Quoting LeeAnn Bullard:" I started dating my child's father after my son was 3 months old. We tried to make it work until recently. ... [snip!] ... this? We need some type of visitation to be scheduled but I have no idea what I'm doing when it comes to that... Any ideas?"
this happened to me with my DD ... we had to go to court and just set up an agreement. Because he lives in New Jersey & I am in New York he gets her every other weekend for the weekend. Its just so much easier, its a set in stone schedule. Of course you can add in your own details like you get him for your birthday and mothers day and he gets him for his birthday and fathers day. The childs birthday is generally split unless you agree to every other year. Its pretty simple just know what you want.