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good bye !!!!

Aww. it Really Saddens Me To Read This Because This Should Be One Of The Happiest Moments For You To Be Sad.. MyBD&I Constantly Faught With One Another During And After My Pregnancy && For A While iHad Stuck in My Head That We Were Only Together Because Of The Baby.. A Couple Months Ago We Also Got in A Huge Fight When I Got To The Point To Kick Him Out And Told Him To Leave.. Honestly After That Day Everything Completely Changed And He Started Showing More Affection Because That's The ONE Thing iWanted The Most.. Has It Ever Became An Option Of Calling The Relationship Quits.. I Know it's Hard And No Mother Wants To Put Their Kids Threw That.. But This Unhappiness You Are Going Threw is Not Good Especially With Baby2 On The Way.. The Stress is Only Gonna Make This Pregnancy Unenjoyable. I Really Hope Things Get Better!! P.S About Grandma's Comment.. That Was Totally Uncalled For But Don't Listen To Others Negatively And Be Happyyy   Smile Beautiful.

Quoting HisMommie (::" Aww. it Really Saddens Me To Read This Because This Should Be One Of The Happiest Moments For You To ... [snip!] ... Grandma's Comment.. That Was Totally Uncalled For But Don't Listen To Others Negatively And Be Happyyy   Smile Beautiful."

i am happy u guys have gotten better
ny bd is stubborn and i dont kno how long it will take for him to change i also need more affection and espcially those two weeks thinking things were gonna go wrong with the second baby he was not there for me at all
but today was a good day we went out to eat and walked around the mall i wanted to mention the fight and tell him the reason but i just left it alone so i just asked how he felt about another baby and if he was scared and he said no
so i hope after today things will be better me and him faught my whole pregnancy and after we can go so long being ok then boom here comes a fight but i really dont want that no more i love him to much to quit and we have a family so if it takes forever for him to change then ill wait forever he aint getting rid of me lol and im not lettin no girl take him from me i put to much work in already just to say go ahead and have him lol

I think you need to find time where it's just you and him and really communicate what the issue is. It's never going to get better if you two are always fighting - sounds like you need to communicate better.This is going to sound weird, but I heard it and it really made me think: If you are with someone and you are waiting for that person to change, the person that really needs to change is YOU. Either you accept who he is as a person, or realize you want something else. People don't change unless they want to change because if its someone else that makes them, either the change won't last long or that person will resent you later on. I completely understand why you did what you did - it's like toddlers, they hit to get attention because they don't know how else to express themselves. But as parents we teach them to use their words and to express to us (their parents) what is wrong. I think you will feel much better about your relationship and this new baby (and less stressed hopefully) if you two can sit down and have a serious conversation as to what you need from him - not just physically, but emotionally and mentally. Explain why you feel alone, and what you would like from him. No one can read your mind, so in order for him to fully understand what you're going through and feeling the only thing is to talk to him about it. Good luck to you and congrats on #2!

Quoting mommy-in-a-blended-family:" I think you need to find time where it's just you and him and really communicate what the issue is. It's ... [snip!] ... what you're going through and feeling the only thing is to talk to him about it. Good luck to you and congrats on #2!"

u said the same thing my mom has told me many times about ecepting him or not.
we didnt talk for 3 days after the fight and today we actually had a good day i wanted to talk to him about what happened and why i was mad well not mad but hurt but i didnt want to mess things up so i just asked about our second baby how he felt that's it. maybe one day we will talk about what happened but i just want to take it day by day and yes we do need to communicate more and i hope we start
this time around i dont want to fight especially about the dumd stuff
its been hard for me almost 3yrs on our second baby but your right i probably need to change a little myself and im ready to work things out and be happy with our little family

thank you  

Quoting Baby#2onBoardツ:" u said the same thing my mom has told me many times about ecepting him or not. we didnt talk for 3 ... [snip!] ... i probably need to change a little myself and im ready to work things out and be happy with our little family thank you  "

you're very welcome! Don't forget that you are entitled to get a little emotional during this time, especially if you feel alone. I understand not wanting to ruin the day by bringing it up - but at least sometime soon set some time aside for you two. He might need to get some things out as well. It would be a great opportunity to set your relationship straight - that way you both feel good about it and can be happy about the new baby. Perhaps if its the you needing him to be there for you emotionally, let him be aware that he is not doing that. Some times men are just so oblivious to that stuff. Especially emotional stuff. My husband told me from day 1 that he is not a cuddlier person - sucks big time, because i love to cuddle, but I also love him so I had to get over it if I wanted to be with him. We find a few minutes each night to cuddle and then I let him have his space. Its give and take - you aren't going to get everything you want from a relationship. It's the stuff you can't live without and the stuff you can get over - like finding a happy medium. If he's open to the suggestion, perhaps just a few couples counseling sessions would help to get the conversation started....

Quoting mommy-in-a-blended-family:" you're very welcome! Don't forget that you are entitled to get a little emotional during this time, ... [snip!] ... If he's open to the suggestion, perhaps just a few couples counseling sessions would help to get the conversation started.... "

man i love everything u are sayin  
and yes for sure i want to make som time for just me and him
i actually wanted just me and him to go out today but we ended up takin our son two big mistakes he throws fits and we cant ever enjoy a dinner or shopping.
but soon i want us to get out together so we can talk more because i do want to let him know how i was feeling and how i feel now

Quoting Baby#2onBoardツ:" man i love everything u are sayin   and yes for sure i want to make som time for just me and him ... [snip!] ... soon i want us to get out together so we can talk more because i do want to let him know how i was feeling and how i feel now"

  Good luck with everything!!

Quoting mommy-in-a-blended-family:"   Good luck with everything!! "

thank you so much