re: i told my kids and my mom that i'm married

Quoting ~~My Pet Wussy~~:" He still owns the house though. You and your bastards just live in it. Are you on the lease? He bought it prior to meeting you."

so what? I live in it, i'm his spouse so it's mine as well. deal with it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Mommy to 6 ღ 30:</b>" now i'm the girl her son married and is less than 10 weeks away from giving birth to her granddaughter. i'm a part of the family no matter what"</blockquote>




Doesn't matter, she doesn't know much about you.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Mommy to 6 ღ 30:</b>" so what? I live in it, i'm his spouse so it's mine as well. deal with it."</blockquote>




That's actually not how it works, but ok.

Deal with what, I own my home.

Quoting Waitingforour3rd  :" It wouldn't be right for you to say "accept our marriage or never see your grandchild" she'll probably ... [snip!] ... her the time to adjust without holding things over her head in time she'll adjust and it won't cause more unnecessary tension"

you obviously misread what I wrote. i'm not holding our baby over her head. i was just saying her son is about to give her a grandchild and i'm sure she wouldn't want there to be drama surrounding a precious life so she'll get over whatever issue she has to be there for her grandchild.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Mommy to 6 ღ 30:</b>" so what? I live in it, i'm his spouse so it's mine as well. deal with it."</blockquote>




Sorry not how it works, it's called reality, start living in it.

Quoting Suckysuckyy:" Good luck! If someone was snooping in my smurf I would be livid!I don't care if I live in someone else's house.Just saying..."

 

don't worry. i'm sure they feel the same way but you know how they are towards me   lol

Quoting Mrs. Mommy to 6 ღ 30:" you obviously misread what I wrote. i'm not holding our baby over her head. i was just saying her son ... [snip!] ... want there to be drama surrounding a precious life so she'll get over whatever issue she has to be there for her grandchild."

Well the way you worded it sounded like you were intending to do that if you didn't word things so funny they wouldn't be misinterpreted

Quoting ~~My Pet Wussy~~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Mommy to 6 ღ 30:</b>" i'm his wife.. it's my house."</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... He still owns the house though. You and your bastards just live in it. Are you on the lease? He bought it prior to meeting you."

O_O I cannot believe you said that about innocent children.
But on a side note....when you are married, everything becomes marital property regardless of whose name it's in.

<blockquote><b>Quoting MommyingWithGrace:</b>" O_O I cannot believe you said that about innocent children. But on a side note....when you are married, everything becomes marital property regardless of whose name it's in."</blockquote>




They are bastards as is the child she is carrying.
Martial property and such depends on state law.

Quoting MommyingWithGrace:" O_O I cannot believe you said that about innocent children. But on a side note....when you are married, everything becomes marital property regardless of whose name it's in."

i can believe it. she's a miserable person so she'll say anything to make someone else miserable..

oh and   to the second part of your post.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~~My Pet Wussy~~:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Mommy to 6 ღ 30:</b>" i'm his wife.. it's my house."</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... He still owns the house though. You and your bastards just live in it. Are you on the lease? He bought it prior to meeting you."</blockquote>




Wtf?Bastards?

Quoting MommyingWithGrace:" O_O I cannot believe you said that about innocent children. But on a side note....when you are married, everything becomes marital property regardless of whose name it's in."

From what i've read if his name was on the deed and only his name then there would be difficulty gaining any rights to the property should anything not work out *not saying it won't work* just saying that if she is not on the deed she will have a difficult time getting anything

and because they are married, she has kids and primarily because she has HIS kid...if they divorced, she would get the house as long as she could make the payments. I dont know of any mother who has had her and the kids kicked out of the house they lived in because of a divorce. Most of the time a judge will tell the husband he has to get his own place now. My step-dad's ex wife didnt even have kids with him and still ended up getting a house they shared together.

Quoting MommyingWithGrace:" and because they are married, she has kids and primarily because she has HIS kid...if they divorced, ... [snip!] ... his own place now. My step-dad's ex wife didnt even have kids with him and still ended up getting a house they shared together."

When a person brings non-marital property into a relationship it stays non-marital unless steps are taken to make it marital. The only entitlement would be if she made significant contribution towards paying for the house, or did something to increase it's value

<blockquote><b>Quoting Waitingforour3rd  :</b>" From what i've read if his name was on the deed and only his name then there would be difficulty gaining ... [snip!] ... work out *not saying it won't work* just saying that if she is not on the deed she will have a difficult time getting anything"</blockquote>




Ding ding!! Thank you! It's his property and had been for way before he met OP, in a divorce, she'd have an extremely hard time getting anything for his property owned before she came along.