Quoting Aiden's Momma! (Katie):" Yes I judge. It is not only a Mothers responsibility to make sure her kids are fed, but also to make ... [snip!] ... abuse. It can lead to childhood obesity, which leads to a multitude of health problems during childhood and later in life."
I agree! My good friend and I spoke of this over the summer. She is going through a similar situation where she is the step Mother of a 14 year old kid that is tipping 250. Her husband does not have full custody of him, and he lives mainly with his very stupid Mother, and she lets him eat anything he wants, and they eat out at fast food joints all the time with the money she gets from child support. She doesn't work, so she has prime time to be able to cook good meals for him but he sits around and eats like a monster all day and the majority of it is crap foods.
She also rarely takes him to the doctor...obviously since he is obese for his age range and does not want told what they're doing is wrong. My good friend has tried everything...getting him into sports programs, trying to take him to doctors, etc but nothing helps, because the moment they do not have him for those weekends, the normal schedule comes back into play and he quits the sport and does not go to the visits. I have said I think it is considered child abuse and they have brought it up in court and with domestics but nothing seems to matter.