Quoting AngelGabriel'sMama:" The situations sucks but she knew what she was signing up for. It makes my blood boil to see women ... [snip!] ... more important and that what they want comes first. If the situation were reversed and he said he hated her kid she'd be livid."
I know what you mean.. I used to know someone like that.. She was mean as hell to her man's kid and she's get so pissy when her man had to talk to his ex.. like.. wtf.. they have a kid together.. they have to speak..
I can totally understand someone not wanting to be involved with a man with kids if you think you wouldn't be able to cope with the difficulties that such a relationship includes.. I have a friend who has openly said that she couldn't do it.. she has too many jealousy issues and she couldn't handle it.. and its better to admit that to yourself and avoid it if you can't handle it..
But if you make a decision to be with a man with a child, then you've made a decision to be a step-mother to that child.. to try to bond with that child.. to handle the difficult situations that may arise with the ex with as much tact as possible.. and ... to sum it all up .. to be a grown up about the situation.. lol..