Deleted though I did allow him, but he sat in the waiting room with his mom the whole time. : : .

How old are you guys? It sounds kinda immature to not let him in the room just cuz he broke up with you

I would allow him in there for his LO to be born...

Quoting *Soon 2B G0rda*:" How old are you guys? It sounds kinda immature to not let him in the room just cuz he broke up with you"

Thats what I was thinking... Immature.

I would not take the opportunity of seeing his child be born away from him for dumping me. So I voted let him in, but don't expect him to realize anything

Quoting *Soon 2B G0rda*:" How old are you guys? It sounds kinda immature to not let him in the room just cuz he broke up with you"

This. I didn't read all of the novel, but if the only reason you aren't letting him in the delivery room is because you guys broke up, it's a tad immature. However you are the one pushing a kid out of your vagina, if him being there would be uncomfortable for you, then don't let him.

Quoting *Soon 2B G0rda*:" How old are you guys? It sounds kinda immature to not let him in the room just cuz he broke up with you"

I was just about to ask the same thing.

It's his kid, regardless, and you might regret it later on if he is not there but it is entirely up to you who makes you feel comfortable and who does not make you feel comfortable during delivery.

He sounds like a real prize anyways...leaving you for another chick and getting arrested while you are in the hospital so if you chose no, I wouldn't blame you.

Honestly, that's a hard one. IMO, together or not, family or not, that you should only allow people who will support you in the delivery room. If he can be supportive of you, then I say go for it. If not, then don't bother...it'll only damper your experience of birth.

That being said, I wouldn't get my hopes up if I were you. He left you for another chick who was "leading him on," which was obviously happening WHILE you were together, otherwise he wouldn't have left. He got your text about being in the hospital and then decided to go out and have "fun" and get arrested. Is that really the stability you want for your LO?

I wouldn't not let him in there because he broke up with you.. but if he's not going to behave or if you think it'll make you too emotional then don't. You need to focus on giving birth, not on a broken relationship.

He needs to get on meds for his bipolar.

Here is my two cents: labor really is all about you, you have to do whatever you can to make yourself comfortable. In most situations, I would say to put the petty selfishness aside, and do what is best for the child; however in this case what is best for you is best for the child.

If you are more comfortable with him in the waiting room, then have him in the waiting room and he can come in as soon as your child.

Although this situation sounds immature, I do not think you choosing to keep him out of the delivery room is immature.

Quoting *Soon 2B G0rda*:" How old are you guys? It sounds kinda immature to not let him in the room just cuz he broke up with you"

   

The way you worded it OP sounds like youre almost making him feel pressured to be with you. Like if he isn't with you that you are going o let him be there. And be like well you dumped me so you can't see your son

The whole thing is petty and immature. Time to put the high school drama aside and do what's best for the baby. It isn't about your relationship right now, it's about your child together. Keeping him out of the room just because he's being a douche, is stupid. If you do it because you know he's just going to cause more stress and be a burden, then do what's best for your child and yourself. Good luck

he obviously still cares about his child and you. maybe not enough to be in a relationship right now, but at least he is being open and honest with you about it. (have to look on the positive side of things) if he wants to be there for the birth of his child, let him. at least let him know when you go into labor. let him be the one to decide whether or not he shows up. honestly, it sounds pretty normal what he is telling you. divorced already with a child. a lot of guys don't handle things the same way women do.

Let him be in there. He didn't BAIL, be just broke up with you. It sounds like hes trying to better himself for his son, so why shouldnt he be in the room? He's still around, still showing interest in his son. If he was being an asshat, thats one thing, but hes not.

I agree with others that not letting him in based solely on the fact that you aren't together is a tad immature. Its his baby, and hes excited. Let him see him be born.