Quoting Aspen & Jaxon's Mommy TTC:" I've been curious for a long time, Just don't know how to word it at all.. so this is my best attempt. ... [snip!] ... bodies?? Honestly not trying to be rude. I just hope you haven't given up on yourself.. and let yourself be fat and 'happy'."
You have a asked a very multifaceted question so I'll just break it up and try to answer you the best I can. I'll take it step by step.
"I've been curious for a long time, Just don't know how to word it at all.. so this is my best attempt. Im not trying to be rude."
I always find statements like "I'm not trying to be rude" to be amusing... because you know something is coming and you should brace yourself. I'm not questioning your intentions, but for reals! lol
"You are always posting about being fat and happy, and how fat is healthy (when everyone that isn't in denial knows that fat=unhealthy, heavy can equal healthy as long as your body fat percentage is in a good range and you lean body mass is high, this is the only way heavy is healthy) But besides that.. "
First of all, I have never said fat is healthy. Those words have never left my mouth (unless we are talking about dietary fat, I have said that. Except for transfat which is the devil of fat imo). Fat, in and of itself, does not determine health. Suggesting that everyone who isn't in denial knows that fat=unhealthy is suggesting something about the mental health of those that question the equation seems like an accusation towards anyone who challenges the popular anecdotal wisdom of society. I could be wrong. Anyways... I do not believe that fat automatically equals unhealthy. I believe that activity levels are a more accurate predictor of health. Studies like the one
cited in this article support the notion. There is also some interesting research cited in junkfood science's obesity paradox
series that bring up some interesting queries.
The fat=unhealthy theory also suggest that thin=healthy... which we know to be fallacy. Visceral fat, fat around the organs, can be found in a person of any size. Visceral fat is burned off by physical activity... so a fat person can have significantly less visceral fat than an inactive thin person.
I'm not in denial. I actually like to research and study. It took a great deal of evidence to persuade me to look at this issue in a new light.
So, in short, I do not think that fat=healthy but I do not think that fat automatically equals unhealthy either.
"Are you happy that you're fat or have you 'given up' and decided to just be fat, come to terms with it and be happy?"
I am neither happy that I'm fat nor have I given up on myself.
I am fat AND happy, not fat THUS happy. It is a phrase that points to the fact that I can be both concurrently. If my body decides to lose weight then I would be cool with that. I'm not against weight loss, but I am against dieting (for myself) because I feel that dieting is detrimental to my health (physical, emotional, and spiritual). 95-98% of those who lose a significant amount of weight gain it back, many adding even more pounds than they started with. Yo-yo dieting can actually lead to worse health outcomes. Just for an example: Obese women whose weight fluctuates are 4x more likely to have hypertension than obese women who have weights that remain relatively constant.
"Like if you were just chubby, slightly overweight would you be unhappy and try to become fat?"
I've already kind of answered this. I'm going to trust my body to gravitate towards a weight that is more healthy for me by practicing a healthy lifestyle. I'm not concerned about what size that is. Fat or thin or whatever is fine with me.
"I understand we should all love our bodies, But it's being healthy and giving our bodies good food and regular exercise the best way we could love our bodies??"
There is no right way to have a body. Everyone can do with their body as they see fit. The best way for one person to love their body is not going to be the same way another person loves theirs. I value the freedom of that. I don't believe in putting qualifiers on self-love and self-acceptance. I try not to "should" on people.
"Honestly not trying to be rude. I just hope you haven't given up on yourself.. and let yourself be fat and 'happy'.
Once again, I have not given up on myself.
I do practice Health at Every Size (HAES)
The principles are as follows:
1. Accept your size
. Love and appreciate the body you have. Self-acceptance empowers you to move on and make positive changes.
2. Trust yourself
. We all have internal systems designed to keep us healthy—and at a healthy weight. Support your body in naturally finding its appropriate weight by honoring its signals of hunger, fullness, and appetite.
3. Adopt healthy lifestyle habits
. Develop and nurture connections with others and look for purpose and meaning in your life. Fulfilling your social, emotional, and spiritual needs restores food to its rightful place as a source of nourishment and pleasure.
• Find the joy in moving your body and becoming more physically vital in your everyday life.
• Eat when you're hungry, stop when you're full, and seek out pleasurable and satisfying foods.
• Tailor your tastes so that you enjoy more nutritious foods, staying mindful that there is plenty of room for less nutritious choices in the context of an overall healthy diet and lifestyle.
4. Embrace size diversity
. Humans come in a variety of sizes and shapes. Open to the beauty found across the spectrum and support others in recognizing their unique attractiveness.
Even though I am pursuing health by using HAES, I do not think it is a necessary action for one to love and accept oneself.