re: I am losing it

Quoting Addi's Momma:" It is mostly just repeating myself over and over again. No you can't have ice cream over and over again. ... [snip!] ... then ripped up her new coloring books and when I was picking all that up she drew on the wall and the coffee table with marker."

Well no wonder you're losing it lol. If I had to hear or say no every five seconds everyday I'd be nuts too. I bet your LO feels the same way. Try to say no in another way. Yes, later is a good one. Or maybe later. Or after you ____. And not just no, but the why and what she can do instead. "Can I have ice cream?" "Yes, after dinner. If you're hungry now you can have a banana or crackers" something like that. When she makes messes keep having her help clean them up. If its something that keeps happening then I'd make sure that item is out of reach for a while. She may not have complete impulse control yet.

Quoting Peyton's~Mom:" How can you say "why aren't you watching her?" Yeah, kids pour juice on the floor along w/ doing other ... [snip!] ... she isn't watching her kid bc she pours juice in the floor. smurf, mine will do it right it front of my face, just to be an ass."

of course you pick the one stupid thing out of my long response full of good ideas and suggestions.

Quoting Addi's Momma:" I do watch her. We go to the park everyday. This all very recent like in the last 2 weeks since her ... [snip!] ... busy during the day. I also can't keep her out all day because she still naps. Things are 10x worse if she doesn't get a nap."

oh wow, i dunno then. yikes. good luck with that! :-(

maybe she just misses her dad... can you guys skype?

why cant you touch her toys? that is pretty silly. she should share... especially with her own mom!

Quoting Addi's Momma:" It is mostly just repeating myself over and over again. No you can't have ice cream over and over again. ... [snip!] ... then ripped up her new coloring books and when I was picking all that up she drew on the wall and the coffee table with marker."

Just a suggestion, but she could be acting out due to your husband being gone. My husband is an amputee and is often healing and resting in bed. So most often, it's just me dealing with her. My daughter is turning 2 at the end of the month, and she has been a little devil. I'm a SAHM, but I'm looking into daycare twice a week so she can socialize with other kids, get some structure, and I get my free time. I find myself losing it too - last night and today were the worst she's been in a long time. I was so stressed out and I think kids can feel that. Instead of saying things like "no you can't have ice cream" say how about we eat lunch first, and then we can have a snack after. Try to redirect her behavior rather than shut her down right away. My daughter loves to color all day long but it ends up being a fight because she throws the crayons, rips up her book, and colors on the windows and wall. Instead of always yelling and screaming at her, I just take all her crayons away and put them up high. She whines and then I just walk away and soon she finds something else to do. Good luck to you. I feel your pain  

Quoting shes*almost*one!:" oh wow, i dunno then. yikes. good luck with that! :-( maybe she just misses her dad... can you guys ... [snip!] ... dad... can you guys skype? why cant you touch her toys? that is pretty silly. she should share... especially with her own mom!"

He doesn't have skype. He is in the middle of the desert. We text and he calls her when he can but I know it isn't the same.

I am the only person she doesn't share with. She is great with taking turns with other children and even DH but for some reason toys are off limits to me.

Quoting Δ ☮ ∂:" Well no wonder you're losing it lol. If I had to hear or say no every five seconds everyday I'd be nuts ... [snip!] ... that keeps happening then I'd make sure that item is out of reach for a while. She may not have complete impulse control yet. "

I tried the whole after dinner or after nap time. It turns into a screaming fit ending with her flinging the freezer door and bouncing it off the wall. It starts with after blah blah blah or later after you clean up your toys. Then she goes to whining and that is when I lose it. I am so sick of the whining. It is all day everyday. I usually sit her somewhere so she can sit down and cool off without ruining furniture or breaking things.

Quoting Addi's Momma:" I tried the whole after dinner or after nap time. It turns into a screaming fit ending with her flinging ... [snip!] ... is all day everyday. I usually sit her somewhere so she can sit down and cool off without ruining furniture or breaking things."

How old is she?

If you want a book suggestion a good one is Kids are worth it, by Barbara Coloroso.

Quoting mommy-in-a-blended-family:" Just a suggestion, but she could be acting out due to your husband being gone. My husband is an amputee ... [snip!] ... up high. She whines and then I just walk away and soon she finds something else to do. Good luck to you. I feel your pain   "

I wanted to put her in the preschool or gymnastics a couple of times a week here but we are leaving in December to move back home so it would be silly to waste the money doing it when she wouldn't be able to go to the end. She is getting enrolled in January gymnastics and dance classes in St. Louis when we move back. My mom said she would pay if I wanted her to do it and already got the enrollment moving. I don't doubt that she is acting out because DH is gone but I can't do anything more than what I am doing. We have a little over 4 weeks left. I ended up begging my mom to come out and agreed to pay for her plan ticket if she would come so hopefully she will be out here in a week. It will be nice just to have someone here. I think part of it is too that I am lonely and upset DH is gone. I miss him like crazy.

Quoting Δ ☮ ∂:" How old is she? If you want a book suggestion a good one is Kids are worth it, by Barbara Coloroso."

She is 3. I have a couple books like Happiest Toddler on the Block and one that I can't remember the name of. I will have to look into that book. Thanks.

I just recently discovered that my daughter likes to watch youtube videos - so when she's in her highchair and I'm preparing food, she usually is being hyper and naughty so I found some toddler educational videos that keeps her occupied. Perhaps you could try that while she is getting into everything, place her into her seat, and put the laptop on the table. Maybe it'll distract her from being naughty  

Quoting Addi's Momma:" I wanted to put her in the preschool or gymnastics a couple of times a week here but we are leaving ... [snip!] ... will be nice just to have someone here. I think part of it is too that I am lonely and upset DH is gone. I miss him like crazy."

my daughters gymnastics gym has "open gym" 3 times a week, for 2 hours at a time. its $10, and the kids can just run around like wild and play on all the stuff.. trampolines, ropes, balance beams, everything. its sooooo fun.. she absolutely loves it. she loves it more than the structured classes.. maybe see if you're gym has that?

Quoting mommy-in-a-blended-family:" Just a suggestion, but she could be acting out due to your husband being gone. My husband is an amputee ... [snip!] ... up high. She whines and then I just walk away and soon she finds something else to do. Good luck to you. I feel your pain   "

oh my goodness, im so sorry to hear about your husband! how did he loose his limb? will he be getting a prosthetic? im sure he'll rock that smurf, and be better than ever!

Quoting shes*almost*one!:" of course you pick the one stupid thing out of my long response full of good ideas and suggestions."

why did you say it if you thought it was stupid?

Quoting Peyton's~Mom:" why did you say it if you thought it was stupid?"

stop being childish, i mean it as insignificant. i would hope you understood that, but i guess not. thats what happens when you dont have a highschool diploma sweetie :-)

Quoting shes*almost*one!:" stop being childish, i mean it as insignificant. i would hope you understood that, but i guess not. thats what happens when you dont have a highschool diploma sweetie :-)"

How the hell do you know if I have a high school diploma or not? Now that's being childish! wow.