<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Potato Dick:</b>" Thanks ladies. Sometimes I feel like I'm being a total smurf to him. When he whines, I get irritated and just hate being around that crap."</blockquote>
That's how I feel too. Whining is my absolute biggest pet peeve. It just makes me insane. I have to go in the bedroom a lot when dd get Whiney. I also feel like I'm just being a bitch but she needs to not pull crap like that.
My 9yr old pulls that crap with me, and im 28wks pg...lol...i do spoil him some still but he can do alot for himself and he doesnt get some things if he wont do for himself. Much better they learn some independence now than have u as his servant for life.
My daughter is only 11mo and I make her do stuff that I KNOW she can do. Like, sometimes if she drops her bottle, she'll throw a fit because "I want the bottle and it's not in my mouth!" I say something like "Goober, you can pick up your own bottle!"
We have a six year old boy in our house and because he has ADD and ODD my mom doesn't make him do ANYTHING. It's terrible. He throws a fit over EVERY. LITTLE. THING. She's just a freaking enabler to him.
Sometimes I cry because of how badly he treats her and it's her fault for letting it happen.
I hate the idea that all kids are babies and people have to do everything for them.
When DD is six she's going to be responsible for putting her toys and clothes away, getting her own drinks, etc. I don't think there's anything wrong with fixing dinner for him, but if he's being a butt about it then he can get it himself. You offered, he didn't want it. This is the age where teaching good habits are really essential.