stretch marks i did get. I always just tell myself that i'll get back to my weight it isn't impossible just a lott of work, and that the stretch marks where made from my body creating something beautiful.  

Your baby is worth it, <3

i dont have stretch marks that are that noticeable yet but i can tell they are there or they are at least in my mind. I was size 1 or 2 depending on the jeans and a S in shirts and im now a 5 in jeans and all my boyfriend can tell me is how "nice my ass has gotten" and that "you didn't get completely fat it went to you ass and boobs; your tummy's just him tossing and getting comfy you will lose it all once he is out" blahblahblah and it gets so annoying because i dont like to be stared at or exactly comfortable with how i look in my cloths anymore and when i do i feel like i wake up and im even bigger and i know im going to be because im only 24 almost 25 weeks but whenever i try and talk to anyone about it they say "you dont know what your talking about". Sometimes you just need to reinsurance that your not the only one that feels a certain way.

Quoting Veronika Karn:" i dont have stretch marks that are that noticeable yet but i can tell they are there or they are at least ... [snip!] ... know what your talking about". Sometimes you just need to reinsurance that your not the only one that feels a certain way. "

My boyfriend does the same thing, but it drives me crazy cause I know i looked ALOT smaller before, hes just trying to make me feel better, and trying to shut me up cause I bitch about how my body has changed constantly. I just can't get it out of my mind how different I am. Everyone I see tells me how my hips and butt have gotten huge... and ugh it's just frustrating!
I did need reassurance, cause most of the girls me and my boyfriend hang out with havent had kids yet and i feel like the only one that looks the way i do!

Quoting maddies.mommy2012:" My boyfriend does the same thing, but it drives me crazy cause I know i looked ALOT smaller before, ... [snip!] ... most of the girls me and my boyfriend hang out with havent had kids yet and i feel like the only one that looks the way i do!"

My boyfriend, his friends and my friends do the same thing!and i get that its changing because im pregnant but i still need to get used to it im not just gonna wake up and be like Oh look how cute that it. cause half my cloths just dont even fit anymore and it bothers me that my little sister and older sister fit into my cloths but i cant. and my boyfriend gets girls flirting with him constantly and all his friends that are girls are all really tiny and have the "perfect" country girl body and blahblahblah and it irritates me that i cant fit in my jeans and shirts but they can wear whatever and get his attention so easily and even though he tells me how beautiful i am and how im such a "cute pregnant" person he still tells his friends how great and skinny they are and its just something i havent gotten really comfortable with and he tries to re-insure me that after i have Kiyler ill go back to being how i was before within no time; but sometimes i get so exhausted from hearing it i call my friend skylar who is 34 35 weeks and see if shes gone threw any of it but shes married and her husband doesnt really talk to girls but she still fits in her damn jeans and wears her cloths because shes still extremely tiny. but she is someone i can vent to about how different her body actually is and i know im not the only one going threw it and that its okay to get irratated when my boyfriend tells me how nice my "rack" and "ass" have gotten buts its always nice to have someone else to talk to who is going threw the same situation.

Quoting Veronika Karn:" My boyfriend, his friends and my friends do the same thing!and i get that its changing because im pregnant ... [snip!] ... my "rack" and "ass" have gotten buts its always nice to have someone else to talk to who is going threw the same situation."

all my boyfriends friends call me "fatty" and chunky and stuff like that... it irritates the hell out of me and i try to brush it off. And i know, I try to talk to my friends about it but they think I'm being over dramatic and "hormonal" about the situation, but my boyfriend makes comments about how "tiny" our girl friends are, and it makes me wanna cry lol and he keeps saying "You'll get your body back.." but I know I'm never going to be the same, I have stretch marks all over me, and I have love handles for the first time ever, my hips are so much bigger and so is my ass... He makes fun of girls that are "bigger" cause of their pregnancy and it makes me feel that when he realizes that after I have maddie I'm not going to be the tiny size 0 he was with before, he's gonna be really disappointed.. we're about to get married, so i'm trying REALLY hard to be comfortable with myself and around him, it's just sooo sooo hard. Ugh. I hate it lol

Quoting maddies.mommy2012:" all my boyfriends friends call me "fatty" and chunky and stuff like that... it irritates the hell out ... [snip!] ... married, so i'm trying REALLY hard to be comfortable with myself and around him, it's just sooo sooo hard. Ugh. I hate it lo

My boyfriends friends are generally really nice about everything they just tell me they are gonna get Kiyler to chew and drink and an early age and give me smurf because i always tell them good luck with that one. but i dont have stretch marks that are really noticeable but to me i think i see them everywhere and im just not used to it because i wanna go back and be able to wear my jeans and all my cloths but idk if ill be able to no matter how often everyone tells me ill go back to normal as soon as Kiylers here but i just know its not going to happen so im trying to adjust but my friends tell me im just hormonal as well and that its just my hormones getting to me because they are "all over" the place but half the time i get so irritated with no one understanding me and telling me im just hormonal that i end up crying because none of my friends have kids and my friend skylar is pregnant but lives an hour away so i feel so alone and like no one understands where im coming from and it just frustrates me/

Quoting Veronika Karn:" My boyfriends friends are generally really nice about everything they just tell me they are gonna get ... [snip!] ... pregnant but lives an hour away so i feel so alone and like no one understands where im coming from and it just frustrates me/ "

I know how you feel, I never thought pregnancy would be this much of a struggle. It takes me like an hour to get dressed cause I don't have anything that fits me, except my boyfriends T-shirts :/ and all my friends are itty bitty and have never been through this. My stretch marks are BAD. To me they are anyways, but they're in places that noone will ever see, except me and my boyfriend, Zack. That's the part that bothers me most, I want him to be able to look at me and you know, like what he sees I guess, I don't know it's hard to explain. It just drives me crazy, but I've gotten better, I guess we just have to learn to except and love ourselves (easier said than done)
But our babies will be totally worth it <3 when are you due?

Quoting maddies.mommy2012:" I know how you feel, I never thought pregnancy would be this much of a struggle. It takes me like an ... [snip!] ... to learn to except and love ourselves (easier said than done) But our babies will be totally worth it <3 when are you due?"

that my biggest issue is getting dressed.. i usually throw on yoga pants and t-shirts sense they seem to be the only things i own that will fit no matter what. but my friend skylar keeps telling me to look at the stretch marks like "tiger marks" and to take pride of them. but all my other friends havent been threw this and they tell me i get to hormonal and that i over think/ react to how i see myself but that tends to frustrate me because how would they feel if they arent used to someone growing inside them. but i have gotten better; now i just need to figure out how to sleep better. but im so excited for kiyler to be here and cant wait to meet him and see his little face  
im due Jan. 23

Quoting Veronika Karn:" that my biggest issue is getting dressed.. i usually throw on yoga pants and t-shirts sense they seem ... [snip!] ... to sleep better. but im so excited for kiyler to be here and cant wait to meet him and see his little face   im due Jan. 23 "

"A stretch mark is a mark for every breath you took, every blink, every sleepy yawn.
On for every time you sucked your thumb, waved hello, closed your eyes, and slept in the most perfect darkness.
On for every time you had the hiccups. One for every dream you dreamed with me. It isn't every pretty anymore, some may even think it's ugly, Thats OK.
It was your home, it held you until my arms could, And for that I will always find something beautiful in it." - Cassie Fox
That's what I TRY to think of it as, they are tiger stripes...
And all I ever wear is yoga or pajama pants, maternity pants SUCK, lol they are so ugly and I hate them. Haha
Well Congratulations (: my baby girl is due December 9th but the doctor said she's probably gonna get here at the end of November.