re: Cant stand my exs past (son and ex)

Quoting Co-Creator of Goobernut:" HEY OP! Come in here and attempt to justify your pathetic selfish ass."

She won't.

Quoting BαƚMαɳ:" She won't."

What a smurfing twit.

Quoting Teetee+haydens mummy:" please tell me you actually meant you hate the situation and not the child"

  

I really hope that's what she meant. I could understand hating the situation.. its a hassle.. it costs a lot of money.. I can see how that would be stressful.. but that's life.. it includes stress.. having kids of your own is expensive too.. lmao.. Hell, sometimes, I hate that situation (the whole 'kids are expensive and that sucks' thing), but I don't hate my kids... and I certainly wouldn't hate my husband's kids (if he had any others).

Quoting ✰ johnna ✰:"    I really hope that's what she meant. I could understand hating the situation.. its a hassle.. ... [snip!] ... and that sucks' thing), but I don't hate my kids... and I certainly wouldn't hate my husband's kids (if he had any others)."

 The situations sucks but she knew what she was signing up for. It makes my blood boil to see women get with men who have kids and then think they are more important and that what they want comes first. If the situation were reversed and he said he hated her kid she'd be livid.

OP i saw in your profile you have a child yourself.
is it your DHs? or someone elses?
if its someone else - is he involved?

I wonder if OP's daughter is from a past relationship or if she's from her husband. If from a past relationship, I bet she wouldn't be thrilled if he said something like that about her daughter!

Quoting 💙Jenny&Boopy:" I wonder if OP's daughter is from a past relationship or if she's from her husband. If from a past relationship, I bet she wouldn't be thrilled if he said something like that about her daughter!"

IKR. but i believe in karma...

Quoting AngelGabriel'sMama:"  The situations sucks but she knew what she was signing up for. It makes my blood boil to see women ... [snip!] ... more important and that what they want comes first. If the situation were reversed and he said he hated her kid she'd be livid."

I know what you mean.. I used to know someone like that.. She was mean as hell to her man's kid and she's get so pissy when her man had to talk to his ex.. like.. wtf.. they have a kid together.. they have to speak..

I can totally understand someone not wanting to be involved with a man with kids if you think you wouldn't be able to cope with the difficulties that such a relationship includes.. I have a friend who has openly said that she couldn't do it.. she has too many jealousy issues and she couldn't handle it.. and its better to admit that to yourself and avoid it if you can't handle it..

But if you make a decision to be with a man with a child, then you've made a decision to be a step-mother to that child.. to try to bond with that child.. to handle the difficult situations that may arise with the ex with as much tact as possible.. and ... to sum it all up .. to be a grown up about the situation.. lol..

Quoting ✰ johnna ✰:" I know what you mean.. I used to know someone like that.. She was mean as hell to her man's kid and ... [snip!] ... may arise with the ex with as much tact as possible.. and ... to sum it all up .. to be a grown up about the situation.. lol.."

^This, wow she is sickening. I feel so bad for that child and hell even the mothers for having to deal with a smurf like this as a step Mom. OP you need to grow the smurf up. I looked at your old posts and remember the one about you bitching that his family includes her in smurf, deal with it, she is the childs mother. I invite my ex and his fiance to everything, it's their right to be part in it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting JiLLiAN.:</b>" IKR. but i believe in karma..."</blockquote>


Yup. I just don't understand how someone could get married if they can't handle their partner's life and any kids who may be in it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mylife_asAmanda:</b>" My husbands son lives 4 hours away which we get every other weekend and it's all because a hassel... ... [snip!] ... a while and it just hasnt needless to say I AM SICK OF IT. I feel bad for being selfish... Any one hate their exs kids???"</blockquote>

You sound like the piece of smurf of a step mother my DF has. She made his and his siblings' lives hell. I sure hope you don't mess with him mentally even a fraction of what that POS did.

WHAT I MEAN IS THE SITUATION.... his son is a great kid
His mother doesnt really work and she lives with her boyfriend who doesnt work in and out of jail... its a constant fight with them about money... I have a good job went to college and so did my husband....
YES i should have thought about it more... we have seen a lawyer about full custidy and the lawyer basically said its very hard to take a child from it's mother...
I am jsut sick of the fight and the SITUATION .... sorry it did seem as if it were the kid i hated lol

Quoting Mylife_asAmanda:" WHAT I MEAN IS THE SITUATION.... his son is a great kid His mother doesnt really work and she lives with ... [snip!] ... from it's mother... I am jsut sick of the fight and the SITUATION .... sorry it did seem as if it were the kid i hated lol"

Well damn.. now all of our seemingly righteous hatred for you is no longer appropriate to the situation. And we were having so much fun talking smurf.  

Quoting Mylife_asAmanda:" WHAT I MEAN IS THE SITUATION.... his son is a great kid His mother doesnt really work and she lives with ... [snip!] ... from it's mother... I am jsut sick of the fight and the SITUATION .... sorry it did seem as if it were the kid i hated lol"

Smurfing please.

"My husbands son lives 4 hours away which we get every other weekend and it's all because a hassel... we pay lots of money in gas to get hm and lots of money on child support.....
I am just SICK of having to put out money for this. I guess I should have thought about it before I married him, and i did, but i thought it would come easier to me after a while and it just hasnt needless to say I AM SICK OF IT. I feel bad for being selfish...
Any one hate their exs kids???"

^Your OP. Don't try to change what you said now.

I don't how hating the "situation" and be confused with "Any one hate their exs kids???"