Quoting Aiden's Momma! (Katie):" Yes I judge. It is not only a Mothers responsibility to make sure her kids are fed, but also to make ... [snip!] ... abuse. It can lead to childhood obesity, which leads to a multitude of health problems during childhood and later in life."

I agree! My good friend and I spoke of this over the summer. She is going through a similar situation where she is the step Mother of a 14 year old kid that is tipping 250. Her husband does not have full custody of him, and he lives mainly with his very stupid Mother, and she lets him eat anything he wants, and they eat out at fast food joints all the time with the money she gets from child support. She doesn't work, so she has prime time to be able to cook good meals for him but he sits around and eats like a monster all day and the majority of it is crap foods.

She also rarely takes him to the doctor...obviously since he is obese for his age range and does not want told what they're doing is wrong. My good friend has tried everything...getting him into sports programs, trying to take him to doctors, etc but nothing helps, because the moment they do not have him for those weekends, the normal schedule comes back into play and he quits the sport and does not go to the visits. I have said I think it is considered child abuse and they have brought it up in court and with domestics but nothing seems to matter.

Yes, I do and I have. DH's friends feed their kids junk for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. The girls are 2 and 4, they get 44oz sprites several times a day and eat fast food constantly. They're both sick all of the time, too.

I have a friend who feeds her kids junk to shut them up whenever they misbehave, which is all the time. I do judge her to myself, but never to her because they're not my kids, and I have an infant, I have no idea what its like dealing with a toddler, let alone two.

Feeding kids junk and formula feeding a baby are two completely different issues imo. For a little baby breast milk or formula are the only 2 options, and formula isn't "junk food". For a toddler, you can make a conscious decision to feed them junk or healthy snacks.

I have no room to judge. My son doesnt get super healthy foods. But then again i dont think kids have to eat 100% healthy all the time. I usually try to get healthy things such as veggies and fruits for my son, and if he wants a snack ill usually tell him to pick something healthy. Sometimes i let him eat other things that arent super healthy. I dont really judge unless parents are letting their kids eat 24/7 and alllll junk food, where their kids get overweight and they say well my kid is just hungry im not going to let them starve..then id say well give them healthy foods instead of all donuts.

Quoting Jays*Mama:" I have no room to judge. My son doesnt get super healthy foods. But then again i dont think kids have ... [snip!] ... say well my kid is just hungry im not going to let them starve..then id say well give them healthy foods instead of all donuts."

lol.
we're not talking about occasional sweets.
its 24/7 junk food.

Quoting snglemama:" ok... so it's proven, medical fact that breast milk is best for a child.. so if a prent feeds junk food ... [snip!] ... to judge.. but if a parent chooses not to try to breast feed.. knowing it's the best thing for a baby... it's not ok to judge?"

Women judge on the breastfeeding issue constantly ... I've had the living smurf judged out of me for formula feeding even when it was for medical reasons and prescribed by a doctor. Though according to many women on BG and IRL apparent 10 midwives, 4 lactation consultants, three paediatricans, and two dietitians ... just isn't trying hard enough.

Quoting BuggyBoo:" I hope people do not feel I am a smurffy Mom for FF my baby girl. I have been dealing with some pretty ... [snip!] ... gets sugary treats but we never overdue it. If I am a bad Mom because I simply had a FF, so be it. Cannot change what is."

I had severe depression because I couldn't breastfeed as well. I had to have counselling and seriously considered adoption because I felt like I was destroying my sons life.

Quoting The (super kinky) Master:" I had severe depression because I couldn't breastfeed as well. I had to have counselling and seriously considered adoption because I felt like I was destroying my sons life."

Wow, im sorry you went through that  

Quoting 624582:" Yes, I do and I have. DH's friends feed their kids junk for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. The girls are ... [snip!] ... are 2 and 4, they get 44oz sprites several times a day and eat fast food constantly. They're both sick all of the time, too."

That's awful.  

I've felt critizized for my 4 year old daughter's picky appetite, I understand what it's like to have a child who refuses to eat most of what you offer. My daughter is a snacker, she doesn't eat big meals. She's in daycare and eats everything I pack throughout the day but suppertime is the hardest. She is a picky eater but it's not for my lack of trying to introduce healthy foods. I was the same way at her age but by the time I was 8 there was nothing I wouldn't eat! I think it's hard to know what a child is being fed unless you live with the family or are the childcare provider. I think feeding a child nothing but junk food is not good parenting but it's different than coping with a picky child and trying your best as to feed them healthy options.

<blockquote><b>Quoting That Black Kid™:</b>" 1. Everyone judges. 2. Why set your child up to have weight/health issues??? An occasional sweet/junk food...who cares??? All the time though? Get it together."</blockquote>




This.
BUT some kids will only eat junk.
A responsible parent will still keep trying and work with the kid.

About BFing, it's not comparable as BFing is but but FFing is short- term and not shown to be bad for kids.

Quoting Destinite:" That's awful.  "

It is. Now don't get me wrong because I give my son "junk" at times, but it's no where near that degree. My son has had sips of sweet tea or I've given him my watered down soda, but when we go out he gets water or chocolate milk.

The last time we went out to lunch she ordered her kids ice cream and asked if I was going to get LO an ice cream, I declined. I went to the restroom and left DS at the table and came back to the waiter placing a bowl of ice cream in front of LO. I grabbed the bowl before LO noticed, put it in front of her and told her to learn her place. At that point it really wasn't about DS having ice cream, it was more about her overstepping boundaries.

I didn't read all the pages. But every kid/person eating unhealthy and processed foods affects ALL of us because that is the cause of the increasing health care costs. At some point we have to take personal responsibility and start eating healthier and making the connection between our health and what we put in our bodies. So I do judge because it affects me and will affect my kids in the future

Quoting TheNuge:" <blockquote><b>Quoting That Black Kid™:</b>" 1. Everyone judges. 2. Why set ... [snip!] ... work with the kid. About BFing, it's not comparable as BFing is but but FFing is short- term and not shown to be bad for kids."

This.

Callan is in a bread phrase. All day, all he wants is bread. He loves bread like I love....well, bread (so I see where he gets it).

So we adjust. I put cheese and fruit on crackers. I bake tortillas and put black beans and other veggies on them.

I just keep making it up and hope that he's going to expand his palette again soon.

Quoting BrittanieY:" This. Callan is in a bread phrase. All day, all he wants is bread. He loves bread like I love....well, ... [snip!] ... black beans and other veggies on them. I just keep making it up and hope that he's going to expand his palette again soon."

My neighbor has 3 kids. The one in the middle is a terrible eater. She'll eat a chicken finger but not a "better" one. They have to be the super-jumkie ones cut in fun shapes. They have tried "standoff" but this little waif has won in the past in will in the future. They make a regular dinner for the family and strongly encourage her to give stuff a try. She eats here sometimes as that often helps get kids out of their normal "pattern of no." last time she tried and like bolognese sauce. When i told her mom that, she made it for her the next night! She really tries. It's a big pain but it's part of taking on the unknowns of parenting.