re: Is it ever your place... *discipline D&D*

<blockquote><b>Quoting khigh:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Kayla [ ]♥:</b>" Hitting a kid because he's hurting an ... [snip!] ... because my glider ended up with two broken ribs and a collapsed lung. I don't take animal abusing little monsters in my house."</blockquote>




You should be happy your sister didn't have you arrested.

Quoting NICKEL☮POLIS:" Nah. If I got really angry to the point where I felt like I wanted to hit him, I would walk away and ... [snip!] ... kid don't get me wrong he can be a little sweetheart but sometimes it's so frustrating, especially when she thinks it's cute."

When my son is acting like a brat, his little sister (8 months old) laughs... so he keeps doing it. It's really tough to get him to settle. lol

Quoting NICKEL☮POLIS:" I don't know if he would understand me talking to him. I am pretty sure he is a little developmentally ... [snip!] ... going to take the kitten or whatever away from him and put it away (in another room) hopefully his mother will get the hint."

He sounds like my 3 year old. He's a year behind in speech, so he acts like a 2 year old too. Try and keep it simple, but enough to get the message across.

<blockquote><b>Quoting The TTC Queen Bee:</b>" They aren't monsters, they're kids  ."</blockquote>




At one, my daughter knew how to be gentle. At three, it should already be drilled into their heads. I probably would never have my cousins kid back at my house.

There are actually no kids other than dd allowed at my house that are under 10. If my sister wants to hang out, we go to her place or to dinner. No more $1000 vet bills for me.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jude the Super Kinkster:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting khigh:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Kayla [ ]♥:</b>" ... [snip!] ... animal abusing little monsters in my house."</blockquote> You should be happy your sister didn't have you arrested."</blockquote>



She wouldn't. She spanks her kid and she has permission to spank dd if she was being a brat.

<blockquote><b>Quoting khigh:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Kayla [ ]♥:</b>" Hitting a kid because he's hurting an ... [snip!] ... because my glider ended up with two broken ribs and a collapsed lung. I don't take animal abusing little monsters in my house."</blockquote>



Sending the bill would have been a better lesson.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Δ ☮ ∂:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting khigh:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Kayla [ ]♥:</b>" ... [snip!] ... don't take animal abusing little monsters in my house."</blockquote> Sending the bill would have been a better lesson."</blockquote>




She gets the idea now. She wouldn't have been able to afford the bill anyways.

Quoting The TTC Queen Bee:" They aren't monsters, they're kids

My one year old knows better than to bite or hit or hurt our animals... They're hurting another living creature. That should have some serious consequences. DD knows better than to even BITE, period. She rarely hits. She tries to use her words. And she's 14 months old. If a 14 month old can be taught the word GENTLE and know not to hurt animals and to be nice to them, and to other people, I'd expect a 3 year old and up to be exemplary in that regard.

Her wording may have been bad, but I hate when people say "Oh they're just kids" and dismiss the behavior. I sure as hell didn't squeeze our kittens and throw them as a child... I was taught NOT to.

It really sounds like she doesn't discipline her kid at all. I would have said something to her the moment she said "he's fine."

Quoting Destinite:" It really sounds like she doesn't discipline her kid at all. I would have said something to her the moment she said "he's fine.""

I honestly don't think she does. I think in her eyes 'he does no wrong'

In that situation, hell yes.
It's my personality to be upfront, but I would even go as far to say something to his mother. Like, really, it's NOT okay, and he's not "fine". This is MY home, I'd appreciate it if you both would respect it. I would certainly tell a child firmly NO and STOP! If he continued to do it. Maybe he doesn't listen to mommy, but he'd sure as hell learn to listen to me.
My niece was over at my house while I was pregnant, she was about 2 1/2 at that time and kept going into my daughter's nursery, and bringing things out like packages of bottles, pacifiers, diapers, and proceeded to try to open them up to play with them. Which really wouldn't have bothered me but I wasn't ready to have them opened, I didn't want my daughter's things used as toys and I didn't have a place to open to store them yet if they were opened. I was in process of organizing everything and I didn't need stuff opened.
My brother firmly told her NO, but my niece didn't listen. My SIL just said, "Isabelle, don't...." but paid no more attention and let her take off with the stuff. I just thought it was rude of them to not take my daughter's brand new stuff from their child. I struck me as rude to think their child could play with my daughter's things that weren't toys and weren't hers. So, I finally took the bottles from her that she halfway opened and told her NO MORE. If I hadn't have taken them, they would have been opened and scattered all over the place.
It's really not that deep, but it really annoyed me. So in situations like that, where parents don't do a damn thing, yeah, you have every right to say no.

Quoting NICKEL☮POLIS:" I honestly don't think she does. I think in her eyes 'he does no wrong'"

That's so sad & it will hurt him so much in the long run.

Quoting ☾BizzyBee♉:" My one year old knows better than to bite or hit or hurt our animals... They're hurting another living ... [snip!] ... kids" and dismiss the behavior. I sure as hell didn't squeeze our kittens and throw them as a child... I was taught NOT to."

Uh they ARE just kids, they don't naturally know better they have to be taught and disciplined. The kid is not a monster, I highly doubt he is evil and wanted to hurt an animal. I'm glad you taught your kid how to be gentle, etc but maybe this kid wasn't taught that. Clearly he wasn't being supervised and his parents probably don't discipline him the way they should. That doesn't make him a monster. I find spanking to be counterproductive, there are far better way to get right and wrong into a kids head. Also boys don't seem to have the warm fuzzy feelings for animals and the nurturing instincts that a lot of little girls do. If she doesn't want that kid at her house that is fine but to call him a monster is terrible. 3 is still very young.

Quoting K. P. Walsh:" In that situation, hell yes. It's my personality to be upfront, but I would even go as far to say something ... [snip!] ... it really annoyed me. So in situations like that, where parents don't do a damn thing, yeah, you have every right to say no. "

Those are the little things that make kids think they can get away with anything.
I agree that it was rude of them to pretty much say no, but do nothing. Some people need a whip cracked at them & it spelled out.
Hey, your kid is playing with something that isn't yours or an actually toy. How about you get off your ass and discipline/redirect your kid!

<blockquote><b>Quoting The TTC Queen Bee:</b>" Uh they ARE just kids, they don't naturally know better they have to be taught and disciplined. The ... [snip!] ... girls do. If she doesn't want that kid at her house that is fine but to call him a monster is terrible. 3 is still very young."</blockquote>



3 is not very young. By 3, DD was able to have unsupervised access to the two animal rooms. She was able to open cages and play with which ever animal struck her fancy. She is 5 now and has her own cage of three rats in her room.

Undisciplined kids are monsters and that's why I usually only like my own.