Quoting *Soon 2B G0rda*:" The way you worded it OP sounds like youre almost making him feel pressured to be with you. Like if he ... [snip!] ... you. Like if he isn't with you that you are going o let him be there. And be like well you dumped me so you can't see your son"
No, I always told him I didn't want him to be with me just because I was pregnant. I just feel like if he was going to do this, it should've been months ago, not when I'm about to pop. :\ I have no problem with him seeing his son, I've already told him I want to set up a schedule and keep things out of friend of the courts hands, and I have even gotten doubles of things such as carseats, swings n bouncer seats in order to help with the situation (I was given doubles long ago by people) and I figure I have a portable bassinet, so I can just allow him to use that when he has our son. I never text him first; I usually wake up to his texts, I don't bother him, I do reply to everything though and keep conversations going, and I've struggled with the fact that maybe I should be a bitch to him for this stuff, and here I am being nice... he's even mentioned hooking up and whatnot, which I'm not sure I'm ok with. I can see where you would think I'm pressuring though, I feel like he doesn't deserve the right to see his son being born after bailing at the very very last minute... his timing could've been WAY better. He always said he'd be there to support me, blah blah blah.. and it seems as if it was all talk. I would tell him not to stay with me just because I'm pregnant, as it wouldn't change him seeing his son... he said he wasn't, that he was here cause he wanted to be. :\ He's extremely depressive n bipolar, and I've done nothing but help him.. buying his groceries, his sons groceries, helped him tremendously with borrowing him money til he could pay me back etc.. yet he hasn't bought a single thing for our son cause he's broke.
I just have hopes that it could work out, and it's only been a few days, so cuts are still fresh here and maybe that's why i'm hopeful.. that and he leads me on to think there's a chance, he brings it up not me.