Is it ever your place... *discipline D&D*

Disciplining a child that is not yours in your home. I wouldn't even go as far as calling it 'discipline' but telling a child "no" or "stop" and if they ignore you, physically making them stop.
Backstory:
My cousin has a three year old little boy that runs rampant and is allowed to do whatever he wants. I have five little kittens in my house.. he will pick them up and squeeze them really tight, then throw them into the cat tree. She will sit there and watch him and not say a damn thing. If I say "no B" or anything to the sort she says "oh he's fine"... Yeah he may be fine but the kitten whose insides are getting squeezed are not. He picks stuff up off of my shelves and throws them, he's hit DD in the face with her toys, smacks my adults cats etc I could go on and on. And I'm sick of his mother not doing anything about it, so the next time she comes over (unannounced btw because she NEVER tells me beforehand) and he starts being a little smurf I'm going to tell him to stop, and if he's squeezing a kitten I'm going to take it off of him.
So yeah this kind of ended up being a mini rant but my question stands... If a child is misbehaving at your home, would you ever discipline them? Is it my place or should I just ignore it? If another parent disciplined your child in their home while you were there would it upset you?

If the kid was behaving the way you're describing I'd do exactly what you are saying. Along with having a talk with his mom about what's allowed in my home and if she can't control him while in my house they aren't coming over anymore.

You're damn straight I would. I'd be telling that child no, and making them sit, and if their parents either didn't help me OR told me not to tell their child what to do, I'd ask them to leave.

<blockquote><b>Quoting NICKEL☮POLIS:</b>" Disciplining a child that is not yours in your home. I wouldn't even go as far as calling it 'discipline' ... [snip!] ... or should I just ignore it? If another parent disciplined your child in their home while you were there would it upset you?"</blockquote>



I would tell his mom that she has three choices discipline her kid, leave, or you will discipline for her. Honestly, my first reaction when he hurt the kittens would have been a spanking.

If the child was in MY home hurting MY child or MY animals and the mother wasn't doing smurf, then yes. And I'd tell the mother to do it herself or don't come over.

It is DEF YOUR PLACE to take over a situation like that in your home.

yes i would discipline. my step daughter comes over and shes 7.5 and you bet your ass if shes doing something bad she will be disciplined like my two other children, her mother agrees with me and her father does too so im lucky.

You should bring it up to the parents attention. If the parents dont do anything about it...then just tell them that you hope they dont say anything when you discipline them.

if the parent isn't telling them to stop or w.e. then i step in and tell them not to do it or w.e the case may be. i will not lay a hand on them though. that's not my place.


the only time i have a problem wiht someone telling my kid no or not to do something is if i'm sitting right there watching her. then it gets annoying, but i don't yell at the person or anything.

Imo it is never okay to physically punish a child but redirecting them if they hurt your things is not wrong imo.

Definitely when it comes to hurting another living thing. That child is going to get bigger someday and still think its acceptable to hurt things smaller than him. I'd tell him that he's hurting the cats and in your house no one is allowed to hurt anyone else.

Oh absolutely. I have no problem telling a child what to do and what not to do in my own home. The kids that come to my house know the rules and know they must respect them. I have never had anyone say anything about it but I really only have to be firm with a few kids. The rest of my friends/family actually pay attention to their kids haha.

If the boy is hurting your animals and your children, then I would absolutely discipline or tell your sister not to come by anymore. I'd pick him up, plop him down in the corner, be VERY stern and tell him that he needs to stop... If that doesn't catch his attention, I would put him in time out. Sometimes the stern attitude from someone who is not their parent is all a child needs to receive to make them stop... at least, in your house.

<blockquote><b>Quoting khigh:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting NICKEL☮POLIS:</b>" Disciplining a child that is not yours ... [snip!] ... kid, leave, or you will discipline for her. Honestly, my first reaction when he hurt the kittens would have been a spanking."</blockquote>


And get slapped with assault charges? Have fun with that.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ✩BG Addict✩:</b>" if the parent isn't telling them to stop or w.e. then i step in and tell them not to do it or w.e the ... [snip!] ... to do something is if i'm sitting right there watching her. then it gets annoying, but i don't yell at the person or anything. "</blockquote>

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