baby shower

so im helping plan my baby shower with my aunt and mom.they are not getting along and working with each other.my grandma tried saying its not proper for my mom to be throwing the shower.it feels like a whole lot of drama that i dont wanna deal with anymore.id love to cancel the shower but i need alot of stuff considering i dont work and my bf is the only one working right now.has anyone else been in this situation???

Old school says neither you nor your mom should be planning your shower. New school says it's OK for your mom to be planning your shower.

But honestly, I hope you're not expecting this shower to completely provide everything you need for your child. That's your responsibility not anyone elses.

no i have the baby's crib and a few other things so far.i just know i cant buy every single thing i have money set aside for whatever we dont get at the baby shower.

My mom threw me a shower, and I threw myself one. I just wanted help with diapers really, but I got a lot more then I expected. But mainly it was so I could see my friends (I moved right before I found out) and so they could see my belly. Don't expect the necessities, people mostly get like cutesy little things that might not even really matter that much, but do it just to enjoy yourself and have some company and good laughs!!

I didnt have a shower with any of my kids. My family just isnt close nor do we live close together.
But anyway, you dont really need a lot for a newborn. All the money you would spend prepping for a shower could ultimately go toward things for the baby. Keep in mind, babies outgrow things so fast. You dont want to spend a fortune. It's fall time and people are doing yard sales. Go there for baby clothes. Bottles if you formula feed. I bought 1 pack of receiving blankets and used those for burp rags. A newborn baby needs very little, so dont stress. I went overboard with my 1st and he didnt need half of it til he was over a year old.

well i feel a bit better.im trying to just have the things i need.i dont have alot of room for a crap load of stuff.all i really expect to get from the shower is clothing.ive already gotten his coat and crib from rummage sales which are a lifesaver.i just am getting irratated with everyone making a huge deal out of the shower.they want me to get all dressed up and crap.i mean i wanna look nice but there is no way im gonna look like im going to the prom or something.

Do you want your aunt still involved in the shower? I've never been through this because even when my family isn't getting along, they act like they are when there is a special occasion. If you still want your aunt involved I would talk to them about it and say you want both of them still involved and that it is important to you that they are. & hopefully hearing that from you, they can pretend to get along or just get over whatever they were fighting about because the baby shower is your day.