Vent!

This can be a post for moms who want to vent. I can not vent to anyone in my household because I live with my SO and mother so there are always ears. Anyways. I'm struggling with a lot of things such as I'm 6 months pregnant with my 2nd child and my SO does not have a job. I have a reliable job but I support my daughter. He hasn't held a job since we've been together. And like tonight, he's drinking a beer playing video games which would be fine except he has no money or job. AND let me add that he hasn't bought a single thing for the new baby. I've bought everything so far. I'm so frustrated because anything I say to him, I'm acting like his mom and so I don't ever push it because I'm a very non-confrontational person. I just don't know how to make him realize that this is real and I would like to be in our own house before this baby is born.

Quoting Abbi and beansprout!:" This can be a post for moms who want to vent. I can not vent to anyone in my household because I live ... [snip!] ... I just don't know how to make him realize that this is real and I would like to be in our own house before this baby is born."

Diapers and formula aren't cheap.
Tell him to get off his ass, and find a job to help save up for the new baby.
He helped make it, he should help support it.

Why are you still with him? he's a bum....

 

Quoting Abbi and beansprout!:" This can be a post for moms who want to vent. I can not vent to anyone in my household because I live ... [snip!] ... I just don't know how to make him realize that this is real and I would like to be in our own house before this baby is born."

Tell him exactly that.

Honestly you can't make him do anything, but if you're not even going to bring it up then I don't see him changing. He gets to be with you and have a baby and pay for nothing. Why would he go find a job when he doesn't have to? Just bring it up and say you're not trying to nag you're just concerned and you'd like him to have a job to help support the LO.

I had this problem with my husband for a while and someone explained it to me like this: You are with a man-boy.

It took my husband joining the military before he straightened out even a little. Was he sheltered as a child with mommy doing everything for him? I'm just curious because that was how my husband was raised.

Yes and that's what makes me angry is that he grew up easy, had everything handed to him. The reason I'm with him is because I love him, I love the baby. He's had a couple jobs but he quit them. When I do try to bring it up nicely he says "I know, I'm trying." He tells me he's going to "look for a job" and when I call him he's at his grandpa's house "looking for a job" on the computer. I'm trying so hard to hold on, but I don't know how much longer I can deal with it.