Wrong way to go about it?

I really need to take a parenting class. I don't know what the smurf I'm doing.

I was just making the kids plates. I cut DD's up and put it on the table. She starts devouring it immediately. I go to make DS's. He's 6, btw.

DS: "Does that have tomatoes?"
(This is lasagna. It's his favorite meal. I make it the exact same way everytime... tomatoes included.)
Me: "Yes."
DS: "I don't want it."
Me: "Mmkay."

5 minutes later, I sit down.

DS: "I want dinner."
Me: "You just told me you didn't want any."
DS: "I want it now."
Me: "I'm not getting it. Go in the kitchen and get it yourself."

And then we went back and forth over it for the next 5 minutes with him whining about it. This happens at least once per week. Should I have gotten it for him?

I don't know how self sufficient he should be at this point either. When he wants water, he asks me for it. It's always when I'm cooking or doing schoolwork. He knows how to get water. Glass out of dishwasher, turn faucet, fill glass. When I tell him to get it himself, I hear "Ugh! Why do you always tell me to do this??"

My bed is calling my name.

I think six is old enough to know whether he wants his food or not and if he eventually does, to get it himself.

I tell dd to do stuff for herself all the time when she pulls that crap. It pisses me off.

I think you handled it well enough,six years old is old enough to be independent in some areas ex.Getting yourself some water.

He sounds like he's having a hard time pulling away and being independent. I would just keep encouraging him in a non-punitive way to be independent. Sometimes my 11 year old still asks me to get her stuff. Every now and then I oblige but for the most part I say, I think you're more than capable.

my spawn has to get her own drinks and food.. she is 5. Nothing is wrong with that!  

Quoting The Blissful Six:" He sounds like he's having a hard time pulling away and being independent. I would just keep encouraging ... [snip!] ... old still asks me to get her stuff. Every now and then I oblige but for the most part I say, I think you're more than capable."

It's just weird to me. I know all kids are different, but I'm just meh. He NEVER wants to do anything alone. Never wants to do things on his own. He acts like it's some huge betrayal when we tell him to go read in his room where it's quiet.

We've been having issues with his behavior at school, as well. I've been completely changing his diet to see if it would help, but it hasn't. We have a referral to get him tested.

Nope, you did the right thing. If you know he knows how to get his own food and drink, then let him do it. My mom did everything for my little brother and he's 14 and still gets brought breakfast in bed.  

Quoting shes.so.vain:" Nope, you did the right thing. If you know he knows how to get his own food and drink, then let him do ... [snip!] ... then let him do it. My mom did everything for my little brother and he's 14 and still gets brought breakfast in bed.  "

My mom did everything for me.... seriously when I moved out and started living on my own I had a pretty bad wake up call... I didn't know how to make my friggin' bed!  

Luckily, I knew how to cook, I love to cook.... but I never had to clean, or do anything on my own really... wow, first doctor's appointment alone sucked too, I still have problems going to the bank alone, I get so nervous! I'm making sure Novali is independent.

<blockquote><b>Quoting shes.so.vain:</b>" Nope, you did the right thing. If you know he knows how to get his own food and drink, then let him do ... [snip!] ... then let him do it. My mom did everything for my little brother and he's 14 and still gets brought breakfast in bed.  "</blockquote>


Yeah my mom still put toothpaste on my 14 yr old brothers toothbrush   now he's 16 and he still lays out the toothpaste toothbrush and a cup
Of water Deoderant body spray and his pills every morning.

Thanks ladies.

Sometimes I feel like I'm being a total smurf to him. When he whines, I get irritated and just hate being around that crap.

Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote><b>Quoting shes.so.vain:</b>" Nope, you did the right thing. If you know ... [snip!] ... he's 16 and he still lays out the toothpaste toothbrush and a cup Of water Deoderant body spray and his pills every morning."

It drives me insane. Its so different from the way me and my other two brothers were raised that sometimes I just look at him like, "You're not even one of us." lmao

Quoting Mrs. Potato Dick:" It's just weird to me. I know all kids are different, but I'm just meh. He NEVER wants to do anything ... [snip!] ... as well. I've been completely changing his diet to see if it would help, but it hasn't. We have a referral to get him tested."

My son had or had ADHD when he was 6. It was difficult to say the least but he was never not independent.
Maybe tell him, that you don't mind helping him get his dinner but he needs to try himself first.

<blockquote><b>Quoting shes.so.vain:</b>" It drives me insane. Its so different from the way me and my other two brothers were raised that sometimes I just look at him like, "You're not even one of us." lmao"</blockquote>


Yeah I wadnt raised that way either. We're 8 yrs apart.

Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote><b>Quoting shes.so.vain:</b>" Nope, you did the right thing. If you know ... [snip!] ... he's 16 and he still lays out the toothpaste toothbrush and a cup Of water Deoderant body spray and his pills every morning."

Okay...this is ridiculous. My son is 16 and has been responsible for his own hygiene for a while now.